I agree with your comment and I will add that if we are betrayed we will end a relationship lickety split...and then move on like we never knew you.

I have had similar issues with a friend who is a cancer. I have detailed in other blogs that I stopped talking to him sometime in May of this year. Since then I've only talked to him may be twice but its work related since we work for the same employer, same shift, but different depts. I have ignored him for a long time now and I'm a Gemini and where they are insecure we have no issues with self confidence, where they remember only what you've done, we remember everything. I won't put up with his crap!!! Believe me when I say that they know exactly what they have done and understand why you are not talking to him. They try to save face alot. I have continued to ignore him but if he sees me now and again he will look my way as if he wants me to come by and talk to him but I don't. He has to be taught that I will not put up with his crap. I believe that eventually I will talk to him , when I and I alone decide to, but in the meantime I'm too busy with life and straightening out my life and work obligations. He needs to realize that you are not sitting around waiting for him. Go on with your life and don't hold your breath waiting for him to do anything and if he does say something to you eventually make the situation his fault. Tell him what I tell people who keep asking questions about me and my Cancer: no we don't talk anymore, why? he's an asshole( believe me they all know he's an asshole) if he wants to talk to me he knows where I work and he has my phone number or my favorite ....I'm busy. Just tell him ..... why did n't you call me, I've been busy, you had a corncob up your butt and you said you wanted to be left alone so I left you alone. He is not thinking about you but he does not like the idea that you've moved on why?.....because so many of his friends and acquaintances have moved on due to his horrific behavior.

NotsoLeo, I went through the same nonsense, especially the accusations. We both had the flu and I was discussing a tried and true method of using alchohol and rock candy. He yelled at me and said "Why does everyone want me to drink? My friends want me to drink too." I replied that I was referring to a home remedy not what your friends are trying to do. I don't know what they're intentions are I can only speak for my self. He said absolutely nothing. Then I said if I really wanted to f^%$ you up I would slip you some Ketamine and you wouldn't know where were for the next 3 days, but that would not help me out since you wouldn't be able to have an erection but since you act as if you don't have a d$#% it wouldn't make much of a difference. He just stood there stunned. You have to have a smartass comment when they get hateful or just cuss them out and make them look stupid, that works sometimes also. But with me not acknowledging him or talking to him has worked wonders also. He knows he's f&&^ed up and now that he's over his moodiness he expects me to talk to him again. Fat chance!!!!! Everybody at work call him The Pr(k and for good reason.

Please believe me when I say that that I'm not trying to be cruel....but you need to finalize or work on your relationship with your husband before you do anything with this man. If your current relationship is not working this man is not going to fix your situation. You have no guarantee that he will or wants to leave his current situation. He is not your gemini man, he's his wife's gemini man.

thanks Taurus 7, I have come to the conclusion that all Cancers are like this not just my coworker or Crappyloves problem child. I wish it could be different but its not. I will say that I am uncomfortable with the way most Cancer males seem more in sexually interested in their male friends than with females.

Cappy Love, I'm glad you're ready to move on. I have been in a similar situation for years now with a friend/coworker. Everyone assumes we are together when we are not. He gave me a lot of "signals" also. I found out that he really saw me as just one of the guys. He has been looking for something better for a while. The problem is that he has not found it and while he is looking time has been passing and we are both getting older. His friends say I'm the first woman he has brought around since his divorce and they all like me. They are not the problem, he is. One day at work he was very rude to me so I just shut down and have not talked to him in months. I have been completely incomunicado. Now when he sees me I look the other way and have really just left him alone. He acts as thought he wants to talk but I don't give him the chance. I just made up my mind that I'm better than that. I've got better things to do. I put him on the back burner and I am looking for something better. I told him how I felt, I put the ball in his corner and he did nothing. I don't buy this crap about his being hurt or sensitive and having deep feelings. He's a jerk who spends more time with his Star Wars collection that with women( any women). People always say you should let a man chase you but the way I see it is that this is good advice for some one who is young. I'm in my forties! I dont have time, I'm a professional in my field, I have more education than he, more assets and make more money . He should be flattered that a woman like me is interested in him. I open if he is willing to change, I just not holding my breath.