I'm an aquarian girl. First & foremost that I want to tell you here is. There's no one would understand your aquarius girl more than me. Its obvious cause I'm an aquarian too. Ask other aquarian girls too. We understand her totally.
What she wants is the STRENGH & the CONFIDENCE, the LIFETIME GUARANTEE from you. That you would absolutely give everything you would give to save your relationship with her. Believe me she DO LOVE YOU SO MUCH FROM HER HEART. This could be proved by the way she admitted how she's angry when you said about a reconcile with your wife.
She's afraid of losing you. Afraid of any possibilities that you might leave her alone half-way. After the decisions she makes to be with you. To endure any circumstances and difficulties together. TOGETHER. NOT ALONE. You must understand. We air signs have soooo much in our mind. We would think of any possibilities. But the truth that we do love you. Is not, stressly said, IT IS NOT A LIE. Its truly from our deepest & pure heart.
She knew being with you will throw her away from he comfort zone. But she knows above all, all she ever wanted is to be with you. She was just afraid. Just like you had said in previous post : you are afraid that she might run & leave you half-way. (sorry, I'm not sure if I'm using correct words) She too. Afraid that you might leave her half-way.
All she wanted is for you to tell her. That you would never give up with this relationship. We will keep going. Until the end of our life. We will confront this together. I will never let you do this alone.
And I know. You as a Sagittarius. You just don't speak. But you just do it. That's what makes us aquarius crazy about you. Your act shows your feelings. Its just that, we need something that can prove how committed you are.
The fact is, both aqua & sagit is being cautious towards another. Both are afraid of losing each other. Both are afraid of commitments. The different is, when an aqua is in love. She/he is devoted almost 100%. But as for you, as I read in previous post. You are planning to catch some other soulmate other than your aqua girl. If she read that one I bet she'll be totally hurt. & would make a decision to LEAVE YOU for JUST THAT STUPID THINKING OF YOU. "find someone else rather than her"
I'm sorry for being so emotional. Its just I'm having as close as intense relationship as you & your aquarian girl with my sagittarius man.
I know sometimes he do need his quality time alone. But every time I left him to think. I became afraid. Afraid that he might change his decision. He might left me all alone again. We have been on & off for almost about 6 years. The moment he left me had mad he almost mad. Devastated.
But deep in my heart. I dunno. I just believe we are soulmate. I just hoped that wherever he is. Whenever he is tired of playing. When he thought to coming home. I was the one he would come for. I want to be his HOME. ~ and this is what exactly how your Aquarius girl feel towards you.
& the saying that she don't want you to have any woman instead of her & your wife is true. Don't make a joke about it. She's not joking. She wants you to be hers. All of you. No one can have you. But if she knows that you're hurt because of her. That would be the most hurtful for her.
I was afraid the moment you said it was you the one who always pursue her. That she keeps push & pull. I was afraid that you might lose your interest to her when things turns to when it was her the one who pursue you now.
Its just her feeling of insecurity she was that way. (push & pull games) She's afraid that if she keeps hanging around with you. She might fall over head for you. & she might can never let you go again.
But to be fair enough. I think you should give your wife just one last chance. Just think about how you guys end up marrying each other. There must be a good reason why you guys make a decision to get married right? Find that sparkle again. It's not just your wife fault. Fault should be on both side.
For you aquarius girl. We are known as people who cares for humanity. She might be the one who hurt the most if she knows that you would want to give your wife a chance. But believe me. She must have agreed with me. That your wife should be given another chance. But ONLY JUST ONE CHANCE ok. If she agrees, she would feel almost 100% insecurity. But believe me. She's just trying to be fair. IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT SHE WANTS TO LET YOU GO! If she doesn't agreed with it. She was just being selfish cause she's afraid to lose you. Above all, SHE LOVES YOU SO MUCH.
I hope you would make a good decision.