My friend married a Gemini. and she is a Scorpio. They got married but it just not working, she seems to be like you, he is good to her financially but he cant commit although they are married. Before they got married for the Scorpio the signs were there but she ignore them, when a woman called her and told about her relationship with the Gemini, but my friend still married him, but they dont even live together, he cant deal with her stability, she regrets the marriage, but they just dont see things the same way, although he continue to apolozie for his unfaithfulness but after a week or two he back at it again. My advice is to take it slow and pray that God will show you if he's the one, dont let emotions get in the way. Dont do the instant relationship, date others before you make your deision ,take you time. Time tells everything, even if he's the right one for you in time you will know. I hope everything work out for you. I too lost my first husband, but it been 18 years ago, so I know and understand the lonely and longing for the same kind of relationship you had, but things are different now for you. You got to learn a whole different way of life, so take your time. You may not even be ready yet, especially if you seeking what you had when your husband was alive, you may be looking for your husband in him and that's not good for you nor him, take care. I been there.