Hans, Im in need of some advice



  • demmiee,

    Are you saying that I should do things with no heart and no expectations? No.

    And bwhat should I seek help with? By being no more dominated by the emotions of a man.

    By and by you will have to put

    your reason aside. Because only then you will be able

    to enter deeper. Once you have known the beauty of

    nonsense, the truth of nonsense, then you will not call

    it nonsense; you will call it supra-sense. Then you

    will not think in terms condemnatory and negative. You

    will start thinking in more positive terms.



  • Hello Hans,

    Hope you're feeling the lively and with happy spirit.

    Could you help me figure out what to think of these men. Should I be afraid?

    Or is it good that I'm embracing the feel of this?

    Much thank yous in advance.

    me



  • SuddenlySally,

    Could you help me figure out what to think of these men: they can argue endlessly.

    Should I be afraid? No.

    Or is it good that I'm embracing the feel of this? No.

    me, sitting in the world means to be in the mind and

    sitting in meditation means to be in the no-mind. To be

    in the mind is to be in darkness and to be in no-mind

    is to be in light. And that's how wisdom

    grows.



  • They can argue endlessly, I picture them face to face over a shave.

    Thank you Hans, I'm going to digest this.



  • SuddenlySally,

    Potter saw a store with a sign reading: "Hans

    Schmidt's Chinese Laundry." Being curious he entered

    and was greeted by a Chinese who identified himself as

    Hans Schmidt.

    "How come you have a name like that?" asked Potter.

    "When I land in America I stand in immigration line

    behind German," explained the oriental. "When they ask

    German his name, he say, 'Hans Schmidt.' When official

    ask me my name I say, 'Sam Ting.'"

    It is very easy to understand.



  • I don't want them to be different, I want them to be the same regardless of their differences.

    I'm willing to accept all those differences, acknowledge and still see them as the same.

    But, I worry I'm wrong to take such identity from them in case they want separation. I'd only be selfish to indulge in my fancies and become inconsiderate of theirs...needs, desires, want to and nots. I just feel very selfish.



  • I'm very glad you've brought my mind here,

    I do think I'm happier when not questioning and just absorbing what is.

    Again, thanks much, Hans.



  • Hans,

    I was wondering if I could get a reading as well...my dob is 4/13/1980 and his is 05/30/1980...i was just wondering are we meant to just be friends? Is our meeting simply a learning experience? and what is going on with him? thanks for your help hans....



  • SuddenlySally,

    you don't need consolation; you need a revolution,

    you need a transformation of your being. You have to

    come to terms with yourself -- that is the first step

    in having the right trust, the right friendship, the

    right love. Otherwise all your relationships -- of

    love, of friendship, of faith -- are nothing but

    betrayals. You are exposing yourself and declaring that

    you are empty, unworthy, undeserving.

    If you cannot love yourself, who is going to love you?

    If you cannot be a friend to yourself, who is going to

    be a friend to you?

    If you cannot trust in yourself, who is going to trust

    you?



  • Ariesgirl1980,

    I could get a reading as well: you are drinking too much.

    my dob is 4/13/1980: you have the opportunity to rise to great heights in this life. Regardless of whether you make the move for great fame, you are always respected and looked up to in your work. You love to "shine". You are powerful and can be dominating. Your power and position gives you an independent and sometimes "pushy" nature. In any case, you know what everything is worth and can drive a hard bargain. You can achieve anything through hard work and the application of your inherent intuition. When you learn to re-direct your power inward to yourself and stop trying to change the world, you can attain the lasting peace of inner power and self-mastery, your keywords. In love you tend towards fickleness. Your independent, changeable nature may resist marriage. You must learn to give others freedom of expression without trying to change them. You also need to learn to accept yourself as you are.

    i was just wondering are we meant to just be friends? no.

    Is our meeting simply a learning experience? Yes.

    and what is going on with him? he is going on his own way following his own light.

    The whole work of taoism, of meditation, is to make you aware of all that is the mind and dis-identify yourself with it. When the mind is angry, you should think it is simply a gramophone record. When the mind is sad, you should simply remember it is only a gramophone record. A certain situation is pressing the remote controller, and you feel sad, you feel angry, you feel frustrated, you feel worried, you feel tense – all these things are coming from the outside, and the mind is responding to them.



  • thank you hans, so i can reach great heights in this lifetime? that is awesome...so we're not meant to be just friends, well he keeps saying he doesn't want to lose me as a friend and he doesn't want me out of his life, but you're saying we won't attain some type of friendship? And why won't he answer my calls or return them? he's been ignoring me recently. Also what are we suppose to learn from our meeting, both of us? The gramophone reference really resonates with me. Thanks again hans....



  • Very true, Hans and I've been exposing for far too long,

    this idea of 'is he receptive...', but that shouldn't be where my energy

    is placed, but instead on my own embraces towards myself.

