Hans please



  • could I have a reading please, sir?!! You will do things properly.

    I don't understand: The way is blocked.

    Will he call me soon?? Yes.

    Will I still see him?? Yes.

    Is he in my life for the long haul?? No.

    My DOB March 18, 1960 5:39 AM, Paducah, KY: This indicates many challenges in love and feelings in your close relationships. This can manifest as betrayal by those you love. In any case, you will be tested to see just how attached you are to others being a certain way.

    It promises success in love if you try a new approach and adopt a more selfless or unattached attitude. If you can allow others to be who they are and not place so many demands upon them, you not only become more aware of their true personalities, but also you allow yourself the freedom to be just who you are and experience just how it feels to be free of fear and attachment. Many high spiritual experiences could occur.

    Thank you so much for any help/ insight you can give to me!!!! Struggle for that what you want.

    I was reading about a Quaker, a very religious

    Quaker. One night, a thief entered. The Quaker got his

    gun. He wanted to say: 'You son of a bitch,' but he

    couldn't say that. A quaker, a religious person, how

    can he say that? So he said: 'Dear sir, you are

    standing in the place where I am going to shoot. Please

    don't move! And I don't intend to kill you; this is

    just accidental. You are standing in the place where I

    am going to shoot.' How can a Quaker kill?

    You go on deceiving. Your language, your philosophy,

    your religion -- everything.



  • Will the woman who enters his life be his girlfriend?

    his wife?

    so you say he will love her?

    n never love me?

    then how come we both can be life long lovers as you say?

    and you say he will love her because she will be in agreement with him all the time? am i not? don't i care for him? I gave him the blood from my heart? always cared for him?

    hans, i do not seek any illegitiate relationships, neither im seeking to be non traditional, Im just asking whether in the future I can marry this man? What do I have to change so that he starts thinking about marriage?

    If you don't see marriage at all, i would like to cutt off from this person and live single peacefully till I meet my future husband.

    Tht is what I want and hope for.

    Hans, how can you tell a girl that the man she loves will be in matrimony with another girl, whereas she will have no one in her life atall, or will have random loves?

    I don't want to bite on rented bread , hans, hopping from one man's bed to another, I want food that I earned with my own blood and sweat, I want someone I call my own.

    I have been there for him 4 years now, toiling with every situation just to be together,

    I want to know whether we will be husband and wife? YES OR NO.

    Can I do something to make it happen by my own efforts? YES OR NO

    What is it that I can do?

    THANKS A LOT HANS FOR ALL YOUR EFFORT. I wish you all the best. I WILL TAKE ALL YOUR ADVICE AND BE ON MY OWN NOW. I FEEL VERY DEPRESSED HEARING ALL THIS.



  • Thank you drgagannagi,

    Will the woman who enters his life be his girlfriend? Yes.

    his wife? no.

    so you say he will love her? no.

    n never love me? no.

    then how come we both can be life long lovers as you say? because although you both are tense, you both can learn to relax.

    and you say he will love her because she will be in agreement with him all the time? no.

    am i not? no.

    don't i care for him? no.

    I gave him the blood from my heart? no.

    always cared for him? no.

    Im just asking whether in the future I can marry this man? Yes.

    What do I have to change so that he starts thinking about marriage? You have to open your heart giving your love to him, I mean really, not just in your mind.

    how can you tell a girl that the man she loves will be in matrimony with another girl, whereas she will have no one in her life atall, or will have random loves? by seeing your self imposed imprisonment, your living in your own grave, whereas you could get out of this, living a spontaneous life in the here and now.

    To accept the truth is dangerous. You will have to change yourself. You will have to change attitudes. You will have to change so much that it will be almost a death and a rebirth.

    I want to know whether we will be husband and wife? YES OR NO. NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!

    Can I do something to make it happen by my own efforts? YES OR NO. YES.

    What is it that I can do? You can be utterly identified with your will power, trying to dominate him.

    The way to be at ease is, when you meet a person and

    you fall in love you should start thinking,'How should

    I change to make things move smoothly with the other?'

