Hans please



  • LittlemissLove,

    this should be the order of things:

    darkness in the past and light in the future; the dark

    age behind and the golden age ahead. If a bright future

    has to be created. hope, intense hope is necessary.

    Without hope you cannot build a beautiful future. In my

    view, lack of hope is one reason why modern man is

    stumbling in his onward journey. He is without hope for

    his future; it seems all is dark ahead. This darkness

    is of our own making.



  • drgagannagi,

    u mean i cannot be with ohers as well as him? yes.

    i need to choose? yes.

    between him? yes.

    oher men? no.

    but tell him what?


    that you drive just straight ahead and that you are taking the game too seriously.

    how i feel? no.

    how i want him to be with me? no.

    how am i betraying myself? The very question is out of fear. You want not to understand, so of course you

    are going to become a victim of somebody or some

    ideology which can help you. In fact that is the problem.

    I would like you to understand and change your life. It

    is

    a question of getting rid of your mask, of your false

    persona -- the way you have been trying to be and which

    is not a true way. You are not authentic. You are not

    sincere towards yourself; you have been betraying your

    being.

    how am i going to realise my own potencial? by breaking free from the emotions of any man.

    how am i unique? by accepting the invitation of existence to be yourself.

    what do you think lacks in my life that i need to accomplish? your strength.

    does he see me as a woman? no.

    as a friend? yes.

    what attracts him to me? your being distant and the devotion coming from deep inside you.

    what imagery does his brain gives him about me? the imagery of a blocked way, a cul-de-sac.

    It happened that a prostitute came to Socrates. She

    was a very intelligent woman and by and by she had

    become interested in what Socrates was teaching. When

    she came Socrates was sitting with a few friends, just

    ten, twelve friends. The prostitute said, 'Only ten,

    twelve persons come to you? Come sometimes to my house;

    there is always a queue waiting! The whole of Athens is

    mad for me, and you... only ten, twelve people?'

    Socrates looked at her and said, 'You are right,

    because you offer something which everybody needs. I

    offer something which rarely, very rarely somebody

    needs, so I have a few friends; you have many friends.'

    The woman thought about it, bowed down to Socrates

    and said, 'Accept me also as a friend.'

    So if you cannot fit with the society create a small

    oasis.



  • Hans ,yes i agree with that.After the rain comes the sun.:D.Only the change is constant in life.

    Yes hope is important.Without hope ,we get lost.But sometimes we get tired of waiting for something,so we lose hope.

    Can I ask...

    is it this period of life good for me?

    will I be in relationnship with that guy I mentioned?

    will he make me happy?



  • is it this period of life good for me? no.

    will I be in relationnship with that guy I mentioned? yes.

    will he make me happy? no.

    Your choice is your independence.



  • but tell him what?


    that you drive just straight ahead and that you are taking the game too seriously.

    it means hans that i should tell him that im taking HIS and MINE friendship very seriously and I am gonna MARRY HIM....Im BENT upon that.....

    You think THIS is what i should tell HIM?

    What I should tell him?



  • drgagannagi

    You think THIS is what i should tell HIM? No.

    What I should tell him? You have died for me, I am on a transformation.

    "But," you should say, "this is absolutely ugly. It is not friendship that you are practicing; you are cheating poor people, innocent -- and you call it love."



  • thank you 🙂

    I'm unsure,about him .so I just don't know.I will wait him to contact me ,and see what to do then.



  • Dear Hans

    hope all is well with you. It seems that Js relationship with with N is over and she is slowly moving out of the flat - is this true?

    J has emailed me this evening to say that he has met wit hthe minister of our church yesterday (which I knew) and he is seriously considering whether or not he can come back because he doesnt know if he can guarantee not to make the same mistake again

    I have emailed him back saying that he will hurt us all more if he doesnt come back.

    What should I do?

    UBB x



  • LittlemissLove,

    the experience of truth changes everything.

    It is such a great inner revolution that the whole

    body is bound to follow it.

    Truth brings beauty, compassion, charisma.

    But just look should not matter to you; what matters is

    truth.



  • Ultrablondbird,

    It seems that Js relationship with with N is over and she is slowly moving out of the flat - is this true? No.

    What should I do? In fact you want love, but you are afraid of being alone, of living without given rules. But keeping to this perilous course of the heart will result in unexpected reward.

    Martha Grumble and Mildred Mousebreath, two

    middle-aged housewives, are sharing confidences over a

    cup of coffee.

    "I don't know what to do about my husband anymore,"

    sniffs Martha. "He never comes home until three in the

    morning."

    "Oh dear!" sighs Mildred. "My husband used to be like

    that -- but not anymore!"

    "Really?" asks Martha. "What made him change?"

    "What made him change, my dear," says Mildred, smiling,

    "is that every time he crept through the door at three

    o'clock in the morning, I would sweetly call out, `Is

    that you, Raymond?'"

    "Is that all there is to it?" asks Martha.

    "That's right!" explains Mildred.

    "But I don't understand," says Martha. "Why would that

    stop him?"

    "Simple," explains Mildred. "Because his name is

    Sidney."



  • What I should tell him? You have died for me, I am on a transformation.

    "But," you should say, "this is absolutely ugly. It is not friendship that you are practicing; you are cheating poor people, innocent -- and you call it love."

    You mean he is cheatinginnocent people ( me) me by saying its love and friendship???, or you mean i am ( cheating poor innocent people) doing this to him?

    Saying this to him would lead to what?

    is it over for me and him?



