4-5 Violent Migranes/wk really worried about him- can you help?



  • Hi, I'm sorry to ask for a reading but I"m scared for Christian. He's been having 4-5 violent migranes a week and he's no longer responding to medications. I mean, violent like he's throwing up blood on occassion and passing out. It's horrible. He told me he can't go on like this, he's in so much pain. I am really really really concerned. His birthday is 9-18-1975. If you have any insight at all I would appreciate it. I'm worried he's going to do something permanent and I'm scared for him.



  • hi,

    I watched the drs show the other and there was a young man with similar symptoms as you described.

    he should be taken back to the dr immediately, and to follow up with a specialist either ENT, or Neurology (nerves)

    could be a tumor, or a blood vessel in the brain or neck is leaking.

    you need to take action with the medical drs that can help him, and very soon.

    Sunny



  • He won't go. I've tried. Its definitely not a burst blood vessel because this is continual through time. I just don't trust that he's in his right mind. :0( I just want to make sure I dont' have to worry about him offing himself or something.



  • Who does he trust most in the world? That is who he needs to talk to.

    I suspect it is a possibility that he may be leading some form of double life. He is afraid of going because he does not want to be found out. He needs to be convinced that regardless of what he has done, do not make him confess it will only upset him more.....that he needs to go to the doctors. Tell him he could be overreacting, it could something as simple as a common food allergy or a severe sinus infection. You need to get him on a common ground with that person and you need to do it now. He needs professional help not only medically but professionally. Do what you can for him but remember ultimately any decision he makes is his. Whatever he has done or been thru tell him is not worth him loosing his life.

    I will most certainly pray for both of you.

    God bless.

    PS..........please keep in mind that none of us here are professionals, we all care and I know some of us work by instinct and more. Use yours on his, he needs a mental professional right now more then anything, you know that.....work with the info he has given you. If you have to make an annoymous call to the health department or social services, do it. A mad friend is better then a dead friend any day! LIke I said though REMEMBER it is ALL up to him! You can lead horses to water, but you can not make them drink!

    HUGS



  • Dear gladyouwroteme

    Im sorry to hear what is happening to Christian, I will send healing energy and pray for you both as well .

    Sending many blessings your way Lilac



  • well.. I do feel you are right.. he is not in his right mind or not thinking clearly with this.

    I am not a doctor, and would not try to interfere with your decisions on which direction to take.

    however, he sounds ill. and when the pain strikes, and the meds are not working, what other options does he have?

    when you have frequent or constant pain that is interfering with your life. I would try everything avenue possible.

    acupuncture treatments have proven excellent results for migraines, but it should be ruled out with test such as CT Scan.

    I will send healing and prayers.. Sunny



  • I meant anything medical or life threatening should be ruled out first before acupuncture treatments.

    good luck.. Sunny



  • He's in a weird position. Honestly, I don't think he cares if it's a tumor...he's so so so stressed out right now (that is a trigger for migraines). He has an extremely high stress educational program he's doing right now plus if he goes into the doc he could end up discharged from the military. He has work ethic like none I've ever seen and he somehow manages to pull through despite the throwing up and intense pain. I have begged him to go to the doctor but he won't. More than anything I'm afraid he's going to hurt himself. I need to call his other friends and see if any of them get the same feeling. I'm not around him much so they'd have a better idea. Really, I was really just wondering if anyone had a feeling he was so unstable he'd do something permanent. That worries me.

    Thank you everyone for your support and concern. I really appreciate you helping and caring. It really means a lot.



  • my FEELING is, he should be seen by a doctor.

    he sounds like a very stubborn and fixed man. he is afraid to go and find out what is really wrong.

    the longer he goes on like this, the greater the damage it will do.

    at some point, he will go, but of course not until he is flat on his back.

    I just hope it won't be too late..



  • i agree ms sunny. we'll see. I tried to get him to go again today - we'll see what happens. Thank you for listening... thank you everyone for listening



  • Hi,

    Just checking in.

    Any change or progress?

    Sending prayers his way and yours as well for trying to help!



  • Dear Gladyouwroteme,

    Hope that everythings is ok with Christian, still praying for you both .

    Many Blessings Lilac



  • Thank you. No change in status. He'll be around for the next two weeks so if he hits another really violent one I can take charge. I will definitely let you all know what happens.



  • Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you both!

    Prayers said, God bless. Hugs



  • Hi, checking in too. hope you both are well..

    hugs, Sunny



  • He went and got some injectable medication but he used them up already. No change in status. He said they come on about two in the afternoon and last until about 11am the next day. Since the meds aren't working he said he'll just live with them. I approach the issue about him seeing a dr who knows more than he does on a daily basis but he won't. I think it's stress that's causing htem to be so intense. He's doing yoga and working out a lot but I think he needs a shrink or something so he can learn to let it go.

    Thank you everyone for checking up on us. Its hard to see someone hurt like this...



  • He went and got some injectable medication but he used them up already. No change in status. He said they come on about two in the afternoon and last until about 11am the next day. Since the meds aren't working he said he'll just live with them. I approach the issue about him seeing a dr who knows more than he does on a daily basis but he won't. I think it's stress that's causing htem to be so intense. He's in medical school in another city and we're going through a divorce. I think it's just too much for him to handle.

    He's doing yoga and working out a lot but I think he needs a shrink or something so he can learn to let it go.

    Thank you everyone for checking up on us. Its hard to see someone hurt like this...



  • well, I still feel it is medical. ironic he is studying to be a dr. My intuition tells me he is afraid to explore this further.

    what often occurs when you are going through a difficult period and under heavy pressure/stress CAN trigger latent medical problems that will implode under enormous stress such as he is going through now.

    Sunny



  • He knows everything that it could be. Honestly, I think he's just hoping it'll kill him. I know that sounds horrible but he's mentioned it several times. As bad as these migranes get it is completely possible that he could rupture something. He said if it was a tumor (and he's certain it is not, based on neurological examination) he wouldn't remove it anyway. This is why it scares me. He's got a death wish.



  • he could get a second opinion.. something is not right, and if it interferes with the quality of life, and it sounds like it is, then it would be time to investigate it further.

    it's his health, and I know its frustrating for you. anyways, I hope things improve..

    best wishes, sunny


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