Hans please



  • i did a celtic relation cross n got

    knight of cups in love and me

    the devil in love sitiuation

    temperence in love challenges

    what do they mean for me?



  • celtic relation cross? never heard of it. But anyway...

    Someone is approaching you offering his love.

    To be prepared against possible arising struggles for survival, to deal with the future, you want love to become marriage, a binding relationship, which will imprison you.

    The challenge in love is finding your other part, the male part, in yourself, meeting and merging with your more obvious female part of you instead of finding a man you can project your inner male part onto.

    There is no need to stop or drop judging people; you have to understand why you judge and how you judge.



  • why are things so complex, i am just looking for a happy marriage? where has that simplicity n simple life gone?



  • why are things so complex, i am just looking for a happy marriage? because you do not truly walk the golden mean, you do not defend against extravagances.

    where has that simplicity n simple life gone? the mistake is outside of you.

    When there are no more thoughts the heart becomes

    active. Love manifests when the intellect is

    undisturbed, when it is calm, at peace.



  • hi hans, i feel so disillusioned and lost...mostly.

    can u do a reading for my professional life/ career for me please.?

    how can i create more positivity, feel more happy and be a better person.?



  • can u do a reading for my professional life/ career for me please.? Make a journey following your heart. instead of following for dishonorable reasons. Pause for clarity and a return to integrity. Once actions are sincere, you may move forward blamelessly.

    how can i create more positivity, feel more happy and be a better person.? by not just being only outwardly directed. Even though you sincerely know you are right, anticipate opposition and carefully prepare for any incident. Good fortune if your conflict results in compromise.

    Misfortune if your conflict escalates to confrontation. Conflict is a necessary part of life. Tension upon the strings of a violin can make majestic music. The critical mass of two hydrogen atoms trying to occupy the same space fuel the sun that nourishes our solar system. Most conflicts you face in life are the result of your path converging with another's. Your Path is not his, and one Path is not necessarily more right than the other. By working together you remove the blockage.

    There is an old Sufi saying that if there has been a

    robbery and somebody has stolen something and people

    start crying for the thief, if the thief is there also,

    he cries the loudest: Where is the thief? Who has

    stolen this? This is bad, immoral! Catch hold of him,

    run and find him! He cries the loudest, that is his

    protection, because how could you think that a man who

    has been stealing, or who has just stolen something

    right now, could be so against the thief? But always

    remember that whenever a man is crying very loudly,

    catch him immediately, he is the thief. Whenever a man

    justifies, that shows his guilt, he knows that he needs

    justification.

    SO DO NOT JUSTIFY YOURSELF, AND BE THEREFORE

    FAR-FAMED.



  • hi hans. it was very good reading, can u explain more who is "his" and path converging with anothers, who is anothers..., just anyone or someone specific in my life.

    i will always have conflict? in my life? u mean to say wenever conflict arises i should compromise? i compromise if the other person is truthful, which is hardly in my life.

    can u read for my future on the whole?

    by not just being only outwardly directed. Even though you sincerely know you are right, anticipate opposition and carefully prepare for any incident. Good fortune if your conflict results in compromise.Misfortune if your conflict escalates to confrontation. Conflict is a necessary part of life. Tension upon the strings of a violin can make majestic music. The critical mass of two hydrogen atoms trying to occupy the same space fuel the sun that nourishes our solar system. Most conflicts you face in life are the result of your path converging with another's. Your Path is not his, and one Path is not necessarily more right than the other. By working together you remove the blockage.



  • can u explain more who is "his" and path converging with anothers: anyone, who invites you on his path, just because he is crossing your path.

    who is anothers..., just anyone or someone specific in my life: everyone, who wants to dominate you with his will-power.

    i will always have conflict? no.

    in my life? yes.

    u mean to say wenever conflict arises i should compromise? no.

    can u read for my future on the whole? you will allow others to dominate you. Carefully weave order out of confusion. Supreme success if you keep to your course. Carefully consider the first move. Seek help. New ventures always pack along their inherent chaos. Though this is an annoyance at best, and can even imperil or downright doom an endeavor, it is also the friction needed to polish your project to jewel brilliance. Learn from these early obstacles.

