I am thankful for the breath I take, the friends I make, and the chance to do for someone else's sake.

I am thankful for the breath I take, the friends I make, and the chance to do for someone else's sake.

I for one would love to see the site kick them off. Or at LEAST have one spot for them. Come on Admin, do your job and police the blog. Many of these posters HIRE people to do nothing but find blogs to advertise on. The Internet is becoming polluted! We need your help to clean it up!

I have already contacted this site directly to complain. YOU NEED TO DO THE SAME to correct this blight on our site. Tell them, 'I AM MAD AS HELL AND I AM NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANY MORE!" We spend the money here, not these advertising wannabes.

I have commented here before on other Cancer men, so you may know that I think they are wonderful.... Except For This ONE.

Please, please, please, please tell him he is married now and that he has made his choice. Tell him to call you when he is over this "rush Job" he got himself into. He has issues HE needs to work out before you and he could ever have anything together. He is not only toying with your life, but the life of his children and the life of this woman!

Think about it. He married her quickly because his Mother wanted him to?? Very mature. I am sure you stay up nights lying in bed praying for a man that has no backbone to make important life decisions with.

He was telling you in the beginning that he did not want a relationship but then turned around and married this lady all of a sudden. That translates into " I am getting married, My mother wants me to have a mother for my girls. I had already asked her before I met you and I can't disappoint her or mother, and if I tell you this you may make it easy for me and walk away." "The sex with you was great, and my ego likes the way you treat me, so I am going to keep you as a safety net."

I know this sounds harsh, and I wish like heck I didn't need to say it, but you need to hear it, taste it, smell it, and breath it. You need to walk away from this man no matter how amazing and wonderful he seams to be to you. If you don't you will have heart ake and pain over being the "Other Woman" in this mans life. No good can come of this situation and I know, deep down inside, you know it to. You and I are both Gemini's, we live life by looking to the possibilities of situations. In fact, the more impossible a situation is the more we try to look at it and see how we can put a positive spin on it to make it come out to our advantage. You can't kid a kidder, I know how we are.

This time though, it is your survival that depends on a clear head out of the clouds and down on the dry land. Look at the facts, write them down if you have to so they are in front of you. Doesn't it bother you just a little that this man chose another to be his number one over you and is now asking you to hang around and stay in the shadows because he feels close to you.

I know it is amazing to be in this man's gravitational pull. I know how he makes you feel. Once beguiled by a Cancer you want more. HOWEVER...You can, I repeat, CAN find another Cancer man. The ocean is full of crabs that need love and affection from you. Men that DESERVE to have you. Men that are truly good enough for you to give the time of day to. This one needs more than any woman will be able to give him. He is want is known as the dark side of his sign, he has many things to work out while he is here in this lifetime. You were brought into his life for a reason and it could be nothing more than to make him see that he needs to grow up, grow a pair, and stop hurting other people. (go back and re read this paragraph again, and when you get to this line, go back and re read that paragraph again, and again and again until it sinks in, O.K.?)

You didn't say why his first marriage broke up, but I have to wonder if it wasn't his lack of commitment?

There are GOOD men out there, honest! I know it gets old looking for them, but YOU deserve so much more than he can ever give. Pleas be good to yourself and believe you deserve only the best...because you do.

Blessings to you that you find the strength to do what you need to do.

Your Sister Gemini

Oh my, what is it with us Gem's and Cancers! Do you think its because we never know who we are going to be talking to when they come in the room and we like variety?

I have a cancer man myself. (I am 6/14 and he is 7/04) He has a lot of Gemini in his chart and I have a lot of Cancer, If you run some of the free compatibility reports here you will find out that, yes this pairing can work, but it can take some work too. But then, the best things in life are hard work to acquire.

The challenge is right up your Gemini alley. Trying to figure him out was fun and kept me interested in the beginning while he was sending "I want you" signals and not really acting on them. I can't tell you how many times I felt rejected and neglected, only to realise I wasn't being any of those things, he was just taking time to regenerate himself.

Your potential long distance relationship could be just what you need to get this newest Gemini/Cancer pairing off to a good running start. You can let him know you are truly interested in him, his feelings, his thoughts and mind. Find reasons to call and e mail once a week at least, and visit once a month or so. Find out what he likes, and do little things for him. This is what tells him you are interested and thinking about him. They love that. In fact, they love to be in love. They love to be a couple, they love to cuddle, and lavish affection. You will never know a better lover and friend I promise you. It's the getting to that part that is hard.

If you say to him, "you know what would make me happy? Talking to you and e mailing on a regular basis, because you brighten my day so much when we do." He will be thrilled to make you happy. this is step one in getting his attention.