    That has always been the way in the East. You will find

    thousands of couples living together beautifully, and

    they have nothing to be happy about. Life is not good,

    money is not there, facilities are not there. They are

    poor but they are happy, because in India the basic

    thing is that when a person falls in love he starts

    thinking, 'What should I do so that the other need not

    change too much?' And the same is thought by the other;

    that has been the basic philosophy of life there. Things

    settle sooner or later because both are trying so that

    the other need not change too much, so the pressure is

    not too much on the other. And then there is great joy

    because you love the person, so if the person goes to

    hell, you go to hell. What of New York? If you love the

    person you go to hell!



  • this time these four little stars try to conceal: h e l l



  • In your last reading to me:

    1. Im just asking whether in the future I can marry this man? Yes.

    2. I want to know whether we will be husband and wife? YES OR NO. NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!

    3. Can I do something to make it happen by my own efforts? YES OR NO. YES.

    4. What is it that I can do? You can be utterly identified with your will power, trying to dominate him.

    1. Hans, You say I will marry this man in the future you say YES ???

    2. but i ask you will we be husband and wife you say NO???. these are two OPPOSITE answers, If I can marry him I will be his WIFE and he will be my HUSBAND, HANS???,

    3. I ask you can I make it happen, You say YES

    4. by making effort to dominate him, I will be able to marry this man EVENTUALLY.

    RIGHT, This is all you mean?

    Hans, I am from India, So is he : )



  • drgagannagi

    1. Hans, You say I will marry this man in the future you say YES ??? YES!

    2. but i ask you will we be husband and wife you say NO??? NO!

    these are two OPPOSITE answers, If I can marry him I will be his WIFE and he will be my HUSBAND, HANS??? This is my defense against distortion. I write only that which is the case for me. It does not matter whether it contradicts anything written in the past. When it was written, it was true for the moment, what I am writing this moment is true to this moment. And there is no reason why you should bring those two different moments, two different situations together, and get unnecessarily puzzled that they are contradictory.

    RIGHT, This is all you mean? No.

    A poor Englishman worked his whole life to educate

    his only daughter born from a birth that left him a

    widower. With a very meager salary he saved hard to

    give the girl a decent education and had her entered in

    one of the best schools in the country.

    At the end of the year he went to pick up his

    daughter at the railway station.

    "Tell me all your news, darling," he asked his

    daughter.

    "Dad," said the girl, "you always trusted me so I

    want to tell you that during this last semester I lost

    my virginitude. "

    "Nooo!" says the father desperately. "I can't believe

    it. After all the sacrifices that I made to put you in

    the best school in the country, you can't even tell me

    this news in proper English?"



  • hans but you gave me the two answers IN THE VERY SAME READING ( I MEAN IN ONE READING AT ONE TIME YOU GAVE ME TWO DIFFERENT ANSWERS ON THE SAME DAY THAT IS.

    1. Im just asking whether in the future I can marry this man? Yes.

    2. I want to know whether we will be husband and wife? YES OR NO. NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!



  • drgagannagi,

    it is your life, not mine. And the future is not fixed or predetermined, as you seem to think. There are only unconscious tendencies, which are going to materialize. But the more you are becoming aware of these tendencies the more the future can be changed. And again, this is the paradox of any reading about the future: the moment any reading made you more aware of yourself, your tendencies, in just that moment future has changed, and the same reading that was true about your unconscious tendencies is now no more valid because you became more aware of it. So in fact any reading about the future is only a reading about you in this here and in this now, because future does not exist, there exists only this eternal Here and Now.

    Feinberg was on the subway when a man came up to him

    and asked if he had the time. Feinberg didn't answer

    him. The man thought he hadn't heard so he asked again.

    Still Feinberg said nothing. Finally the man walked

    away toward the other end of the platform.

    After he was gone another rider approached Feinberg.

    'Excuse me, sir, but that seemed like a perfectly

    reasonable question. I notice you are wearing a watch.

    Why didn't you give him the time?'

    'Well,' replied Feinberg, 'I'll tell you why. I'm

    standing minding my own business, and this guy wants to

    know what time it is. So maybe I tell him what time it

    is. Then we get to talking, and this guy says "How

    about a drink?" So we have a drink, then we have some

    more drinks. So after a while I say, "How about coming

    up to my house for a bite to eat?" So we go up to my

    house, and we're eating sandwiches in the kitchen when

    my daughter comes in -- and my daughter is a very

    good-looking girl. So she falls for this guy, and he

    falls for her. Then they get married!'

