Feeling depressed and a bit hopeless - pls help



  • Hey

    In the past year or so i've been very depressed, I was very unhappy in a job that I left one month ago and basically I find it hard to find any joy in life - I feel lost, burned-out, without direction or purpose - my career has slipped away.

    In April I decided that I needed to break the groove and move to another country, find another job, start afresh, and hopefully find my joy again. I put my property on the market and as yet it hasn't sold, I had decided to stay in the job until my property sold and I moved but when my property didn't sell I couldn't stay in the job any longer. I realise it was irresponsible of me to leave the job but honestly I couldn't stay there any longer.

    I really feel lost, I haven't been able to find a job yet, plans to move country are on hold until we sell the property and there's not much interest in that at the moment.

    I guess i'm wondering if/when i'll get a new job, when will we sell our property, will be move country and at a higher level what is the root of my depression and how can I help move myself out of it.

    I would appreciate any guidance.

    Blessings to all those who are bereaved and coping with illness.



  • hi Jandal, not sure if this helps but I try my best to~ =}

    Basically, I felt that the chain of yours will soon be break and you might have a new job coming in yoour way soon.. I am not sure whether is it a job but I felt that it might be on a project base stuff.. I know that it has been hard on yu going through what U have mention.. in your present I felt that there is someone hinder u from going on.. mainly this person I would say that misusing what he/she actually knows to hurt u.. but the good thing is that U can recover from the hurt faster but there is still left a little mystery in what he/ she doing all this to you.. I don know if there is something like this going on for you but I believe there is more than that with this person.. what u fear of is because U can't really settle down which u long ago wanted to.. but I would say soon U will be able to get out from the trap that u are in so I think there isn't much worries about that.. in the near future, things might not go by your way but why not try to follow the flow of it? I think this might be able to help in what u are doing rather than going against it.. and my piece of advise is even u are on a rougher road don ever give up.. there is always a brighter side waiting for you.. =}



  • Thank you Mikyo for your kindness in taking the time to respond. I think it is good advice to go with the flow, it's just felt so grey for so long now but I guess i've been trying hard to get my property sold as moving to another country has felt like a way out/a fresh start and when the property has not sold this has made me feel more trapped. I'm not sure if there's someone around me hindering me from going on, my partner wants to move as much as I but my partner has a deeper call to the religious life which would part us - this has surfaced many times over the years and has yet to be resolved one way or the other - it does disrupt our relationship as I'm not sure if my partner will one day choose the religious life over our long partnership - perhaps this is what you are picking up on as I feel that my partner has two deep loves, me and the calling. However this is an issue that I have lived with for many years - the deep depression started about a year ago a few months after starting my last job. Thanks Mikyo for mentioning that a job, even if its a project thats fine, will be coming my way soon.

    All guidance is greatly appreciated.



  • I'm glad that it helps you~ but it would be a waste if the relationship just ended like this~~ but still who knows wat might be happening next~



  • My sense is my relationship is not causing my depression or 'stuckness' - maybe i'm wrong, maybe it is part of it - irrespective of my partner I am responsible for my happiness and I want to live a happier life. For me it feels like I cannot find my stride in life, I had hoped at my age to be in a job that I was good at but I haven't felt happy for a long time, I lost a lot of confidence in my last job. Moving to another country with more employment opportunities was a way to 'kick-start' some new beginings but in the current property slump that doesn't appear to be happening despite me trying hard to sell our property.

    I am aware its important to stay positive so I try to do that, can anyone help me what what the next year will hold, by birth date is 05/24/68

    sincere thanks



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    December will be a power month for you in your career and for achieving everything you want. October is for devoting yourself to family, home and friends. November is about contemplation, inner discovery, retreat, and introspection to get in touch with your authentic self and its desires. So that by December you should be fully confident that you know what you want and how to get it.



  • TheCaptain, wow thank you so much for your post and guidance - i've now read it three times and recognize much of what you say. I appreciate that you took the time to help me out and give me some hope for a brighter future, it means a lot at this time.

    Much blessings and sincere thanks

    J



  • You're very welcome! 🙂



  • I don't know why but they deleted masochist from my post.



  • lol, I thought the "and a ****" stood for ass...something....!



  • Hi Jandal, I don't know what you experienced on your job but sometimes you can still get unemployment ins. if conditions were bad. EEOC or an attorney may be able to help. I think it's called constructive defense.



  • Hello Jandal,

    I feel that you did just as you were suppose to do in quitting your job, as it was depleting your life force and making you depressed. You will sell the property in March 2011 I know that seems to be a distance off , but will be upon us before we know it. You of course may have another job at that time that will not be in the same field you were in before. Moving out of country is it Europe or near that region?I feel rolling green hills and a Tuscany fell to the area, it seems as though you have had a past lifetime or two in this region. You were very happy than and long for that same feeling now. The world we live in is in transition at this time and how we live and our deceisions will gravitate to the new beginnings that we all face as it seems jobs are scare at this time and many levels of life are in transition so hold in there and you will win if you do not let depression overcome your thoughts. Better days are ahead of you, so please look forward to them soon. I hear the names of Pilar, Ouno, Kay or Kate and Charolett coming in around you to be of help.



  • Thank you Shuabby. I am from europe but now live in NZ and am thinking of moving to Australia for a few years before moving back to europe permanently. You are right my last job depleted my life force and made me depressed - I didn't fit in from the begining and stayed longer than I should have as I planned to leave as soon as my property sold which it didn't so by Sept I felt so diminished that I went in one day and resigned. Since then I haven't been able to get a job but I am hopeful to get one soon. Thank you for providing a sale date for our property, March 2011 - its helpful to have an indication that it will eventually sell.

    I appreciate your offering of hope, I really hope that I can feel joy and enhusiasm again. I feel that I have aged 20 years in the past 18months, my brain feels slow and dull and I feel like I am wasting my life.

    Thank you all for your kind words they are very much appreciated.


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