Wtf? Engaged?? So.... then... either that's a ploy for attention, or he had a very serious relationship on the side. Either way, a douchey move.

Hahaha I wish this website had a "like" feature for some of these comments.

I didn't have the connection with my ex husband either. He had an Aquarian Venus. I will NEVER date/marry a man again with heavy Aqua in his chart. Waaaaaay too aloof for a Scorpio.

That's pretty interesting, and it shows that he is really affecting you to your core. Maybe you guys have a bit of a telepathic connection.

It's funny, because I actually try to have dreams of mine, and its only happened twice. In one, I was sitting at his house, waiting for him in his living room. His wife and kids were playing, and it was as though I was invisible. A fly on the wall, watching.. in a place I did not belong. The other dream was also brief. I was at home, and my doorbell rang. I answered, and it was him. As soon as I answered the door, he leaned in and kissed me. He said, I told you I'd come for you. Then I woke up.

I do have the feeling that there is unfinished business, but with all of this silence I think the only thing left to do is assume he isn't coming back.

Still nothing from mine. Two months tomorrow.. I think its safe to say my Virgo saga is over.

4 days later, have you still held strong? I know how hard it must be to resist, especially if he's still been trying.

Lol Totitoti mine was brutal for that

Yes Jenever, this thread is amazing. It apparently took on a bit of a life of it's own, but I am overwhelmed by all the stories. You inadvertently helped so many lost, confused, broken women.

In all of this, one thing that I didn't see as a theme was the Virgo that never actually meets with you. It's pretty confusing, and I wish I had answers why mine never did. At times I wondered if the mental/emotional affair was simply enough for him. I have deleted all sign of him from my life though. Unless he returns, I'm emotionally ready to move on.

I kind of expect the same reaction to the inconsistency call outs, that's why I'm the type to just mentally note them. I let it rack up, and bide my time. If the perfect opportunity presents itself to "strike" then I take it. I bet many a man (including him) has thought they've gotten one over on me in my life, lol.

I think you're right that it's for the better it never became physical. Everything would have been more complicated, including my feelings of guilt. I won't lie, I hope he does think about it often. Even through all of this, he drives me crazy. I think about him all day long, and that's what drove me to the internet seeking answers. No man has ever had this effect on me before. I still have not decided how I'll handle it if he does come back, though I lean towards doubting he will. I did not mix words about my opinion of his behavior.

Forgive me if you answered this somewhere in all of these pages, but what was the catalyst when the divorce actually happened?

Side note, I have another Virgo story. It's not my Virgo, but it does weigh on my mind and might offer other women yet another example of what some of these men are capable of. My best friend married a Virgo man roughly two years ago. She is a Capricorn. He was her dream man. He was so sensitive, and thoughtful, and caring, and romantic. Then she got sick about a year into their marriage, and he changed. He stopped being as thoughtful, and started nitpicking her. Then one day while she was at work, she was overcome by a hunch. She just had this feeling he was up to something. She got into his phone logs, and an application he had on his phone that tracked his location. She comes to find out her husband, her perfect partner, had been on dating sites for months. Not only that, he had been taking time while she was at doctor's appointments to go have sexual relations with random women. And the women he was cheating on her with blew us away. My best friend is a very fit, and extremely attractive woman, and he was clearly an equal opportunity serial offender. She went through his phone and found that he has been carrying on with affairs of some kind with well over 15 different women. Sending them nudes.. receiving nudes from them.. meeting some.. flirting heavily with all. Sorry if this is rambling, its a lot to remember and fit neatly into one little paragraph. She busted him and told his entire family, and all of his friends. He managed to twist it around with all of them, and make her look like the bad guy for snooping through all of his stuff and dragging them into it. Four months later, and they are still together. However, every time he claims he will be better and walk the straight and narrow path, she busts him doing something else behind her back. He always manages to twist it. Always. She's in a situation where she wants to just wash her hands of him, but her daughter is extremely attached. She's decided to remain in her f'ed up marriage for now and try to make it work. All I can do is shake my head and wonder.

My god! No wonder you've been looking into psychopathy. That is one of the craziest stories I've ever read. Have you ever flat out called him on any of those lies? When I nailed my Virgo, he owned up to it and apologized.

As of now, I still see a pure heart in my Virgo, but the white lies and your story have definitely been noted. I've given him a little leeway so far because I think he just doesn't realize what an understanding person I am. I don't need the bells and whistles.. a simple "can't talk now" is sufficient, given the situation I've found myself in.

As for the wife, there are times I do feel guilty. I've seen pictures of her, and she appears very sweet and undeserving of what goes on behind her back. I try to tell myself I owe a stranger nothing, but my wall of narcissism can only hold for so long. I'm a very strong person, and if I have to face the music for the part in this I've played, then so be it. I did try to resist, but at the end of the day, I am human. I make mistakes with the best of them.

I'm also fresh from a divorce, and I understand how miserable feeling trapped in a marriage can be. Had my situation not played out the way it did, I would be stuck in an extremely unhappy marriage for perhaps the remainder of my life. I guess that has also weighed into my forgiveness.

Ooooh man, Jen. This in particular really resonated with me - "My Virgo figured out that I would rarely question anything he said that had to do with his kids. I would never put my desires over the needs of his children. So that became his favorite source of lies whenever he ignored me or stood me up. Even after he divorced these excuses kept going. And then I began to realize, "hey, isn't it weird that this is the same excuse he had two months ago..."

It's quite funny that he had already tried pulling that same thing on me. A few times, actually. I'm a Scorpio, so I am extremely observant. I pay attention to every word, and store it in my memory banks for later comparison when they slip up. I have a Mercury in Scorpio as well so I fancy myself a detective, lol. I always know when he is lying. I have only called him on it once because I like to be completely certain first, but I have picked up on little lies like that involving his children. So it's especially interesting you pointed out that yours did that as well.