Cancer man, and he is confusing



  • j3d ROFLMFAO!!! please don't do that to us!! i don't think we could hold up under it!!! Did you show joey our forum or just tell him about it? what'd he think ? that we were a few fries short of a happy meal?



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  • 'crazy cancer lovers" is a good name to me



  • I have lots of comments but my very most important is to Bente...

    Bente --- THANK YOU SO MUCH for losing the text abb. stuff!! It drove me nuts and sometimes I just skimmed your posts because my eyes could not wrap themselves a round it all!! OR I simply could not understand 3/4 of what you were trying to say. I am so glad you are doing this for us. kiss kiss!!

    Now -- back several pages 4 maybe?

    Queenmie ---- (Queen soon) I am so sorry he did that to you and I can hardly imagine how confused about him you must be! It would be hard to ever trust what he says again. I have two thoughts on this and remember, I know nothing about him but logic tells me he was

    1. trying to end a relationship and needed more time to pull the plug??

    2. cancers are real home people and do a lot in and to they shell. Maybe he was making repairs and cleaning to make it just right before you got there...making room in closets for your clothes and that sort of thing??

    Really doesn't matter what the issue was....he should not have done that to you so cavalierly! Did you let him know you were stunned and how inconvenient it was for him to pull this on you? Did you ask him if he was really sure he wanted you there? Because his behavior was pretty darn irresponsible! In fact, forget him being sure he really wants you there....DO YOU REALLY WANT TO GO? Not trying to stir up anything here but I would do some new thinking and then listen to by inner self. Write beack and tell us what you are thinking.

    The rest soon...have to check on the flower garden! Opps and bring in my pendulums....they were 'sunning" : ) Like CC lol

    Mom



  • Hi Ladies!

    Firstly, I want to thank all of you so very much for the time in reading about my "plight!" I would especially like to thank j3d, Tauren, CC and Cappy2 for your insight!

    j3d - your comment about "messing with my head" with regards to why did he contact me on line intially is a terrific question actually. His affliction seriously worsened from the time of his arrival to this point in time. There is no question that he truly cares a great deal for me, he thinks that I'll be better off with someone else who is healthy. I can understand where his head's at quite honestly. His entire life has changed with his illness, giving up his 25 year career, relocating AND turning 50 all which has happened very recently. Even though we've had no contact since last Saturday I know that he saw an infectious disease doctor today and is seeing a neurologist tomorrow (at which point I sincerely hope he brings up Celiac Disease as I really think this is what he has.)

    Check this out . . . of course we all believe in "the universe" and its "magic" (I definitely believe in God and pray A LOT quite frankly!) and its power otherwise we wouldn't be here, correct? I literally was praying for David (my Cancer guy) the other night and "heard" what I thought was "Feliac." Immediately following I went online and found "Celiac" - close enough! Just last night, after having NOT watched one of my favorite network shows "House" for the past four months. . . well guess what, I actually watched the episode; Celiac Disease was actually mentioned as a possible diagnosis - go figure! What do you think - a "Godwink" perhaps?!?

    Tauren - boy can I relate to your comment about "moodiness!" Geez-oh-frickin'-pete!!

    I thought I was moody at times; I'm a novice when it comes to my Cancer guy's mood swings! Must be the simple fact that Cancer is ruled by the moon; and we all know how that can affect us all!

    CC- thank you for your words as you're right, I am following my intuition and will keep doing so.

    Cappy2 - a special thank you to you!! TWO Cancer men?!? Wow! Regarding me writing emails to David letting him know that I'm still here I think is very wise. David's already very insecure due to his physical issues so if anything, warm words from me can only help him. My plan is to give it a bit more time with no contact as per his request. This decision by the way is based on what my pendulum said!!! - thank you for this! (I just need to apply my pendulum to my investments, just kidding!) According to my pendulum I won't be hearing from him until the end of this next week so we'll see. He should also be hearing something back from the most recent doctors' visits by the end of next week so there should be some "energy" by this time.

    Again, thanks everyone! What a tremendous, insightful, and supportive group you all are. Trust me as I'm sitting back a bit reading all that you share but will most definitely throw my two cents in from time to time!



  • So far my last one has taken about 6-7 mins....once it was more than 20! Sorta frustrating!



  • Well -- The above comment by me was posted a aqhile after I sent the one I am now sending again. I may never w rite another sentence here without saving it!!

