Wow! thanks Aquaduct that’s comforting to hear. my husband made me feel I was the one being unreasonable, because I refused the over nights visits with our son. He sees him once a week for several hours I’ve lost 20lbs and many sleepless nights over this issue for what is now a 3 months separation. He now has his friends and family believing I was cheating because I admitted to the phone calls to my friend. Therefore, it now looks as if he entered into this relationship because of my unfaithful ways. These three months have been hard on me and as a result just as hard on my family. I have started seeing a therapist who said to me my husband needs to seek therapy. I now go to help myself to get over these feeling of betrayal and abandonment. I am preparing now to go thur the divorce because I don't see a good outcome.