Some times as we are young we make choices that are for the time. To be in love with a person all those years and then having them pop back into your life by your choice is something that you decided to do. Are you being fair to both men, are you being fair to you? I know in my heart that if I was in your situation I would do some deep soul searching and really think about what you need in your life, no one else. Get rid of the out side voices and listen to your inside. You only have this life to live right now, don't live in the past that is gone, don't live in the future there is no control of that, and live in the now. The now is always perfect. You need to find out why you are unhappy, why have you held on to this Mr. T all these years, realize that after all these years things change, people change, situations change, do you really want to spend the rest of your life living unhappily. Again its not about everyone else but about your self and where you want to be in the next 5 years. Set goals because they will help you, the first one is to be happy for next year I need to do what? Remember that if you live your life in this state that your body will tell you that it is not happy. I truly believe that you have to be in balance physically, mentally, spiritually and then you will be able to make any decisions in your life. I hope that you will find this in your journey, Love, Light and Hope.