    When you are no more there, then you are for the

    first time. When you cannot find yourself anywhere,

    suddenly you are at home.



  • Hans, the guy i talk about in my life with you in all the readings you did......., told u that he went into bisexuality two years back, i thought its just for fun or experiimenting , but he's not been with me in two years, we r just together as friends...... and he has been with five boys since two yrs, he tells me everything.

    will his bisex end?

    will it lead him back to me?

    his family don't know about his inclnations.

    will they find out? when? when they find out will they preesurize him to change?

    will they force him to marry? will he marry ther choice in a hurry just to save face?

    will he tell them about his bisex and stand up for himself?

    will he seek me for help n leave them when they find out?

    will he always be like this now? will he still think of marrying a girl? will he marry me?



  • will his bisex end? yes.

    will it lead him back to me? yes.

    will they find out? when? yes.

    when they find out will they preesurize him to change? no.

    will they force him to marry? no.

    will he marry ther choice in a hurry just to save face? no.

    will he tell them about his bisex and stand up for himself? yes.

    will he seek me for help: no.

    n leave them when they find out? yes.

    will he always be like this now? no.

    will he still think of marrying a girl? no.

    will he marry me? no.

    The cannibal chief was preparing to cook the

    missionary who had been captured the day before.

    'You shouldn't eat him,' one of his advisors said.

    'He is a missionary -- a religious man.'

    'That's the reason I'm doing it,' the chief said. 'I

    think my people should have a taste of religion.'



  • thanks a lot hans,

    u say that his bisex will end ? yes

    will he marry any other girl? no

    will he marry me? no

    then what will happen?

    we won't be together as a couple in the future?



  • then what will happen? you will meet each other in fulfillment.

    we won't be together as a couple in the future? yes.

    There is going to be no ritual, so that one does not have any difficulty in leaving it when he feels like it. And it will not

    be a serious affair; so you need not be worried on this

    score. It should be a simple and natural thing.

    There will be no difficulty,

    because it is not going to be a lifelong commitment.



  • oh hans, but i need long term commitememt from this man.....

    i need it to be serious, for him to take it seriously.....

    why that can't happen? is this the ultmate truth that there will be no lifelong couple hood between us? or it will be but no ritual like marriage? will we be man and wife?

    he is the only one i have ever loved.



  • why that can't happen? because you should become able to handle many things playfully.

    is this the ultmate truth that there will be no lifelong couple hood between us? no.

    or it will be but no ritual like marriage? no.

    will we be man and wife? no.

    he is the only one i have ever loved: you really should love more.

    Seven-year-old Johnnie was walking home from school

    with his new seven-year-old girlfriend. Johnnie looks

    at her with worshipping eyes and says, "You are the

    first girl I have ever loved."

    "Bother it," she replied. "Just my luck -- another

    amateur."



  • u mean to say hans that i will have many lovers now?

    he will be just one of them?

    it will be a playful thing?

    is this the ultmate truth that there will be no lifelong couple hood between us? no.

    or it will be but no ritual like marriage? no.

    will we be man and wife? no

    will i marry at all?

    it is definate not him?

    does he care that he is the only one i love?

    does it matter to him?

    does he have any feelings for me?

    why is marriage not going to be for us?



  • u mean to say hans that i will have many lovers now? yes.

    he will be just one of them? no.

    it will be a playful thing? no.

    will i marry at all? no.

    it is definate not him? no.

    does he care that he is the only one i love? no.

    does it matter to him? yes.

    does he have any feelings for me? no.

    why is marriage not going to be for us? because that is your only concern.

    But that's how we have been conditioned for

    centuries: to take everything seriously. You should

    destroy your seriousness. That's why I have to search

    for all these stupid jokes, just to destroy your

    seriousness! In fact, it is very troublesome for me. It

    will be easier for me not to write you any jokes, but

    then you will become very very serious. Even writing

    you these jokes you go on clinging with your

    seriousness. You are trying to find some meaning.



