This is for KarenH61. I was born 6-30-65 at 6:30 pm. I work as a HHA for a Home Health Company and I care for the elderly. I understand how hard it is for a family member to br the full time caregiver to a parent or partner. I see this everyday in my job. It can be very isolating and you do feel cut off from everyone because of the demands of careing for your mom.
Im dont know what state your in, but if you dont already have a home health co. coming in, open your phone book and find one. They can provide services covered by Medicare that will be a big help to you. Each company provides different things, so interveiw several till you find a good one.
There is even Hospice, and that isent only for people on their death bed. Ive known people on Hospice care for years and they can provide alot of help for people and their families.
Go to the internet and find out if your state offers any state funded provider care. That is people to stay w/ your mom for a few hours a day/week so you can have a break. Go grocery shopping, get your hair done, ect.
There are also people who charge hourly to stay and do the same. They are called private sitters/companions but if your finances cant handle this extra expence, I understand!!
Last but not least, talk to your mom's doctor or look in your local newspaper for Alziemer Groups. They are for caregivers to vent and learn from others going thru the same experiences. I think that would help you alot.
Maybe once you dot feel so alone on the caregiver frount, You will have time to put your personal romantic life in perspective. As for the jerk who took advantage of you and left you high and dry....What goes around ALWAYS comes around. He'll get his!!! Thats Karma and its true!!!!
I hope this info can help and I wish you the best!