My husband and I are both Scorpios and have been married for 27 years.
It's always surprised me, a very "old" Scorpio, and at time has really pissed me off that he, a very "young" Scorpio, has no secrets and will tell anybody everything about our lives, no holding back. Me, I definitely have that Scorpio trait of believing my life is nobody's business but mine and maybe, after I know you for a couple of years, I'll gradually open up. BUT he cannot stand for anyone, even family, to show up at our door unless they have called and made arrangements to stop by; he slams into them about how rude it is to just drop by on people. Me, I could care less - hey people stop by to see you what’s the problem? It’s not like they want to move in, their just stopping by.
I wanted to give those examples of how different people project different accepts of their Sun sign, there’s so much more planetary influence on who you are.
You need to have both your natal charts done. When I did, I found out my husband has a very strong influence of chatty Leo in Mercury so he just can’t help spilling his life story out to anyone who wants to know! Me, I have Taurus as ruler of my 4th house so having people in my home is not only ok I actually enjoy taking care of them.
The old saying “Don’t judge a book by its cover” applies to astrology big time; “Don’t judge a soul by their Sun sign.”