I'm a Scorpio and I hate when people who are spending time with me or the family, get on the phone. I pulled my car over and made one of my daughters friends get off her phone in my car because she was WITH friends, she didn't need to be on the phone. Car rule: no phones. My boyfriend has two exceptions, his mom and his 92 year old Grandma!
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RE: Aries and Cancer Relationship Advice
RE: All Things Scorpio
Hello Rooster 5. I know how intense your pain can be when you feel that wave of emotion when you miss him. I am happy for you that you were able to experience that heaven sent love. I am a Scorpio woman that loves a Cancer man that went from caring to irritated and critical. I found out that there is another woman but he keeps her at an emotional distance too. I accidently found out she was who he was seeing by asking if she knew him because they had been in the same profession class, it was listed on her facebook. She didn't name him as her boyfriend in fact, she only referred to him as her friend. I also work for him sometimes, from home so I have access to all the business including flights. I've tried to let go but you know that draw that Cancers have, especially the males. Logically, I can't believe that I love a very closed mouth person that would cheat on me. I have to admit I have done some manipulative things. I usually can snap my fingers and move on to the next three but, for some reason, I feel I need to stay and fight for what I want, for him. Even if I lose him, he will know that I do love him. I will have no doubt in my mind that I did what I could to show him this. I cry and I pray a lot. I am thankful that she doesn't seem to be religious or aknowledge a higher power. I know the power of prayer and that there is a higher energy that listens and helps us. I pray too that if it's not meant to be, to let that dawning light help me heal and move on. Everytime I ask for that, I seem to get hit with a strong wave of missing him and feeling like I'm being wronged. You give me hope to every having a great love one day.
RE: All Things Scorpio
I agree, Love yourself. Get to know you. I'm not a poessive or jealous Scorpio. I figure if a man whats to be with me, he will. If not, I can snap my fingers and move on to the next three!! You know us Scorpios are magnets for the opposite sex. We can be fat and ugly and still catch!! lol. I never expect a man to be monogamous. S-e-x is one thing and love is another. Women seem to think a man has to love a woman in order to do her. He can hate her but if most of his blood is filling the lower head, that's the one in control....until after when the blood returns to the thinking head then he usually regrets it and it bothers him to the point it creeps into the "good" relationship. My thing is the cuddling, that's bonding time to me. I told my hunny, if you do her, don't cuddle and don't spend the night. I don't want to know but don't let guilt destroy our relationship.
I've broken it off with guys when I feel my emotional needs aren't being met. I don't break up in a mean nasty way. The last one I thanked him for being my friend and being there when I needed him. I wished him luck with his business. He and I HAD discussed on several occasions that I needed someone that would talk to me and wanted to spend time with me. Sameday that I broke it off with him, I met someone that loves to talk about theories and technical instrumentation. If you keep positive energy, you attract positive things!! Scorpio Magic!!
RE: What Signs Do You Attract?
I seem to go through phases where all I will attract is one certain sign. I think I've dated every sign. my own sign is the worse for me. Then Sagi's. Taurus' bring a lot of heat to the relationship but there is usually a lot of drama too. All the ones I've had in my life have had other women BEFORE me that they still go and see or actually still lived with. I liked Aries because they are very truthful. They tell everyone's business including their own, they don't mean harm by it, it's just in their nature. Virgo's have always been too self centered and not realistic for me. One that I went out with maybe 4 times in a year, asked me if I loved him. I told him I didn't love any man at the time. he asked me if I was capable of love. WHAT???!! With Gemini's it always seems that one of the twins in them like me but the other one doesn't. All the ones I got are usually habitual liars, " I talk about a thousand minutes a day!" Man didn't realize that I know that is 16 hours and 40 minutes. I've been on a Cancer streak for the last 2 years. They are different when I first met them but, there are similar traits. I say that upbringing has a LOT to do with how a person is. My 3 Cancers are totally different when it comes to being reliable. the one that has the lesser education and developed an alcohol problem, self centered. The other two are very reliable. Both have very close families, both had both of their parents in the home while they were growing up and their parents are STILL together. They both went to college and have responsible careers. One talks a lot, loves to please, loves family and wants to marry again and the other is quiet, moody, suspicious and doesn't want people to know his business and has no plans to even be in a committed relationship let alone marriage. i have figured that it's not JUST the sign for me, it's the education level and how they have been taught to treat a woman. I like African American men that are Nerds and Geeks!!