    Jzzr...I am glad we all were able to help you! Are you on facebook? I have one other thing to share with you that might be a huge help when you start with the occasional email update. Too much for here. You can write to me at cbbsbb@aol.com or facebook by going through maybe Km Jessica in a search and then request to be a friend. Takes no time to set up. Her friends there are us and from there you can get ll of us. (and see who we are!) Made the group gel terrifically.

    Here is what I TRIED to plost last time and I did it very carefully ....and it never showed.

    I have lots of comments but my very most important is to Bente...

    Bente --- THANK YOU SO MUCH for losing the text abb. stuff!! It drove me nuts and sometimes I just skimmed your posts because my eyes could not wrap themselves a round it all!! OR I simply could not understand 3/4 of what you were trying to say. I am so glad you are doing this for us. kiss kiss!!

    Now -- back several pages 4 maybe?

    Queenmie ---- (Queen soon) I am so sorry he did that to you and I can hardly imagine how confused about him you must be! It would be hard to ever trust what he says again. I have two thoughts on this and remember, I know nothing about him but logic tells me he was

    1. trying to end a relationship and needed more time to pull the plug??

    2. cancers are real home people and do a lot in and to they shell. Maybe he was making repairs and cleaning to make it just right before you got there...making room in closets for your clothes and that sort of thing??

    Really doesn't matter what the issue was....he should not have done that to you so cavalierly! Did you let him know you were stunned and how inconvenient it was for him to pull this on you? Did you ask him if he was really sure he wanted you there? Because his behavior was pretty darn irresponsible! In fact, forget him being sure he really wants you there....DO YOU REALLY WANT TO GO? Not trying to stir up anything here but I would do some new thinking and then listen to by inner self.

    Back in a few with more.....

    Mama C



  • Girls --- "Pendy" (as Jenna calls it) and I had a great conversation a little while ago. Pendy is working beautifully after the salt water bath and the sunlight probably helped, too. Pendy is telling me we will not go out tomorrow night nor will he ask me for Friday night. He has not work problems but will say he does. He wants to see me. He is playing a game with me to see how much I will take. Pendy says I should break the date with him first. I am going to meditate on all of the new information...ask my guides if this is accurate and to give me a sign for yes or no....hopefully tonight.

    If this is true I Will be showing him who he is messing with. I know...I know...I am getting mad and I don't even know for sure what this is all about or if its true but my gut says its true. His birthday is WEd and if I don;t break the date and he does. HE will get a snail mail card with no mention of seeing him for his birthday the day before or after since I will be at the concert that night. GIrls....I have been reading Men who like Beoches...and the Art of seduction.....(which is so like the Men who like Beoches) and the only way to get his attention is to beat him at his own game. I so hope he doesn't call tonight before I have a chance to center and meditate and hopefully get an answer tonight, in dream state, or in the morning...but I need one soon if I am to beat him to the cancel thing.

    And I was all happied up to see him for the first time in 5 weeks. If this is all true.....he will be sorry he played with me. I'll teach him about playing games with my heart. Pendy is quick with answers and quite perfect tonight. I am about to switch to another to check behind that one as some of them do better at different times.

    I'll repoert back soon if anyone is interested.

    Pissy Mom (I hate that word but sometimes its just right!!) Sorry for typos but typing even faster than usual because I am so....so pissed!



  • JENNA!

    I am so hoping you are having a wonderful night with Joey! I bet you look beautiful! Did you takes pictures, I hope?

    I am sick and tired of feeling blue about this man.

    Watch out girls....Mama is pulling up her BIG GIRL PANTS! This man is gonna know it, Too!!



  • mom-hate to mess with you now, but when or if you feel like it will you ask "pendy hot mess' if i get to see J. tonight. mine is at home and he did call to wake me this a.m., as he said but we didn't talk about the later.... i am most curious because both our horoscopes and lovescopes say something about wanting to be with our "sweetest heart-his says" but work schedules conflict for early evening, but basically plan on a late night visit? just want to see how those 4 and hot mess pair up. do you do the daily tarot, and personalized horoscope/lovescope on the msn site? i am starting to plan my whole waking day/night around the tarot especially!

    it is usually ALWAYS right or close enough! here's the link just in case.

    http://astrocenter.astrology.msn.com/msn also, please, DON'T let your bubble pop today!!! Please. i know we love and trust that hot mess, but it is "human" after all and prone to a mistake here and there. until he says or probably doesn't say it's off, don't go there....

