Hans please



  • drgagannagi,

    pleasure only deepens people's misery because it

    becomes a contrast, a backdrop. Hence the very strange

    phenomenon: the richer a society is, the more

    miserable; the poor a society is, the less miserable.

    In other words: the more miserable people are, the less

    miserable they are, because they don't have

    anything with which to compare. They have never known

    pleasure so they think this is what life is all about.

    They are accustomed to misery.



  • Dear Hans, You seem to be a godsend for me, i have been searching for someone to give me some insight into my life and then i see this forum. Anyway can i please request a reading for myself and my love interest? His name is ankit arora dob. 29.11.1982 born in delhi, india. We have gone on a few dates and I really thought he had feelings for me but recently he has distanced himself and is not so much in touch.

    I want to know what kind of a person he is, if he has told me his honest feelings about me. I want to know if he is in love with me and if not is there a chance of him ever being in love with me? If yes, then when will this happen? will we get married? I also want to know if this alliance happens will it be favourable for both of us. And is it good if i express my feelings for him?

    If you could also do a reading for my finances and other aspects it would be great. my dob is 19.02.1982 born in bongaigaon, india.



  • Oh hans, who is the best for me, the white guy? the new indian guy? the guy in class? som eone else in the future?



  • swat4u,

    i please request a reading for myself and my love interest? You already presage invisible problems. A strong, addictive temptation, much more dangerous than it seems. You are ignoring a clear and present danger to your well-being. If this threat emanated from a heavy-handed oppressor, you would see it coming. But this danger comes to you in the form of a seduction, an amusement, a diversion, an indulgence that is eating away at the fiber of your secure little world.

    You are too cocksure. You underestimate the tribute this dalliance will demand.

    I want to know what kind of a person he is: he has been committed to the so-called realism and seeks for recognition, validation, confirmation in the material.

    if he has told me his honest feelings about me: yes.

    I want to know if he is in love with me: no.

    and if not is there a chance of him ever being in love with me? no.

    If yes, then when will this happen? only when you dominate him with your will power.

    will we get married? yes.

    if this alliance happens will it be favourable for both of us: no.

    And is it good if i express my feelings for him? no.

    do a reading for my finances and other aspects: go on your own way following your own light. Find common ground between points of contention, wearing away rigid perspectives that would lead to fatal error. You may cross to the far shore. Great fortune if you stay on course. Discover a key to tranquility by first gaining insight into your own nature, then turning that vision outward. By resolving inner conflicts and being at peace with yourself, learn to gain insight into others. In effect, enter another, see with the other's eyes, listen with the other's ears, feel with the other's heart. Then return to your own center, with new perspective and understanding.

    my dob is 19.02.1982 born in bongaigaon, india: this is a powerful influence of balance and peace in personal relationships. How it affects you will largely depend upon your current status in your love life and how responsible you have been in that area. This will demand that all outstanding love debts be settled and will encourage you to take responsibility for your actions and words in your closest relationships. You may find that you have to make compromises and adjustments to accomplish this as well. On a more universal level, this may also reveal to you a special purpose in your life, one of helping others by sharing love with them. You may become aware of a special mission that you are to perform. It means peace and intuitively knowing how to love others in a spiritual sense.

    I remember an anecdote about Chuang Tzu:

    Whenever someone would say something to him, even before he had said it, Chuang Tzu would say, “Good, very good!” This was a habit. So sometimes the situation would become very awkward, because someone was saying something which was not good, and he would not even hear. He would say, “Good, very good!”

    Someone says, “My wife has died,” and Chuang Tzu says, “Good, very good!” as if he has not heard. Someone says, “My house has been broken into during the night, burgled,” and he says, “Good, very good!”

    One day someone says, “Your son has fallen from the tree and broken both his legs.”

    He says, “Good, very good!”

    So people began to think, “It seems he doesn’t know the meaning, what good means,” because if there is nothing bad, when everything is good, then you are crossing the boundaries of language.

    So the whole village gathered and they asked him, “Please be kind enough to tell us what you mean by good, because we have been reporting all kinds of things, even misfortunes, deaths have been reported, and you say, ‘Good!’ And this morning your own son has fallen from the tree, both legs broken. He was your help in old age, the only help. He was serving you up until now – now you will have to serve him. In your extreme old age it is a misfortune, but you said, ‘Good!’”