RE: How to fall out of love with a cancer man
it is very hard to break away from a Cancer. I tried and I failed. i told him I'm not even going to try, if he wants me gone, he has to do it. as of Feb. 22 2010. My Cancer and I have been involved in each others lives in one way or another for a year. First we were casual lovers and I wasn't his only one. he told me he didn't want a relationship. I didn't even THINK about him in the committed relationship way. I was dating other guys but, not sexually involved with them. They were saying they wanted a relationship with me. It is hard to establish a relationship if your not friends first, or so I thought. My Cancer blew that theory out the water! I'm a very independent person, funny and laid back but, I am a Scorpio and we have mood swings. I had one where I wanted someone to spend time with me. I called each guy that I had been dating and guess what, not ONE of them had TIME for me. One even got off the phone with me and called me a half hour later to tell me he wasn't comfortable with me being sad and that's why he couldn't talk to me. I text my Cancer to vent about men. He called and asked to come pick me up. He spent the day with me and held me all night. We didn't get intimate. I was still a little yuck the next day when I went home so he came and got me in the evening THEN we got intimate. Of course I put all those other guys under silent ring and never called them again. I dated a couple of other guys, one went to Europe with a band the other got a younger girlfriend. At that point, I told my cancer I was only going to deal with him. I used to tell him my dating stories like he was my girlfriend!!
I have also worked for my Cancer since June. I have administrative passcodes to all the business wesites. I'm on all the insurances I drive his cars, I have keys to his house when he's away.Yet, we don't have a committed relationship. He stopped seeing other women until late November or December. In December he was going from super critical and not wanting to spend time with me to volunteering to pick me up from the airport after he worked in another city, flew in 5hours before my flight was due. Yes, he came and got me, took me home and didn't stay. I live 10minutes from the airport, he lives 30. I am not a sensitive person but, he made me cry with some of the things he would say or how he acted. I felt he either was falling in love or wanted things to end. I saw his profile on a date site, i took that as a hint that he wanted it to end. I ended it though a text message. I dated a guy that wanted a relationship, took me to meet his mom on the thrid date. As fate would have it, a woman he was still in love with, decided she wanted him back. His friend told her that he found someone new. Nothing like competition to get the other person interested huh?
me and my Cancer didn't talk for a month but we emailed because of work. He text me one morning to tell me he had training materials to show me. 10minutes later, he was at my door. It was stuff he could have just emailed me. But seeing that sexy quiet, tall man after all that time...it was a good thing he didn't stay too long or I would have made a fool out of myself. For some reason, I was on the phone with him and telling him how i felt during December and the reson I broke off with him. Apparently I was WRONG in my deductions of what was going on with him but, he didn't give me any answers as to WHAT was going on with him. he just kept saying " You think you know everything, don't you?"and " well, it doesn't matter now." Midnight he started texting me and by 130, he was over here. he feels the draw to me too.
He left at 730. I was in a state of confusion. I have never had this much problem breaking off with a guy. Doesn't help when I work for him. I wrote him an email tha t " I give up, I tried to fight the draw. I'm not going to try and break off with you anymore but, I'm not going to be exclusive since you aren't either." I did go to the movies with another guy on the 13th. my Cancer spent Valentine's evening with me. laid on all 5 of my pillows so when I got back in bed, I only got a corner and HAD to lay up against him to get that. He was laying soo hard against me it felt like he was fusing himself to me. after he left. I went to sleep. I text him later. In true Cancer fashion, No response, I didn't expect one. I did get an email regarding something for work he wanted me to do. Business as usual. I found the info, sent it to him and in less then 3 minutes, he had read it. I do know he checks my personal emails to him almost as fast as I send them. AOL shows a messege status. he doesn't know that, most people don't know where to find it.
