Aquagrrl82 --> IDK what to tell you luv. My experience w/ Cancer men hasn't been that great. Sophmore year I had a crush on one who lived in the burbs and I was crazy about him, even tho all we did was talk on the phone. It didn't work out by default cuz of the distance factor. I went on a date w/ another Cancer a few months ago but it actually didn't impress me that much. He is cute -but the conversation is rarely deeply interesting. he has a lady now n it's kewl cuz I moved on too.
All I can tell you is you seem like an intelligent woman who is on top of her stuff -why do you allow yourself to be treated like a bootycall by this dude?? You deserve better. There is no magical equation to fall out of love with somebody. I mean if you can truly see it's not gonna go anywhere, you have accepted that fact, and you just wanna have some fun, then by all means keep hooking up -just keep your options open. But if this arrangement is starting to hurt you, and damage you emotionally, you need to consciously choose to get out now while you are still ahead. It's gonna hurt like hell but you just gotta be strong so you can take care of you, because if he isn't your man he doesn't deserve to come first, -you should be #1 in YOUR life. You just have to make a conscious choice to say "NO!" and tell him how you feel next time he tries to charm you into intimacy, this is the only way you are gonna be able to see his true intentions. Passion is strong, but as an Aquarius I know you are stronger. You just need to believe it as well. You have to consciously decide "You know what? I deserve better. I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect cuz I am a damn good woman. One who deserves a man who is gonna be as good to me as I am to him." He will either melt hopelessly into your arms for being strong and standing up for yourself, or he will give you the cold shoulder. If he melts hopelessly into your arms then congratulations I hope you guys are very happy together -BUT- if he gives you the cold shoulder then obviously he doesn't care for you the way you care for him so he isn't worth your time. Time is a precious thing, it's something you don't want to waste, because time is something you can't get back. And eventually if you keep going about doing what you are doing in time the person you are gonna become angry at is yourself, and you shouldn't have to feel lousy. Why allow yourself to hit rock bottom unnecessarily??
Butterflykyss --> Oh my that is heartbreakingly tragic. I wish I knew what to say. My mom (Also an Aries and almost an Aries Taurus -Apr 18 1965-) had issues with the intrusiveness of my father's family as well during the 16 years of their marriage. They weren't intentionally trying to create a rift between my parents but they did and she still isn't over it. If she was I'd ask her and then tell you what she says, but she is still scarred and scorned. But I can say this, trust me -you are more then good enough for the man you love. You wanna know a secret -His dear precious Scorpio mommy knows it as well but she doesn't wanna lose her precious little baby boy. She can't see that he is a man now who is capable of making his own decision -but trust me your husband is just as much to blame for these issues as his mother b/c he had the power to stand up to her and tell her to back off. And as beautiful and romantic as your page was, you are not completely innocent either. I know how headstrong an Aries can be, your pushed him away with your insecurity.
But I can tell you the oneness was real. Because Your spirit has been broken, in turn this has broken his spirit as well. Remember half of all of who he is belongs to you. You need to learn to love yourself again, you need to find happiness and peace within yourself and he needs to step up to the plate and stand up to his mother once and for all. Chances are she is never gonna change her mind about you, you can't let it bring you down. I know how hard that is b/c if you love him you want the acceptance of someone who is also very important to him. You want her blinders to come off and you want her biases gone so she can see the beautiful person you truly are. You want her to respect you as her son's wife and as the mother of her grandchild but chances are she is also very damaged and hurt.
Her son may be all she has and b/c of it she is holding on to him -more tightly then she should be. All she knows how to do is relate to people thru cruelty b/c chances are that is all that she knows. She is a tortured and tormented soul and even tho she doesn't deserve your compassion or understanding show as much of it as you can without letting her continue to trample all over your relationship with your true love.
I promise you, you are beautiful, please remember that and take small steps towards becoming the amazing woman you truly are. Find something for yourself that reminds you of this. Remember how strong you are, and when you are ready tell your man everything you have just shared with us with tell him how you feel. Show him the love of his life is still there. You aren't an empty shell yet, just in pain. Be brave and hold nothing back -in one of those moments you feel him yearning for you after you have gotten stronger again, don't be afraid to put it all out on the line. If things don't go as planned you will survive, you'll be in excruciating pain for some time, but you will come to accept things as they are and slowly you will heal. The people who care about you will be right there at your side with you.
(Pisces Sun & Mercury, Libra Moon, Venus & Mars Aquarius, Leo Rising)