Tell him you are so glad to be friends with him. (friends are not threatening to the heart, girlfriends are) start s l o w with him (something we Gemini's are not used to doing right?) We can size up a person and know POW potential boy friend material, but these guys, sigh, we have to let them see for them selves that we won't hurt them and we are good for them.

You mentioned he had an x girlfriend. was he the dumpee or the dumped? If he was happy and she left, it will take a little longer for him to let you in. But Oh My My, when he does it's wonderful in there. It is (at least to my thinking) what every woman wants from a man and more.

I do have to throw a caution to you. Cancer men have the potential to be clinging and jealous. If he is this way, you may want to search for another cancer that has that part of his personality under control. Lucky for me, mine was that way when he was in his 20's but has since realised that women don't really like whiny little kids. (lucky me)

I read every book, ran every forecast on this site, and generally made it my business to know what his nature was like. It helped, and so I am passing that advice on to you. Find out his birth time and city as you will need this for a more accurate forecast.

May the heavens smile on you, may you find your true love.

I did read all your posts, and all I have to say is "You Go Girl!"

I turned 55 in June, and he turned 33 in July. I have known him since he was 29. We worked for the same company. Our relationship evolved slowly, totally friends at first. I was still married in name although like you, not married in any other way. My friend was a way to reconnect to the world and life. Neither of us were looking for love. However it found us, and there is no escaping that.

Sure, I worry about our future. I look good now, but looks fade. Is he going to be happy with me when I am 65 and he is 43? I have no idea. I only know that the life I WAS living was slowly killing me and I didn't even know it. Now I enjoy better health, a better attitude about life, and I finally put myself first in my life.

I have two adult children, one is 29 and one is his age of 33. Yes, it freaked them out at first. They wondered what had gotten into me that I was acting like a complete fool seeing a man that could be my son. But, you must understand that our children have set ideas about us parents that are almost universal. Mom and Dad will always be there just as they are today. We are not people to them, we are the parents, always strong and always watching over them. Any changes to that thought process makes them feel a bit abandoned. They do overcome it when they see we mean what we say, and are happy in our choices. Unless your children have bigger issues with you, they too will come to cope with the situation. So take heart, they are family and family is always yours.

Sure, he had friends asking him if he was crazy seeing me. what's wrong with you that you can't get someone your own age? Won't normal women have you? Hey, I even have to deal with his mom! She is only 13 years older than I am yet acts like she is older because she is closed minded about everything. (She is the only person that does not know he and I are together, and because of that she and I are the best of friends.)

Anyway, his friends got to him for a bit. He dated other women his age, but always came back to our friendship because it played no head games. Older women know what they want and are realistic about it. Try googling "older woman younger man" I did when it first all came about and I found out that we are not alone. There is a trend and it is not uncommon for our situation to happen. In fact, studies are being conducted into just that very phenomenon. Society changes in slow subtle ways. Older men younger women are many times money and status involved. Older women younger men are many times emotionally involved. I like that, because he wants me for who I am and nothing else. I have found out that I am a rather dynamic and wonderful woman. If that was the only reason he and I were brought together on this earth, then it was worth it.

I do hope it lasts to the end of days, but if it doesn't, after I get over the loss of him I will have some rather fantastic stories to reminisce about one day.

Don't let fear stop you, you let fear stop you all the time with your husband. Live a little, feel a little, and keep your money your own and you will be on top of the world with no one to stop you.

Best of love and light to you my dear woman, you are an inspiration for people you will never even know.

Hello dovescry,

I had weighed in about my Cancer man on another page a little while back, but since I love him and love to talk about him I thought I would add my two cents.

I too am 55, and my honey is 21 years my Jr. I am a Gemini as my screen name implies. My Cancer is the messiest perfectionist I have ever known. Things he does, like setting up the screen for the projector, an art project, hanging a picture, all have to be exact or he is not happy. However the shoes, everywhere. The bed, lucky to have the sheet tucked in the bottom. The close on the floor and things under them to trip on, the same as 2knowmeis2luvme's problem. Closets are stuffed with clothing that is so old he can't ware them any more. And you can't clean his messes up because he has to be the one to take care of it. Its just getting him motivated enough to do it that's hard. Once he is, he works dilagently on the project. He is not lazy, he just likes to relax when he is home, as he puts it. So, yes, I believe these are traits that all Cancers have in them. The trick is, as I have found it, is to let him know that his messiness affects you in a negative way. Again, like 2k..is2luv.., when she told him it hurt her to trip on the shoe, he changed and made sure it would not hurt her any more. The last thing a Cancer man wants to do is cause the object of their affection pain or discomfort. So let them know that the thing you can't stand the most is affecting how you feel and you will see a change.