Some Cancer relationships are not conventional. he and I have learned and endured soo much about each other this past year. People usually accept more about a person that is just a friend then someone we date and look at as a potential life partner. I trust my Cancer with my life and I haven't felt that way about ANYBODY. He drives fast but I never complain! He lies to me sometimes but, I reailze they are to save face or to avoid an argument. His body language and facial expressions tell me more then words anyways. I never let on that I know. I never accuse him of lying. If I did, I'd have to reveal how I know. He would trust me less and he'd get better at lying!! lol
I feel that all this has made our bond stronger. I know he has a hard time with breaking away from me too. I know I stopped fighting the draw. He hasn't. I know if I set my mind to ignore him, I find myself sending him and email or texting like a loon!! It feels easier since I have come to accept it and see how it plays out. When I try to munipulate the fates and move on, I get sucked in like into a whirlpool or vortex. Somethings going to give but, not in my time but when it's time.
I have a date this Weds. with a fellow Scorpian who is 16 years older then me. I'm actually very comfortable with the thought because I still have my Cancer friend. I'm not trying to replace him but, his and my unrelationship has too much time space that I need to fill in. I'm interviewing gap fillers. You know the old saying "Don't put all your eggs in one basket" my Cancer basket has too many holes and other women got their hands in it but I'm not ready to throw out the basket! I let my Cancer know when I have a date. He's supposed to drive out of town on Weds. next time he talks to me, he won't ask right away but, if I don't tell him He'll ask "So how was your date?" about a week later. So I guess I'm being a dog? I'm keeping my cake and eating it too!!
RE: How to fall out of love with a cancer man
to Lawdawg; I can tell you from experience, if you KNOW she isn't the one. Let her know that you don't have those type of feelings for her. If you email or text her everyday then, when you get involved with another woman and stop cold,.....I have to say that is the worst feeling. The woman always wonders what she did wrong, what happened. At my age, I usually know it's another woman that he really was waiting on to say yes, I was just a reserve. Sometimes honesty is hurtful but, every guy that has been honest with me, I have respected him for it. Your a dog if you lead her on. Women can be dogs too. What gets me about men is, i tell them I'm pining over a Cancer male who I do the back and forth thing, like most women do with them and men want me even MORE! I figure they think I will fall into their arms to be comforted and give up the panties. i don't give up the panties. It actually makes me want my Cancer more and then I email and text him like a loon!!
It's perfectly alright to date different people for about 90days before you decide who to keep and who to lose. If after about 90days you don't see yourself wanting to move into the committed direction, it's time to move on. it was easy for me to do that until I met my Cancer too. I will put my input about that after this.
RE: Guys and texting plz help.
I got text messages frmphone numbers I didn't recognize with Merry Xmas. My response was who the He77 is this? What I had done was delete all the guys numbers that were flakes and guys I didn't make a connection with. Erasing from my phone is symbolic of breaking it off with the guy. I just didn't think that after almost a year of no contact, they hadn't erased me from their phones. I mean, after a couple of weeks or a few months, that should be a hint!!! Do I sound like some of the guys you all know? yes, I can be a Bych and guys love me! just like the A-holes women pine after. If a guy won't do me right, it's time to go!!! Ex's tell me years later, I was the best woman they had, I don't nag, I'm a positive person. When they tell me that, I think to myself " You didn't appreciate me then, it's a a lot too late now!" most were bad boys.
Girl why are you beating yourself up wit this fool?? Is he fasinating BECAUSE your family doesn't like him?? You got a CRUSH. You look at him through rose colored glasses and make fantasies involving him.One day you'll get tired of the fantasy life that you feel you COULD have with him and start looking for a real man that can give you what you want and need, in real life. I know how that works, I've turned thug bugs into caring, loyal, hard working MEN, in my fantasies before and I truly believed they could be that in real life with my help.....NOT!! Men don't really like a woman "helping" them. Besides, it's like trying to build a house when all you got is a couple of 2 by 4's and a glue gun. Just not enough!! You got to start looking for a man that has ALL the materials you need to build what you want. You know they say women get attracted to bad boys, usually as a way to rebel against their families expectations. my family always expected me to marry a lawyer or a doctor. I liked the thug guys, I liked the flirting and the way they made me feel sexy when they talked and looked at me. It's all the dance of LUS*T.