    The other man was staring at Feinberg in utter

    amazement. But Feinberg went on. 'And any guy that

    can't afford a watch I don't want for a son-in-law!'



  • the story is fantastic hans.

    getting away from my topic, can you tell me what weaknesses you see in my personality?



  • can you tell me what weaknesses you see in my personality? there is a weakness inside of your own body. Get control of yourself. This temptation has you rooting like a hog. Only self-discipline can steer you off this road to disaster.

    Everything that you need is made available. You yourself can make it available. If you pool all your energies into one pool, things will become so simple.



  • i realise that hans, since long my energy has been so scaterred on my thoughts, my friends, random people that i hardly concentrate on my own goals even if i want to.

    do u think i should cut off with my boyfriend too? so that i am alone and can conc on my own life.



  • do u think i should cut off with my boyfriend too? yes.

    So whatsoever you are doing and where ever

    you are do it more consciously. For example, you can

    raise your hand without any consciousness, just

    unconsciously, out of habit. But you can raise your hand with full awareness.

    And you can see the difference between the two. The act

    is the same: one is mechanical, another is full of

    consciousness and the quality is tremendously

    different. Try it, because it is a question of taste

    and experience. Walking, just try for few minutes to

    walk consciously; each step be alert and you will be

    surprised that the quality of your walk is totally

    different, it is relaxed. There is no tension and there

    is a subtle joy that is arising out of your relaxed

    walking. And the more you become aware of this joy, the

    more you would like to be awake. Eating, eat with

    awareness. People are simply throwing food into their

    mouths, not even chewing it, just swallowing it. Few things happen as a by-product of

    awareness. Your eating will be slowed down. You will

    start chewing, because unless you chew your food you

    are putting unnecessary burden on your whole system.

    Your stomach has no teeth. Exactly one has to chew

    forty-two times each bite. Then anything that you are

    eating becomes liquid.A woman of awareness only drinks,

    because before she swallows she has changed that solid

    food into liquid. And the strange thing is when you are

    chewing forty-two times, you are enjoying so much the

    taste. One bite of an unconscious woman gives forty-two

    time more taste to the conscious woman. It is simple

    arithmetic: the unconscious woman will have to eat

    forty-two bites just to have the same taste, and then

    she becomes fat, and still unsatisfied. Still she feels

    to eat more. The woman of awareness eats only that much

    that her body needs. She immediately feels that now

    there is no need, the hunger is gone, she is content....

    Doing anything, so my meditation is a totally different

    kind of approach. It has to be spread all over your

    twenty-four hours. Even falling asleep remain alert how

    sleep is descending on you, so slowly, so silently, but

    you can hear the steps. The darkness is growing, you

    are relaxing -- you can feel the muscles, the body, the

    tense parts which are preventing the sleep -- and soon

    you will see the whole body has relaxed and the sleep

    has come. But slowly, slowly, a great revolution

    happens. Sleep comes to you, but something deep inside

    you goes on remaining awake, even in sleep.

    And unless a woman becomes aware in her sleep she is not

    aware, not awake; that is the criterion.And there are

    so many by products that you can judge. Dreams

    disappear, because dreams need you to be completely

    unconscious. They come from the unconscious mind. But

    if you are conscious, they cannot come. If dreams disappear in the night, the second thing

    will happen to you: in the daytime, thoughts will

    disappear. That does not mean you will become incapable

    of thinking, that simply means you will not just go on

    thinking mechanically, unnecessarily. You will be

    capable of thinking if you want to think, otherwise you

    will be silent.And a woman who can remain silent for

    hours is gathering energy so whenever she wants to think

    her thinking has some strength, some power, some

    tremendous energy. The ordinary people's thinking are

    just impotent, their thoughts are just vagrant...

    clouds floating in their mind. A woman of meditation will

    find dreams disappear and then the sleep is beauty,

    incomparable. Then sleep becomes spiritual and to

    transform sleep into spirituality is religion. Then

    your whole day becomes a day of silence. You will talk

    but something deep down in you will remain a silent

    witness. So you will not say things which will

    unnecessarily create trouble for you and trouble for

    others. You will say only that which is absolutely

    needed. You will say only the truth, otherwise you will

    be capable enough to say, "I do not know." You will not

    believe in anything. Either you will know it or you

    will not know it. Belief is a deception: you don't

    know, yet you pretend as if you know. All these people

    in temples, in churches, in synagogues, what they are

    doing? Whom they are praying?



