Help with reading please! I am so confused and sad



  • Awesome stuff Hans. You ARE a great mirror.

    Cheers Pfree



  • passionate87,

    does he love me? yes.

    and do I really love him? no.

    If you have fallen in love, there is no doubt. You believe in it

    totally, because the doubter, the ego, is not there.

    Who is there to doubt? You believe it. But the whole

    has not asserted itself.



  • Pfree,

    thank you for your kind words.

    But have you not observed? Whenever you sit silently and

    look inside, the mind creates so many thoughts

    immediately. Why? It is your device. It is just like

    the octopus: whenever he sees that some enemy is coming

    around, the octopus releases dark black ink like a

    cloud around himself. Immediately the ink cloud

    surrounds him and the enemy cannot see where he is.



  • You are right hanswolfgang. When someone is in love they would have no doubts about it. well I spoke to him about our relationship but he doesn't seem to want to talk about it. and when I told him we should end it he kept calling me constantly I just couldn't be in this situation for longer. I mean not a couple and not just friends? then what are we?

    and when I asked you why he is acting like this with me, you answered: because he feels imprisoned by you. what do you mean?

    last question, does he trust me and trust my feelings for him? does he know that I love him because sometimes I feel that he doesn't want me to tell him that I love him and I wonder why.



  • passionate87,

    I mean not a couple and not just friends? no.

    then what are we? mistrustingly keeping distance to another.

    what do you mean? you put pressure on yourself and on him.

    does he trust me and trust my feelings for him? no.

    does he know that I love him: no.

    You cannot see simple things. There is no need to discuss about it.



  • @hanswolfgang

    Im also having problems with a man that is constantly hot/cold with me. I wanted to know should I hang in there or move on. I've met other men that seem wonderful. But this person has my heart. What should I do? Does he care/love me? His DOB is 1/1/1981. Mine is 4/17/1981. thanks



  • Renaissance1981,

    should I hang in there or move on: neither nor.

    What should I do? Learn to become able to handle persons of authority.

    Does he care/love me? No.

    Mine is 4/17/1981: this is a powerful influence of balance and peace in personal relationships. How it affects you will largely depend upon your current status in your love life and how responsible you have been in that area. This will demand that all outstanding love debts be settled and will encourage you to take responsibility for your actions and words in your closest relationships. You may find that you have to make compromises and adjustments to accomplish this as well. On a more universal level, this may also reveal to you a special purpose in your life, one of helping others by sharing love with them. You may become aware of a special mission that you are to perform. It is peace and of intuitively knowing how to love others in a spiritual sense.

    And once you are standing above the mind, away,

    aloof, a watcher on the hills, things are totally

    different. Then those problems are no longer relevant.

    When you are in them, they are relevant. It is just

    like having a dream, a nightmare, at night, and being

    really troubled by it. A lion is following you and you

    are running and running and the lion is coming closer

    and closer every moment. You can feel his breath on

    your back. It is terrible! And you start climbing a

    tree and the lion starts climbing it with you --

    because in a dream everything is possible. Your heart

    is in a turmoil, your whole body is perspiring. And

    when you reach the top of the tree the lion is also

    there with you. A scream comes out of you, and because

    of the scream you become awake. And suddenly you start

    laughing, although the body is still trembling and your

    breath is not rhythmic. and your body is perspiring;

    you can see the beads on your forehead. But now you

    start laughing. You laugh at the whole thing, the

    ridiculousness of it -- it was just a dream.



  • Thanks for the reading but Im a little confused by the statements:

    should I hang in there or move on: neither nor.

    and

    What should I do? Learn to become able to handle persons of authority.

    could you explain that a little more to me in regards to my situation.

    I do realize I need to get over things from the past . But they have hurt, and they still do.



  • Renaissance1981,

    explain that a little more to me in regards to my situation: you are stuck exactly in the middle between yes and no.

    Sexuality is your enjoyment; it is fun, it is

    nothing serious. With that acceptance this nightmarish

    situation will disappear and you will feel very very

    much at ease. And that at easeness will not be only on

    the surface, it will become part of your depth.



  • 'While he can have any other girl in the city" Wow that say's it all. You have low esteem of yourself. he see's you as convieniant (easy) Your back-stage materieal sweetheart. he's not your to keep. Soon as he meets someone more to his liking..he will drop you. You arre his friend..You make better friends...you'l see.


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