What am I dating now? a Pharmacist with a Masters in Business. My family was right. I need an intelligent old fashioned man that I can respect and trust.
RE: Hanswolfgang could you please give me a reading?
Thank you Hans. I have a suspicion that he's acting extreme because he is fighting the fact that he is falling in love with me. You know the old saying, the harder they fight, the harder they fall. And since I'm not bugging him while he's over 2 thousand miles away, I know he thinks of me and wonders what and who I might be up to. The answer: nothing and no one! But, a little insecurity is good for him!
I understand what you mean by fixing my mind. Thoughts have a life of their own and can manifest into real life if nurtured. I have been meditating on my goals and objectives. He's one of my objectives. It's just I've NEVER had a guy take soo long to fall IN love with me so, I grew impatient. I realize the time is for me to clarify to myself if I really, really want this man and will I treasure his love. I can answer that as a yes. He is the best and I will be utterly satisifed with him, that includes the mood swings!! I'm a water sign too so i know what he goes through.
Again, THANK YOU HANS!!! may next year bring you new wonderments and great joy to your being!!
RE: Pisces man blows hot and cold
Water signs seem to run hot and cold. The males seem to be the worse. They are more self centered I guess. I am a water sign amd my guy is one too. He's been really extreme in his moods the last month, I think my eyebrows have stayed in my hairline most of the time I've spent with him this month because I've been soo surprised at his response to things, soo out of character for him. He's been mushy and clingy, like he's falling in love one day (NOT like him AT all) to suspicious and critical and snapping my head off the next! I know we are sensitive to the universal currents and Pisces seem to swim in it. Sometimes, more so the males, aren't accepting of the fact that they pick up other peoples emotions and they will think that they are their own. your guy may not know himself and how to handle the inner turmoil. Mine, I'm giving him his space, there is an eclipise coming and it's supposed to effect Cancers and some other signs plus, we have another full moon this month. I don't know if he's going to be "David Banner" or 'The INCREDIBULE HULK!!" I've had my mood swings in the past year that he's put up with so, it's my turn to put up with his....
Good luck with yours but, if your not into moody men, STAY OUT THE WATER SIGNS!!
RE: Hanswolfgang could you please give me a reading?
Hello Hans, I have read your advice and philosophy on life and how we should open ourselves and our minds. I had opened myself to love and not to expect it in return and to be happy in the fact that I can love. I was going good until a man came into my life. Granted there have been several before him and hopefully, if he isn't thee one, men after him. I was born Nov.6,1963 and he was born July 10, 1963. We are both in the same growth year and have the same destiny numbers. he's a giving person, to an extent. He is also one that shields his emotions. he said, in the beginning, he didn't want a committed relationship. We have known each other for 10 months now. He has been there for me and done for me, more then most of my so called boyfriends in the past have. Lately, he's been loving, giving one day, volunteering to do things for me and the next day, snapping my head off and getting rid of me. I felt hurt and unwanted by him, I had a slip and blurted out , in the car, I should find someone that wants to spend time with me. His response was, is that a threat? I said no, just a mental note. He was nicer to me the next day. He even volunteered and picked me up from the airport when I came back from visiting my family. He left on Christmas Eve and we haven't text or talked. Which isn't unusual for us, we go up to 6days without contact, we are water signs.
My question is this: am I wasting my time with this guy or, should I hold on to hope a little longer that he will fall IN love with me? I'm a loyal person and I obey him when he tells me to do something but, at times I don't feel he deserves or even cares that I'm singular with him. If he's never going to want my love or love me. It's more of a mental breaking from him and to force myself to accept dates if there doesn't seem to be a possibility.
I am enrolled in school. That is one of the positives of knowing him, he's raised the bar on my challenges.