  • Hans 🙂

    when u say I have to stick to this perilous course of the heart do u mean I have to get used to being alone?

    When u say it will bring great rewards what do u mean

    ubb

    x



  • drgagannagi,

    You mean he is cheating by saying its friendship??? Yes.

    or you mean i am ( cheating poor innocent people) doing this to him? yes.

    Saying this to him would lead to what? Though you get in the way, no harm is done.

    is it over for me and him? no.

    If you look at the rich people,

    they seem to be the sinners. They are! -- exploiting,

    cheating, deceiving. And the poor people, who are

    innocent in a way, are not doing any harm to anybody,

    they are 'the sinners of the past'. This does not seem

    logical, because if a man has been a sinner for so many

    lives, he will be a sinner in this life too. More is

    the possibility of his being a sinner rather than being

    an ordinary, innocent, poor person. And if people have

    been great saints in their past lives, then they cannot

    be black marketeers -- that will not be logical. Then

    they cannot go on exploiting people; their sainthood

    will not allow that. So this is a very tricky thing -- great strategy,

    great politics in it.



  • You say he is cheating me by saying it is friendship? Yes

    Then what is it hans, if it is not friendship?

    How is he cheating or using me, in what ways?

    I always confronted him many times saying that what he shares with me is not friendship, its a relationship, but he does everything with me, still only thing i get called is " you are my friend" never lover or girlfriend or he loves me. It hurts so much when he never gives me the correct designation hans.

    what should become of this man and me? is he committement phobic? what prevents him from calling me his beloved? is this allaince imaginary or we are to each other what i think, hans?



  • Then what is it hans, if it is not friendship?

    drgagannagi,

    How is he cheating or using me, in what ways? By gorging you on tempting sweets, devoid of nutritional value. Such heedless compulsiveness carries longlasting consequences.

    what should become of this man and me? you should become courageous enough to go on your own way into the unknown, trusting your heart and not hearing on your mind which always wants to be safe and secure.

    is he committement phobic? no.

    what prevents him from calling me his beloved? his father who dominates him with his mind.

    is this allaince imaginary or we are to each other what i think, hans? you are to each other what you think.

    Not only is this cooperation needed from you; you

    must ask, you must request, you must invite and pray,

    so that all the forces of the world, all the forces of

    the universe cooperate with you.



  • will i become courageous and be with him? or i will leave him?

    will i listen to my heart and go with him? or will i marry elsewhere for a safer traditional life?

    he is not committement phobic as you say. will he give me committement?

    he has no father, he expired 10 years back, but his mother and sister dominate him.

    they want him to marry in his religious sect, someone younger, meek and docile.

    will he ever get out of his family dominaion? will he stand against his family for being with me?



  • hans,

    please help me i feel like my husband is trying to find some way to destroy our marriage he is always flirting with others but with me nothing. he would not have sex with me for 7 months then it is quick fast and over with then nothing for months again. we will be married 5 years sept 28. i don'y feel like he loves or sexually desires me at all anymore. the only thing i seem to have left in our marriage is to be his slave and cleaner everything else he gets outside of marriage and when i get jealous he calls me a physco bitch and then he leaves and is gone over night god only knows and says it is none of my business i am going crazy... please help me



  • drgagannagi

    will i become courageous and be with him? yes.

    or i will leave him? no.

    will i listen to my heart ? yes.

    or will i marry elsewhere for a safer traditional life? no.

    will he give me committement? no.

    will he ever get out of his family dominaion? yes.

    will he stand against his family ? yes.

    My effort is absolutely against traditional

    religions. It may be Christianity, Hinduism, Jainism,

    Buddhism, it doesn't matter. All the religions have

    been life-negative. They decided to be life-negative

    for the simple reason that that was the only way to

    prove who is holy and who is unholy: the people who

    love life are unholy. Everybody loves life -- that is

    natural. Then the holy man has to do something to prove

    that he is higher, superior. He has to do something

    just the opposite of the ordinary humanity. He has to

    be extraordinary, and nothing makes him more

    extraordinary than going against life. He starts

    swimming against the current. He becomes special, very

    special. But this is the way of the ego, not the way of

    God. And the saints have been more egoistic than

    anybody else. They are not saints really. They are

    suffering from megalomania.



  • TDSMITH0928

    please help me: you are losing contact with your interior, try to regain it.

    please help me: you think you could find your peace in your marriage. find your inner peace.

    Force of habit helps to keep order in quiet times; but in periods when there is a great storing up of energy, everything depends on the power of the personality. However, it is an advantage not to eat at home but rather to earn your bread by entering upon public office.

    Ordinarily the mind says, “Nothing is right.” Ordinarily the mind goes on finding complaints – “This is wrong, that is wrong….” Ordinarily mind is negative: it is a no-sayer, it says no easily. It is very difficult for the mind to say yes because once you say yes the mind stops; then there is no need for the mind. Have you watched this phenomenon? When you say no, mind can think on and on and on because “no” is not the end. “No” has no full stop to it; it is just a beginning. “No” is a starting phenomenon; “yes” is the end. When you say yes, there comes a full stop; now there is nothing for the mind to think about, to grumble about, to grudge, to complain – nothing. Once you say yes, mind stops; and that very stopping of the mind is contentment.



  • but why does he treat me like trash and the ones he is flirting with like they are everything. could you tell me is he cheating with the one he is working with. i just don't know if by just telling him yes go flirt and chase every blond thing you can find and i will just sit here and wait for you to finish and wait on you and be your slave is going to make it positiv so is this all there is to love???


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