On the Loving part. Sure, many times I have to be the one to get him going. But hey, it is worth the effort when he gets the message. He is the most tender and passionate man I have ever been with. He makes sure I get mine before he lets himself get his every time. He feels it is his duty to me to make sure I enjoy this activity with him as much as he does. And the funniest things get him going too. I am a terrible cook, (so he does most of it when we eat together- we are not living at the same place) however when I cook for him he adores it. when I light candles and put on soft music for a romantic touch, well let it suffice to say he can't get enough of me.

Cancers love to be loved. It is the plain and simple truth. Perhaps some of that Blah you mentioned in your post isn't blah, its just his needing you to do the little love things for him. They love to cuddle, give and get baby kisses, and hear how wonderful they are to you. They need to be appreciated more than any other sign in the zodiac I think. Stroke his ego, touch his arm gently when you do. Hold his gaze when he is talking like nothing else in the world could be more important or more interesting than what he is saying. See if little things like this can help your situation. Cancers are so deep, and so protective of themselves and of being hurt that it can be hard to get through to them even when you have decided to become a couple. One might think once you are together as a unit, you shouldn't have to prove yourself to them any longer. However with your Cancer, becoming a couple is just the beginning of proving yourself to them.

And lastly, the best advice I can give to any one is get your hands on some books about Cancers, get some of the compatibility charts done here on this site. (they truly are very good and very accurate) and pay attention to what it says about what he needs and what you need. I have actually become addicted to the thrill I get when he looks at me like I am the most amazing person in the world and why am I so good to him like I am. And, I am good to him because I took the time to know what he needs from me.

Good luck with your man. I hope it all turns out good for you because they truly are amazing men.

KarmaKutie,

If you can stand just one more comment on Cancers. Like you I am born on June 14th, and like you am seeing a Cancer man. Something went "Wow" in my head the first time I talked to him, and I just knew he was the one for me. That was soon 4 years ago. It has been a long slow process, but we are now beautifully close in our hearts. We started much like you and yours, got together, had the hots for each other (didn't get to do anything about it but boy did we flirt with each other) and then he went into his little crab cave and hid from me. It turned out I was the first woman he had even tried to be close to in 5 years since his last girlfriend dumped him.

I knew none of this then. All I knew was we had a potential and he cut it off at the knees for no particular reason. I backed off, but first I let him know he had hurt my feelings deeply because here I thought I had found (at the very least) a friend that could relate to and with me. I said that it hurt that he thought he could not keep it as friends. Soon after that I got let go at my job, and I e mailed him to say I needed a friend to talk to and hoped he would listen. I said that even though we had known each other a short time I felt safe around him and as if I could open up. I said I needed to open up to someone that cares about what I am saying.

He did. Cancer needs to be needed. They can summon up all kinds of courage when they are needed. (I did not know this at the time) So he forgot his fear of me (I was someone that could hurt him really badly if I wanted to, that was how attracted to me he was.) He let me talk, vent, cry and blow my nose. He spoke encouraging words and made me laugh. I told him I loved the fact that he could make me laugh even though I was so upset. I thanked him for taking the time to see me, that it meant a lot to me and it had helped. I went home and didn't expect to hear from him again really.

Well the next day I got a call to see how I was, and asked to attend a "music-in-the-park" kind of thing he loves going to. I accepted and that whole first year, we flirted but I kept it light and friendly and playful. I was just enjoying being with him so darn much. I always felt on top of the world when I knew I would see him, and for days after our "non-dates" were over. I reassured him that I appreciated his kindness and generosity, that this friendship had come to mean so much to me that I didn't want to loose the friendship ever, especially if taking the flirting further meant that he would back off from me. He escalated his flirting and innuendo. (now, I have to add here that in that first year he would get moody all of a sudden and push me away emotionally. I would let him be, and go on about my life. Perhaps send him a thinking of you card, or an e mail about something funny I knew he would appreciate, but I didn't do more than let him know I was there, when he was ready to come out of his cave and play again. And he would, and he would be all fired up to see me and we would grow a little closer then we were before. At first his actions floored me, I understand logic, and he was all emotions! The way he was with me one minuet and different the next some days just didn't make any sense. BUT...something, a still quiet voice in my mind kept telling me to "be patient", "be there for him", It was like he was a child, happy to see me but scared I would hurt him, and when he got too happy with me was when he got the most scared. And, I gotta tell you, NOT letting things get physical was the HARDEST thing I had ever made myself do. I so wanted him. I just knew he would be a fantastic lover, I just knew it as if I had made love to him before in another life.

