thanks so much for your insight! i was concerned about the reversed 3 of swords because i had wondered if i was hurting him because yes, i do take a logical and reserved approach to everything, even personal relationships. in this case in particular i do feel myself holding back and worrying too much. also, i have known this person a long time, over ten years, and i am some what aware that he has experienced a lot of troubling stuff in his life. so what you are saying seems very dead on to me. i am going to focus on being patient with him, giving him space, and just in general trying to be supportive of him as you suggest.
the world, i thought, might refer to the fact that i am currently in graduate school studying to be a midwife and it's a long path and a very intensive program and i have worried significantly that because of this now might not be the best time to be in a relationship. more specifically i feel that school takes so much out of me that i might be unable to really be there for another person right now and so... i mean its just not fair to him to be in a relationship with him without able to really be in it fully.
i'm just going to try to relax and stop worrying and see how things go.
thanks again for your input! i really appreciate it!