  • thank you hans for the enlightening words. i am going to concentrate on many goals now....i want more time and energy for myself.

    also hans...

    till now the friendship or what i have shared with my boyfriend fake? what does he have for me? love? fruiendship? respect? using me?

    do you want me to let go of him? do u want me to leave him? never be with him?

    what do you suggest for me as my mentor?



  • drgagannagi,

    till now the friendship or what i have shared with my boyfriend fake? till now the friendship.

    what does he have for me? he does not need support from anyone.

    love? no.

    fruiendship? yes.

    respect? yes.

    using me? no.

    do you want me to let go of him? no.

    do u want me to leave him? no.

    never be with him? no.

    what do you suggest for me as my mentor? you have to learn to defend your own stand, against all expectations and demands. Being together with another does not mean, that you have to give up what you are, what you want, what you feel, what you think. If you do not accept yourself as you are, the other will you not accept either. To submit to insult is to invite injury.

    Nadine, a pretty maid, was alone in the apartment

    where she worked and decided to lie down and rest for a

    while on the couch. After a few minutes, there was a

    knock on the door.

    "Who is there?" she asked.

    "The grocer," was the reply.

    "What do you have for me?"

    "Some staples."

    "Leave them in the hall, will you?"

    A few minutes later there was another knock. "Yes?"

    she asked.

    "It is the egg man."

    "Oh, what do you have for me?"

    "Four dozen eggs."

    "Please leave them with the groceries."

    A few minutes after, still another knock. "Now what

    is it?"

    "The superintendent."

    "What do you have for me?"

    "I've got an urge."

    "Well, come in then. That won't keep."

    And there are urges and urges; you are exploding with

    urges, desires.



  • you are again right hans, i have desires urges and i am suppressing them because i want to be loyal to him.

    can i be with others? i can aso be with him at the same time?

    should i let him know? or this is my own private life? i can keep my secrets to myself?



  • drgagannagi

    can i be with others? no.

    i can aso be with him at the same time? no.

    should i let him know? yes.

    or this is my own private life? yes!

    i can keep my secrets to myself? no.

    And I would like

    you to discover yourself. And

    everybody is so unique that if he follows somebody else

    he will be only an imitator. She will never know her own

    essential being. If she follows somebody else's

    teaching, she will remain blind. Her beliefs will keep

    her tethered to the chains given by somebody else. I

    want you to

    become yourself. You will be unique, and this is the

    greatest opportunity nature has given to you... to be

    yourself. Not to be anybody else. This is the respect

    existence has paid to you. Fulfill it. Don't become a

    hypocrite. Become an authentic, sincere being. Let your

    own potential blossom. Somebody will may blossom into a

    rose, somebody in a marigold, somebody in a lotus. And

    if every woman achieves her potentiality, this world will

    become so beautiful, so valuable. It will not be a

    crowd. There will not be any crowd at all. There will

    be only unique individuals. If you do not do this, you

    are betraying existence, and betraying your own self.

    That is the only sin I know of. To betray yourself.



  • Hans ,your answers look very interesting 🙂

    I have some doubts about men I like

    does he like me like a women ,not just like a friend

    does he think about me

    will he try to contact me soon

    ..Is it late for us?



  • LittlemissLove,

    does he like me like a women ,not just like a friend: yes.

    does he think about me: no.

    will he try to contact me soon: yes.

    ..Is it late for us? No.

    You are not preparing for any examination, you

    are preparing for an explosion. And the explosion is

    not going to happen in your memory, it is going to

    happen in your heart. And the heart knows; it has its

    own ways of knowing.



  • Thank you :)))

    I hope we will be together,.and I am ready for my heart to explode .I really like him.:)



  • can i be with others? no.

    i can aso be with him at the same time? no.

    should i let him know? yes.

    or this is my own private life? yes!

    i can keep my secrets to myself? no.

    u mean i cannot be with ohers as well as him? i need to choose? between him? oher men?

    u say tell him. but tell him what?


    how i feel? how i want him to be with me?

    how am i betraying myself?

    how am i going to realise my own potencial?

    how am i unique?

    what do you think lacks in my life that i need to accomplish?

    does he see me as a woman? as a friend?

    what attracts him to me?

    what imagery does his brain gives him about me?


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