Well, about a year into our platonic relationship it came up that I had won a trip out of town to a fancy dress ball. I asked him to come with me and told him I was not expecting any thing from him other than to be my escort to this thing. That he could share the room I won, and that I would be happy to sleep on the sofa. (It was a suite in a swank hotel) He was fine with that, and when we got to the room he was a gentleman and told me to take the bedroom. We dressed for the ball, went out and had a fabulous time. We came back and there flowers in the room and chilled champagne, and an exotic cheese plate and chocolate covered strawberries. I thought it was from the contest, till I read the card on the flowers. It said "I'd love to lay beside you and gaze into your eyes all night long if you would let me." I just looked at him and he led me to the bedroom where the bed was covered in rose petals and candles were lit! It was THE most romantic thing I had ever had happen to me, and as I fell into his arms and we kissed, I knew I had been patient for the right man. (he later told me he did all of this when I thought he was getting the ice bucket filled, that he made a mad dash down to the concierge and had it all arranged to be ready when we got back)

I have to add here, it was not all sunshine and flowers after that night (however, I was right knowing he would be an amazing and caring lover) He had his moody days that I didn't understand but let him have without question. I tell him I understand that this is just the way he is, and that he is always to be who he is. I have noticed that the moodiness lasts less and less periods of time as we grow in our relationship. He and I have our own places, and that works for us now. Down the road we may live together, but not until I know he trusts me completely. He still feels that this is too good to be true. I know because after all this time he said to me just a few weeks ago. "I know you won't understand this, but you aren't just out to get what you need from me and just leave are you? Your not that kind of person right?"

Wow, my first instinct was to be mad and come back with "You don't know a thing about who I am do you!" But again, that voice said, just let him talk, and then tell him that he is the only one you want, and then prove it by sticking around for the rest of your lives.

And I was right, see we talked that night, and he finally expressed his fears of my leaving him, that he wasn't enough for me because he never was enough for any woman before me. He told me he pulls away because he gets ready for me to dump him, and then it never happens and he feels happy and safe again, only to be even more afraid of loosing me.

To conclude, read everything you can about Cancer men. (No offence, but Cancer women are a little different than Cancer men to all you Cancer ladies out there) Read about it on this site, buy the reports, they are excellent here. Go to other sites and read some of the free reports there. Go to the library and read the books, find out everything you can about this moody breed. They love to love, love to be needed, love to do things for you, to you and with you. They would love to be able to go beneath your skin with you in order to be a little bit closer if they could. If they make love to you, they have you with them forever, even if you leave them. Mine still talks about his ex's, not as much any more but from time to time. He still can't believe that I don't care if he keeps pictures of them. I don't care, they were a part of his life once, who am I to say get rid of them and never think of them. It is because of them that I have this fantastic man!

I hope you will tell us all in the future how it works out for you two. I hope you have one of the best love stories ever known. Be positive in your thoughts of he and you, don't let doubt creep in as it can destroy the positive energy you need to bring him into your circle. Listen to your quiet voice about what you need to do with and for him. Let him know his friendship (which is him) is the most important thing to you and that you miss laughing and talking with him. Go to his restaurant with a girlfriend soon, compliment him on the food you were served, the service, the clean ladies room, all of it. This is part of him, he wants you to know what he is all about, he just can't tell you himself. Don't be shy if you see him, smile your "I am so happy to see you" smile. If you see him out, talk to him, and if you feel you must run away because you feel awkward, call, e mail or write to him and tell him why you left in a hurry. Tell him you dont' want him to think your stalking him but that it sure was good to see him there. Use our Greatest asset as a Gemini and charm, charm, charm, him. You are wonderful with words, I can see that in your postings, use them, they are soothing comforting things to a Cancer almost like music. Stroke his ego when you can truthfully, he has been crushed by a woman, and only a woman will make him feel worth while again.

I agree, keep your self busy, and dating, but let him know none of them measure up to the enjoyment you had with him (if it is true) You can't be all in Cancers face, but you must let them know how wonderful they make you feel.

again, good luck...sorry this was long and rambling.

I think the coin is an artists conception of what a Karma Coin would look like if indeed one existed. However, if any inspiration came from something in actual life, I would have to guess it was seen on a shield. Besides, what would be better for KC to look like than a shield. He IS the protector of Karma everywhere!

I just about Glossed over that one, but thanks for the "G" input.