Captain, as you asked
Captain-as you asked i have begun a new topic so that you might answer me here.
Again my dob is March 17 1957. I have entered a transitory stage in my life, and would like to know what you can tell me about its direction. Especially regarding relationships, I appreciate any insight you migh be able to give me.
Again, may the universe shine its light on you. (by the way, its Qmfergus, not Gmfergus)
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Thank you for your insight, you have given me much to consider. Much of it is right on target.
One other question if you don't mind. There is an idividual in my life who I am torn over. Male dob jan 23 1964. Is there a possibility of a future for this relationship from what you can see?
Again many thanks, and may the universe continue to shine its light over you.
A love affair between you and this man can be magical, ephemeral, and hard to pin down. You two have extreme empathy - each person's sensitivity to the other's wishes, moods and feelings is high, often anticipating them in a highly gratifying way - and may even cause you both real pain. You have antennae out for each other. You gladly share each other's problems but may at times have trouble distinguishing your own difficulties from those of the other - ego boundaries can blur here and identities merge. In the longterm, resolute willpower will have to be employed to retain each person's individuality.
Although your friend is more mentally focused and you more emotionally oriented in everday matters, such differences are more likely to complement than to disturb the relationship. This relationship is likely to focus on theoretical realms not easily approached or understood by other people. Philosophical speculation comes naturally to you as individuals, a trait which the synergy of your relationship magnifies. The relationship's psychic solidarity is strong. Trying to uncover the laws behind daily reality can become a lifelong search here.
Thank you, again much is on target. I am trying to decide if i should continue to reach out
to this person or not..There has been a strong connecton, can you see anything else.?
Blessings and thanks for all that you have shared with me.
if i should keep reaching out or not
Well, does the description of the relationship I gave you sound like what you are looking for?
the description sounds much like it has been in the past. We came together, and enjoyed one anothers company for quite some time. Then, due to circumstances were not able to continue as we had. The thing is, i still feel a connection to this individual. But, have not been able to speak with him. I may well be asking a question that cannot be answered, but do i keep trying or just let go, does he want me to keep the door open?
Are you two in contact?
we had been. then he drew back. isaw him a month or so ago, and tho conversation was stilted, we did well. he has not replied to emails, but he has a job that requires lots of travel .
Your friend spends a lot of his time and energy pursuing his career and denying his feelings which he is afraid of expressing. He buries his worries and emotions in his work. He can live in his head a bit too much - he prefers to appear cool, analytical and detached. At the moment, he is feeling very worried and stressed and his moods are swinging wildly - which you probably know because you have this empathic link. But he doesn't feel comfortable complaining to you or anyone - he's afraid it would be seen as a weakness. He likes to be fully in control of himself and will retreat or disguise his feelings when stressed or upset. This is when your special connection can come in handy - reach out to him and say that you felt uneasy about him and was he OK? He might just open up a little but don't expect it to be easy. He needs to learn how to emotionally connect and share himself with others or he will burst with all that pent-up feeling.
Again ,There is truth in what you have told me... Be assured, i am looking for guidance on my transitionary path at this time,and i know that there are no hard and fast answers, i pressed on this issue because of the link that i feel and did not want to be reactionary in my dealings at this time. I will continue to offer a hand of friendship, knowing that he is in turmoil. The universe has provided you a gift.
I would ask one more question before i take some time to meditatte on the information you have provided. There is an nidividual, dob: 2/16/42 who i think i have come to the end of the road with. could you tell me if you see the paths diverging for us. It is an aspect i have been wrestling with.
I appreciate all of the insight you have graciously goven me to this point.
May the universe continue to shine is gentle and loving light on you-
That other relationship was a very deeply emotional and mysterious one, wasn't it? It offered complexity and challenge. The relationship can be frightening in a way, like a scary adventure ride. You two see each other as you really are, stripped of role-playing or pretense. It is not pleasure or satisfaction that is gained here but self-actualization. The relationship then is a test that is either passed or failed. Either way, when it's done, it's done for good.
actually i doubt that i was ever seen for who i was by the Feb 16th 1942 individual,i cannot tell anymore, or perhaps more accurately i am not the same person that i was. That is the reason for my query.
I feel more of a connection to the jan 23 1964 individual, more myself.
The interplay of light and shadow is more vibrant there. More myself, that is the reason for my questions.
Anything else that you can tell me about the path forward and what role these individuals might play in my life would be appreciated. As i said before, guidance is my focus....
thank you for all you have helped with so far.
May the universe continue to shine its light on you and embrace you in its warmth.
It would be better to discover what role you have to play in your own life than depend on anyone else to take the stage.
Ah captain, that is what i have realized and am focusing on. my bath has been , eventful i suppose is the word i will use, and i am now learning to let my self accept the day and not force it.
I have asked about these individuals because they have been influences...but, its my path to walk....i was just wondering which one will be walking the next part with me.
Again, blessing...i have a lot to think about. I will let my friend know of my concern for him abd leave that door open. The other, well that too is to consider....letting go has begun..
May the universe shine it light on you..i will check in with you again at some point if thats ok-
Ask yourself - do you really need one or the other of these people - or anyone else - to walk beside you through life? What is it you think you need that these people might give you and that you cannot give yourself? Would you collapse if you only have yourself as a support? It's fine to want companionship - humans are social animals, after all - but you don't need a crutch to walk.
interesting...i actually more than comfortable being on my own. Which is something a lot of people don't get. There is nothing worse than being lonely while in some other persons company. Companionship really is the better thing, and when together I felt more comfortable with the january individual, thats why I wondered about our vibe together and if it seemed likely to work out, i am not seeking to give myself up to anyone, only to share part of my life with them as
I realized that i had hit the enter key before i finished. What i was saying was that i am not seeking to give myself up to anyone, only to share a part of my life with them as i travel the path, and was wodering of the janaury individual was likely to share it with me.
Blessings and may the universe shine its light on you and yours