    Chuang Tzu said, “Wait, because life is a very complex affair.”

    And the next day it happened that the country was involved with the neighboring country, at war, and every young man was to be compulsorily recruited into the military. Only Chuang Tzu’s son was left because his legs were crippled. So they said, “You have a very deep insight into things it seems. You said good, and it has turned out to be good.”

    But Chuang Tzu said, “Wait! Don’t be in a hurry. Life is very complex and things go on happening. Things go on happening….”

    The son had just become engaged to a girl, but the next day the family refused to let her marry him, because now there was no hope of him ever being able to walk again, his legs were so badly injured. So again the people said, “It seems to be a bad thing after all.”

    Chuang Tzu said, “Wait! Don’t be in a hurry. Life is very patient.”

    After a week, the girl who was going to be his son’s wife, whom the family denied to him, died suddenly. So the villagers came again and they said, “What are you doing? You have a very uncanny insight. Did you see it, that she was going to die?”

    Chuang Tzu goes on saying, “Wait! Wait!”



  • drgagannagi,

    who is the best for me: a rich man, who dominates you with his money.

    the white guy? no.

    the new indian guy? no.

    the guy in class? no.

    som eone else in the future? yes.

    The college psychology class was studying human

    reactions to sexual stimulus and of special interest

    was the frequency of amorous relations.

    'How many students here,' said the professor, 'engage

    more than once a week?

    Five people raised their hands.

    'And how many engage once a week?' Ten hands went up.

    'How many twice a month?' Eight hands went up.

    'Once a month?' Four hands were raised.

    'And how many once a year?'

    A little guy in the back waved his hand frantically and

    giggled hysterically.

    'If you engage only once a year,' said the professor,

    'I don't see what you are so overjoyed about.'

    Flushed with excitement, the little guy said, 'Yes, but

    tonight's the night!'



  • Dear Hans, thank you for doing the reading for me. i have recently gained a deeper understanding about myself and become more inclined to understand my spiritual nature, i will take your advice and try to find the right way.

    about the reading which you did for my future with Ankit, does this mean that I should distance myself completely from him and not contact him at all? Because my feelings for him as you rightly said are very strong and addictive. And my heart desires a future for us very strongly and i have a feeling that my will-power is strong enough to summon his love. But will marriage be bad for both of us? In other words can you please guide me to the right direction because at the present moment my feelings for him are too strong to listen to my brains.

    I had a relationship with a man but decided to break it, one of the reasons being my new love interest and the other being a future which goes against my true self. Did I make the right decision by breaking this up? His DOB is 25.11.1979 born in kolkata, india.

    I am scared about the future right now after going through your reading but the temptation is so strong that my heart will overrule my head, but if you can forsee that there is no future between me and my love interest which brings us happiness and love i don' think there is a point in continuing our alliance. But if there is a chance that he will love me one day, i am ready to take the risk. Can you please give me some guidance??



  • so what role will these three guys play in my life? What will my equation be, friends, love interest, short term, long term with, white, indian, guy in class?



  • swat4u,

    does this mean that I should distance myself completely from him and not contact him at all? yes.

    But will marriage be bad for both of us? No.

    please guide me to the right direction: the problem is, that your thoughts and values are material. Try to go beyond that.

    Did I make the right decision by breaking this up? No.

    His DOB is 25.11.1979 born in kolkata, india: He is more spiritual. He is always confronted with how attached he is to his money and given an opportunity to experience the real prosperity that comes with an attitude of gratitude. Whether it is about money, plans to make money, or love, situations will present themselves that test his faith in the abundance of the universe. By realizing and then releasing his fears, he can transform his attachment into total fearlessness and personal freedom.

    Can you please give me some guidance?? Let that die and be reborn anew.

    And the whole

    question is within you; it has nothing to do with the

    outer. If you can relax within yourself and if

    you can feel compassion for them -- because they have

    suffered in their own way... They have wasted their

    whole life, now they want to waste your life, because

    that is the only way they know how to live. Great

    compassion is bound to arise in you, and out of that

    compassion maybe you can be of some help to them

    because compassion functions in a very subtle way. Love

    is the greatest magic in the world.