    NEW ARRIVALS HERE: see, this is exactly what the f'ing do to you eventually. even when things are going very well, out of the blue a huge cloud of insecurity pops up and rains all over us!! i usually try not to ignore my gut instincts and usually there is some method to the madness. even if i am way off base something is usually proven by the end.

    just read some of my pathetic posts from 2 friday's ago. who knows which page...in the 70's.

    one sec mom...

    jenna-have a great time-even though i had an awful experience with mine- i say thank God for hysterectomy's!!! i had the original hysterectomy, and then mere hours later they were rushing me back into surgery because i was bleeding internally. if 5 more minutes had passed good ol' cc wouldn't be here with y'all right now. my blood pressure couldn't even be read the old fashioned way and on both arms at the same time...so i say i had 2 hysterectomy's that day. i was pretty much incoherent and unaware of this until later. when i was back in my room i mentioned that my throat was hurting and my nurse said "you just don't know how close you came do you? your throat hurts because they intubated you to be on life support after surgery #2. i asked how close i came to what...she said for us having to code you, call in a crash cart, and more than likely to pronounce your time of death! i just kept asking REALLY? she told me every person working that floor that day had called to see if i had lived and were very pleasantly surprised to hear i was alive" then went back for my 5 week and the va jay jay canal they made me had not healed at all and three stitches were coming out and some of my inside were trying to fall down and out through there. so in a wheel chair up to the same floor and emergency surgery that night" 3 hysterectomy's but i am gaining my weight and all back...was horrible looking at 95 lbs! my girls shrunk but are coming back.

    jenna just don't go to the specialist i went to! LoL

    sorry mom and my siblings..

    mom-hopefully your gut is just fear of what could go wrong along with all the excitement you've been able to feel these last couple of days...breath in, breath out...

    if you want me to i'll take care of him for you! jenna's numerology report said one of my #'s was the strongest and that I AM A FORCE TO BE RECKONED WITH! hey and you know i do not live that far from you. i PRAY you don't have to hurt, and i pray hard for you.

    Sh!t- never mind my selfish a$$. i will find out in 2 hours.

    Jenna let us know ASAP. mom, i will keep up with you until the cows come home.. reckon these "yanks" have heard that term LoL. y'all or you's guy's-i am trying to get her to smile. oh! don't make me have to learn to play bridge and act like a freakin' lady in order to blackmail you into bliss-i will host the next luncheon if necessary...see i can be a "mother" too!! more like a Mo Fo!

    gonna post this so jenna can read if she isn't gone yet and for some support on it's way to our GA peach!! with a Roll Tide in there for good measure. mom knows what that means and if y'all need an explaination let me know!

    i love you mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!



  • mom-check your email in a few. it will be from my work address, but my name is clearly there. my personal mail is freaking out.

    i apologize for my selfishness, please forgive me. i feel so awful!!!

    mom here's another thing remember you are one of the GRITS!!!!!!

    that is Girl Raise In the South. also, you are reading those books, but i am going back to find my Beotch tutorial, maybe you can form some game plan by it, since it is you who requested it and also more personal for us here. i am not reposting it here. may email to you.

    gotta work a few minutes but i will be right back. and see how sweet you are to wish jenna a great time, while you are reeling-no doubt. hang on sloopy!!



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  • dang...i am an IT person and even though we are blowing this forum up, it shouldn't take so long to post the posts. unless the forum mod's are gone on a break? sorry natural instinct to try and diagnose problems like this



  • WOW - what 24 hours have brought to all of us..... Well not me so much but all of you girls have been busy!!!

    Cappy - I hope the pendy is wrong and you do see your man - but if you feel you won't then please go ahead and break the date yourself - cause you are right you need to beat him at his own game.... Look at my situation - Gary has been calling me when I ask him to n answering me all the time in texts 🙂 I doubt things will change unless he wants them to - but I still keep on going.....

    CC - sorry I missed you on FB but my computer at home is broken at the moment (atm) and I can't get online at home right now... But hopefully next week it will be fixed and I can get on and have a few wines with you over some FB chatting 😉 Its a plan Jan.....

    Jenna - hope you had a wonderful night with Joey and you got to see that 12am birthday time!!! Please let us know good or bad...... I am busting to know!!!!

    Welcome new ppl - we are not bashing Cancer men we are trying to understand them and what /why they do the things they do to us........

    I really have LOL with you all today it has brought a smile to my face numerous times!! Loving the banter...

