TaurusFemmeFatale, I don't think he's selfish or egocentric. I just don't really understand why he backed off all of a sudden cos I thought it was great. I'm very good at making people feel great about themselves, I was always paying him compliments. He was very much into meeting again and then it just changed. Perhaps due to me saying I might have a date that week? I dunno, he certainly changed even more the next day after that chat.
I never went on that date bytheway but nowadays the few chats we do have are so cold and short I can't even talk about things like that. We just talk rugby and music
The question is now do I need to back off, give him some time, and when would it be best - considering we used to chat every day then moved to 2-3 times a week - to contact him again and how can I suggest meeting again? I know he enjoyed last time, he was going on about it for ages, and I still want the next time to happen, just not sure how to approach it now since he asked we don't talk about sex anymore or future planning (by future planning I think he just meant the dirty chats we'll have about what we'll do, so I dunno if that means he also doesn't want to meet at all.. cos honestly if he doesn't I'd just say bye and delete him).
I wanted to either send him a very direct yet fun message to give him a taste of how we used to be, and hope he'll want to meet, but that could sound a little desperate (I don't mind showing it if anyone can give me their opinion) and then I dunno, maybe I should be more vague.