  • yes, i am serious person hans n i thank u for what you r doing for me.

    but hans, i come from a traditional background. if i dont get married, my parents will almost be destroyed n ur sayng i will not marry atall now?

    how will my family come to understand?

    so i have to be promiscuous to destroy seriousness?

    i should stop worrying?

    i should go with the flow?

    should i tell this guy im seeing others?

    will he feel bad? what will his reaction be?

    where will ths road with many lovers lead me?



  • i will not marry atall now? yes.

    how will my family come to understand? by understanding your originality, when you are no more projecting your originality far away into an illusion.

    so i have to be promiscuous to destroy seriousness? no.

    i should stop worrying? yes.

    i should go with the flow? no.

    should i tell this guy im seeing others? no.

    will he feel bad? no.

    what will his reaction be? he will keep distance.

    where will ths road with many lovers lead me? you will learn to be flexible. If your relationships are disappointing, then you can turn around for new relationships waiting for you instead of putting all your hope and energy into only one man with rather odd behaviour.

    You have lived through the ego, and your life has

    been just a misery and nothing else. Enough is enough!

    One day the realization comes that, "I have wasted a

    great opportunity by constantly listening to my own

    ego. It has been driving me onto unnecessary paths

    which lead nowhere, and it has been creating a thousand

    and one miseries." The day one realizes that "The ego

    is the root cause of my misery," one starts searching

    for a place where the ego can be dropped. Love is

    an excuse to drop the ego.



  • thanks hans, i will try to seep in the info u have given me.

    if family n marriage is not for me, what is my purpose in life?

    by the way,

    what kind of a bond do i share with this guy then? according to him?

    what he thinks of me as?

    what can i be for him in the future?

    friend?

    friend with benefits?

    lover?

    intense lover lifelong?

    just cut off from him?



  • if family n marriage is not for me, what is my purpose in life? Not to be totally overburdened, what you would be with family and marriage. You possess great inner treasures -- compassion, economy, and modesty. These treasures allow the benevolent will of Heaven to flow through you outward to curb evil and further good. You have to become an instrument of Heaven's will, offering a balance in the world around you. It is not swashbuckling prowess or uncanny talent that qualifies you for this office, but your simplest gifts -- your modesty, your compassion, your economy. Because you can see clearly who most needs a miracle, Heaven's bounty is being put at your disposal.

    Life is like love, life is like happiness. Life is existence – no goal. And once you can understand this your ways of living will change totally, because if there is no purpose in life itself there is no need to create a purpose for your individual life also – no need. Because of individual purposes you become tense, something has to be achieved. Then an achieving mind is created which is always trying to achieve something or other. And whenever something is achieved again the mind asks, “Now what? What is to be achieved now?” It cannot remain with itself, it has to go on achieving.

    what kind of a bond do i share with this guy then? a kind of frustrating, unfulfilling relationship, living side by side, but not with each other, no exchange of heart, emotional coldness, possessed by hope and fear.

    according to him? he is alone in a land, where there is nobody else.

    what he thinks of me as? as someone going on the road peddling her worries.

    what can i be for him in the future? someone who keeps some distance to him.

    friend? no.

    friend with benefits? no.

    lover? no.

    intense lover lifelong? yes.

    just cut off from him? no.

    I will tell you a small anecdote to make this

    clearer. There were three Sufi saints who were to be

    hanged until dead. So-called religious people are

    always against real saints. While they were waiting to

    be hanged, they were sitting in a row. The hangman

    would call out the names, one after the other, and

    would hang them.

    The hangman cried out the name, "Nuri," that he

    should come forward.

    But the person whose name was Nuri did not get up;

    instead another person got up and said, "You hang me

    first."

    The hangman said, "Your name is not Nuri. Why are you

    in a hurry to die?"

    The one who had come forward replied, "I have loved

    Nuri and I have understood that when it is a question

    of dying, to come forward, and when it is a question of

    living, to remain behind. I would like to die before my

    friend dies. If it is a question of living, my friend

    Love speaks like this. What does competition say?

    Competition tells you to stay behind while dying and go

    on ahead when it is a question of living.


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