    Some times, I do find love within

    and then other times I go seeking, instead of doing internal loving.

    Yesterday I thought I was giving too much away, too.

    I appreciate you giving the time and direction, Hans.

    Thank you.



  • also, i just really have to know, since i see i should probably let go of anything going further with he and i, did he ever care about me? even just a little? or was he lying to me the whole time? I am feeling betrayed and used and hurt at this point, but i know i'll get over it eventually, may even be grateful one day, who knows...lol at the drinking too much comment....and will he ever find what he's seeking, which seems to be freedom right now....thank you hans...



  • I hope it's safe to ask..

    Hans, question regarding a dream I had.

    dream: I was at ex apt complex pool( water was clean) I became blind. in reality I been having this supressed pain in sub consence but I can not reliece in real world. on dream I cried a LOT like I'm reliesing that pain. I told a friend I had in the dream, that Im scared to be a lone and I don't know how to be a lone. I did mention that my ex use to live in those apt but he moved out, left. for a secont I appears in my restroom at my house and looked in miror and seen a badly brused face.

    what am I in deniel about? it's it safer to keep it that way?

    1. that he left and I will never see him again?

    2. he used me?

    3. I used him? (anything is posible since I'm not so connected)

    4. I hurt him?

    5. he was out of my league?

    6. he has secrets that would hurt me?

    my bigest cunsorn is that it's hard for me to make it clear to my self that I'm in deniel of something and can't make out what it is.



  • Ariesgirl1980,

    so i can reach great heights in this lifetime? yes.

    you're saying we won't attain some type of friendship? no.

    And why won't he answer my calls or return them? because it is too less for him, he expects more.

    what are we suppose to learn from our meeting, both of us? for him not to dominate you with his will power, for you not to be dominated by him and his will power.

    did he ever care about me? no.

    even just a little? no.

    or was he lying to me the whole time? no.

    will he ever find what he's seeking, which seems to be freedom right now: yes.

    It is like doing partial surgery on a person an leaving him with an open wound. It would have been

    better if you had not touched him. If you have opened

    his wound, it is better you do it completely. He

    will find himself in more anguish than he had ever

    been.



  • SuddenlySally,

    so even though you will feel tears, let those tears

    be tears of joy -- joy for what he has attained. Don't

    think of yourself, that you will be missing him, think

    of him, that he is fulfilled. And this is how you will

    learn.



  • sweetoty,

    what am I in deniel about? that you are the envoy, the negotiator.

    it's it safer to keep it that way? yes.

    1. that he left and I will never see him again? yes.

    2. he used me? no.

    3. I used him? yes.

    4. I hurt him? no.

    5. he was out of my league? yes, certainly.

    6. he has secrets that would hurt me? no.

    Life has to be a training ground for enjoyment. Increase your capacity.

    Even on the last night Jesus is breaking bread,

    filling cups with wine for his disciples. They are

    enjoying, they are eating, they are in a merry mood.

    Death is coming close, but celebration has not to stop

    for it because Jesus knows that this death is going to

    be the greatest celebration. He wants to leave his

    disciples in celebration. He wants it to be imprinted

    on their consciousnesses that Jesus was a celebrant,

    that he was a man of feasting not of fasting; that he

    was a man who was thrilled by the small joys of life --

    the flowers, the birds, the rivers -- that he liked the

    lilies in the field; that he liked people, that he was

    immensely thrilled -- always immensely thrilled when

    looking into people's eyes; that he loved, that he was

    not against life.



  • by the way your last mag was nice, refreshing 😃

    Your help, answer more then what asked. putting a puzzle togather. i'm not a passive victim in this situation....

    Looking back to MSG's he sent me when we first broak up and from what you have told me this whole time. I'm embarrased that this horrible pain I felt was a manifest of my own darkness. my ilusions where taken away, and I cried like a child's Barbie dream home was taken away. and when he walked away, I told him things that I know would hurt him. two diff darkness mixed was too toxic.

    You say I'm the negotiator? as in what can happen now? or what happen before durring the relationship?

    Hans after that dream I let go the pain I had deep down in side now I see a bigger picture with your help. I'm a gold diger and his a Jack ass!!!!

    DR Hans, maybe later I should cantact him to see him to not have an enemy.. is that possible? should I??? or let bygones be bygones and move on with out a trace? (so dramatic hahaha)

    Hey buddy, one last question. can any financial issues get in my way of completing school? I'm scared that my grants might be taken away.



  • oh... if he is out of my league ( BC he is a Dr, right?)

    why do you say I am the negotiater? it makes me think I have control of what goes on.

    This question will be used as future refrence in general. FYI



  • I will try to keep this close to heart, Hans.

    I do know I've never a regret with what has

    and I am filled full, only to trip up on present and future.

    If I keep this close to heart, I might know love in present sense.

    Much thanks yous,

    you've been wonderful.


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