  • drgagannagi,

    so what role will these three guys play in my life? the role of the emperor of your life.

    What will my equation be, friends, love interest, short term, long term with, white, indian, guy in class? long term with white and short term friends with guy in class.

    And this is just the beginning or the interest. Time seems too short, not enough at all to attain to such great heights.



  • with the guy in class, you said short term friends, love? does he see me in a ***ual way or just a friendly way? fling?



  • drgagannagi,

    with the guy in class, you said short term friends, love? no.

    does he see me in a ***ual way or just a friendly way? neither nor.

    fling? no.

    Even enemies can fight in a friendly way. But it is just the opposite today: even as friends we are inimical to each other. There was a time when wars were made in a friendly way, and now even friendship is not friendship; it is just a kind of intimate enmity. Time was when even enemies were friends, and now even friends are enemies.



  • the white guy called after a week bt i sent him some pictures of me with a girlfriend and suddenly instead of appreciating me he goes oh my god ur friend is so beautiful im in love with her??? i got so pissed of? and then he asked me is it ok with you if i say this about her? he should know this is not called for behaviour?

    then he called i was angry , he said oh lets keep in touch, i said if we dont meet, how can we decide whether we want to keep in touch, n he complained his car is a piece of junk n all...

    Whats this guy doing with me? Why he told me abt my girlfriend when he ought to impress me?

    and the new indian guy told m,e he cant call, been over two weeks because he has some project?

    am i coming on too strong ? r they wanting a relationship? or just wasting my time?



  • drgagannagi,

    im in love with her??? no.

    i got so pissed of? no.

    he should know this is not called for behaviour? no.

    Whats this guy doing with me? He is burdening you too much.

    Why he told me abt my girlfriend when he ought to impress me? Because he wants to dominate you with his will power.

    and the new indian guy told m,e he cant call, been over two weeks because he has some project? no.

    am i coming on too strong ? yes.

    r they wanting a relationship? no.

    or just wasting my time? yes.

    Is it not time

    enough that we should see the whole stupidity of the

    game? But what has happened? Man remains in the

    same darkness, in the same misery, in the same hell.

    Yes, this goes on giving us hope -- a hope for a

    better tomorrow, which never comes. Tomorrows never

    come.



  • in the same h e l l .



  • u mean he appreciated the other girl because he wanted to gain a hold over me and make me feel bad...?

    u said hans im going to have a long term with this white guy?

    so, now u say that both d white and the indian guy are wasting my time? and they don't want any relationship with me?



  • u mean he appreciated the other girl because he wanted to gain a hold over me and make me feel bad...?

    u said hans im going to have a long term with this white guy?

    so, now u say that both d white and the indian guy are wasting my time? and they don't want any relationship with me?



  • drgagannagi,

    u mean he appreciated the other girl because he wanted to gain a hold over me and make me feel bad...? no.

    u said hans im going to have a long term with this white guy? yes.

    so, now u say that both d white and the indian guy are wasting my time? no.

    and they don't want any relationship with me? no.

    u mean he appreciated the other girl because he wanted to gain a hold over me and make me feel bad...? no.

    u said hans im going to have a long term with this white guy? no.

    so, now u say that both d white and the indian guy are wasting my time? no.

    and they don't want any relationship with me? yes.

    Existence is one. The existence we know and which is

    in the world of our mind is dual. Everything there is

    arranged thus -- among the opposites; like an architect

    making an arc. In fact the word architect means one who

    makes arcs. The art behind the making of an are

    comprises in the inverse arrangement of bricks. Half

    bricks are placed in inverted arrangement along the are

    and this is why the arch can bear any weight above. The

    reverse placing of the bricks causes them to press

    against each other. They are always at war with each

    other and this generates power. This power upholds the

    whole building. One might think, if the reverse

    position of bricks creates so much force. what if we

    placed all the bricks in one position? The arc will

    never be made. It is the reverse arrangement that

    generates a force capable of upholding the whole

    structure.