    With regard to the name - I will be happy with anything...... Cult doesn't really bother me so much (although I don't like what they represent) I can see the funny side of it.... But it seems to be an issue with some of the others so maybe leave that word out.... There was one I think Jenna said "Where did he go again?" I REALLY liked that - n laughed hard when I read it!!!!

    And Jzzr - moodiness - mine can go from happy to cranky to happy again within a minute - and I thought I was bad too until I came across him - makes me look like a walk in the park!!!!

    Completely off topic bbbbuuuuuutttttttttt - I am from Australia and here we have Rugby League football (large men tackling each other) I usually don't follow it but every year we have the QLD vs NSW (Queensland vs New South Wales) State of Origin (you play for the state you were either born in or played your first club game in) and it is quite the occasion...... I always go for QLD cause I am from here ANYWAY just last night was the 2nd game (best out of 3 wins) and we made HISTORY by winning the series for the 4th time in a row!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We have won the first 2 games of the series with only one left and we have already beaten the pants off them!!!!!! Just thought I would let you in on what my FB status's meant 🙂 Very proud to be a Queenslander today!!!!!!!!!!! CC I know you can appreciate this 🙂



  • well just posted an awesome post n now its gone gone gone..........



  • well I think we may have broken it....... I posted about 20 mins ago!!!!!



  • Ok maybe not so broken.......



  • MOM

    Dont do anything in haste. Please think things through. I think sometimes we have all jumped the gun. And sometimes we regret it. Im not saying your going to ,just put alot of thought into it first.

    I know how mad and hurt you are Ive been there. But just give it time and think about it first.

    I had a very bad experience on new years eve and Im still regretting it. I read him all wrong. It was my falt and I cant take it back. Im just so surprised that he forgave me.

    Hope it all goes well



  • cool jenna!!! i am happy for you, can't wait to hear from you! you didn't tell me if you actually showed joey the posts that night?!

    kmjessica! i will be the first to admit to jumping the gun!!! UGH! i find myself doing it now about his birthday sunday.

    he called to wake me up today and we talked about 20 minutes. he was on his way out of town to work and needed a phone number. asked me to text it to him. so i did, then unexpectedly i get one back from him "thanks baby" so I kid with him because he can be so bossy or authoritative at times and call him Master Jeremy-along with crossed arms and I blink and bounce my head like I Dream of Jeanie. I came back with anything for you Master Jeremy, call me later? we have talked about checking out a newer water park about 45 minutes away, i looked it up and it's kind of expnesive but looks like loads of fun. i could NOT keep these hands under control and so a good while later send another one that said "here is something to ponder, if you have the kids all day Sunday, can we take them to that water park, so toss that around if you will. I would like to do something for a change"

    i think it's a fun way to spend his b'day with the kids. i haven't met them in the non-girlfriend capacity yet and in no rush to. i was like that with my son, unless they were going to be around a long time, he didn't see them. you other mom's know you have to be careful when they get around 6 or so, not to confuse them or let them get hurt by being attached to someone we aren't.

    anyway-harmless i say. i kind of wish i hadn't but dang it i DO want to go to the place. it is a tad expensive but you can take coolers, your own grill or they have them already, nice grounds etc., i thought i had a family reunion that same day and i mentioned it in passing the other day and he acted disappointed and said, that's my b'day. otherwise not a peep. he may plan to go missing like he did last f'ing weekend.

    i should've added-oh, and when you drop the kids off you can dispose of me at the same time-LoL.. i probably won't hear from him the rest of the month.

    i think mom has a delayed case of nerves, hostess to some southern Bible belt women for bridge and lunch, six fallen trees, lonely and sad for weeks, mad about the concert, the above the clouds about the date. I hope so! well no upset tummy but you know.. i'm sure the beotch books are helping her mind go places too..

    we will just pray.



  • another quickie to mom- per my beotch tutorial-IF you decide to break that date(don't) there is an example of DIGNITY. but remember my first rule is PATIENCE, THEN COMPOSURE!!

    oh yeaPRINCESS! i have another sports fan with me!! smile and let me know when the wine date is!! i look forward to it. did you see where i said never skimp on the shoes?!! you have computer access now LoL.

    well it's time to go home or somewhere! i am antsy but will not call him! see he did his # on me last night..called as soon as my phone was on, probably before, talked to me all the way thru the store into the house, get off and back on until almost 1:00. he came back to town last night and had just left the bar. was making sure i didn't go. if i'd wanted i would've!

    until later, keep fingers crossed i see him!!


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