  • Hans, thank your answer to me. this may sound so silly, but I can't shake the feeling that my life has been cursed, for ever I have felt like there was a financial curse, then a few years ago my oldest boy died, then my husband of close to 40 years was caught, on our anniversary, having an affair with my oldest friend, even after he was caught he kept seeing her, trying to create some kind of polygamist situation, it was a long struggle, I asked for a divorce after working on it for a year, and 2 days later he had a massive hemoragic stroke, so I brought him home from the hospital, after he had been in the VA for 4 weeks, and after I found out he had had his "girlfriend" come see him, I think it was when she saw him like that, she backed out of the situation, I didn't have the heart to put him out on the street, then we found out he had advanced prostate cancer. I found out in the following weeks that he was nothing of the hero I had thought he was, NOTHING... he was a thief,, a real one who stolid from stores, a massive lier, he made twice the money I had always thought, and let us loose everything, power, water, go with out groceries, ect ect ect all the while convincing me that he was doing his real best. He is a porn addict, I really didn't know any of this until after the cancer was found, I work retail, and bring home 9 dollars an hour and because Barnes and Noble is struggling my hours are cut from almost 40 a week to sometimes 18 or maybe 25, but Im financing dieting here. it goes on and on, I could fill volumes with stuff he not only has been doing all these years, but continues to do. Now I know that our natural reaction, is WHY IN THE HELL IS HE STILL IN YOUR HOUSE, but how do you put ANYONE, let alone the father of your children out on the street? He can't work, he get social security, but I need his thousand dollar check each week, just to make ends meet. Im so unhappy, sometimes I think about driving off the cliff literally, I really do, Im not being dramatic...I promise, I just want away from him, I want to live a happy satisfactory ife, but I can't kick him out, I couldn't do it to anyone... and inspire of it all, he is still a human being. We live separately in the same house, he in one part of the house, me in another. Next June Ill have to either sell my house (after living there for almost 30 years, and raising all my children here, and wanting to stay here the rest of my life, it breaks my heart) and I figure that will be the time i can make a run for it. I m so scared to look for another job, I love working in a book store... its a happy place for me, but realistically.... I can't survive money wise there. I have to go out and look, but Im almost 60, who will want me at that age to work for them? Im not interested in another relationship, I find the idea of living alone really wonderful, I can go there in my imagination and it feels like nirvana, But Hans, I honestly honestly feel like there has been a curse put on my and my life. I don't know by who, or why or what to do about it. Im tires of being a victim, powerless over such a thing... What can you tell me? and what kind of reading do you do? Tarot, or just vision. I know this is a lot, but I wanted you to understand how complicated it is.

    I will be anxious to hear what you find. Thank you so very much... Ettabet



  • ettabet,

    who will want me at that age to work for them? someone who is starting something, needing help.

    What can you tell me? You have cursed yourself, you are living self-imprisoned, waiting for a strong impulse from outside to set you free, free to live a happy life. You are already in your grave waiting for resurrection.

    and what kind of reading do you do? Tarot, I Ching, astrology.

    I will be anxious to hear what you find: your curse is that you fit in with the norms of the society. It is no mistake if roaming your own garden and courtyard, you never stray out the gate.

    Ettabet, mind becomes the knot, because the watcher is forgotten in this mental projection.



  • HANS, something new has happenned and i want to consult you.

    last week on wednesday nite i was online on a dating site where i contacted a profile, he just wrote back the next minute, and said he was coming for some professional work to my place which is a seven hrs drive from his place, in the next 6 months he's planning to move here so wanted to fix up his job n apartment.

    we met the next day n just hit it off, we seemed to get along very well, the chemistry seemed right too, he asked me about my plans for marriage n kids n wht i think of this relationship's future...., he's greek american, im indian n new to america but he has lot of indian friends n seems to know alot abt my religion n culture, n im very open to meeting a guy from other nationality. we r both from exacltly the d same profession n he said alot about helping me settle down as well...., we discussed almost everything, though i gave him no relationship answers....

    he came to meet me the secondday too, we went out talked, the same thing as d last day n then he invited me to join him n visit his professional colleugues so he cud introduce me to them, but i had a party to go to n i declined....., he left the next day leaving a text that he'll see me soon, he mentioned in the meetings too tht he try to come over every weekend till i decide to visit his home n take a flight there...


    how you feel about him? is he going to be the one for me?

    He is everything i was looking for, but i want you to figure out is he really what seems to be?

    Is he going to be for long haul? will we marry each other?


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