Can someone please tell me about a certain relationship?



  • Between me and AnTwan, this guy I've been crushing on for a while now.

    I've wanted something to develop between us for the longest time now. I have strong feelings for him, and I desire to have his love, to make an amazing connection between us. I read in this astrology book that people who were born on February 19th and people who were born on May 3rd were good for soul mates.

    I want to know what our love for each other would be like, what our relationship would be like, how we connect.. etc.

    His birthday is May 3rd, 1992 and mine is February 19th, 1994

    You know how when you really want something hard enough and sometimes you'll just get it, but most of the time you have to do something about it. What are ways I can flirt with him, make him know the way I feel about him without actually telling him..



  • I want to know what our love for each other would be like, what our relationship would be like, how we connect.. etc.: It would be waiting for most of the time.

    What are ways I can flirt with him, make him know the way I feel about him without actually telling him..: Make a journey, drive to him, or make a trip with him.

    If two persons are really intimate they will allow absolute freedom, because they know that intimacy is far more beautiful, far more significant—they have experienced it. So any sexual relationship is just a little diversion, nothing can go wrong just because of it.



  • mine is February 19th, 1994: You have mental power, the ability to focus your mind on a goal or objective and see it through to a successful conclusion. This power is usually applied to some mental or educational task. It bestows the power to overcome all problems by focusing your thoughts and it usually occurs when there is something that you need to learn or accomplish on the mental level. You have the opportunity to fix your mind on certain goals and objectives. It is focus of the mind. Out of that focus and concentration, success is assured.



  • "If two persons are really intimate they will allow absolute freedom, because they know that intimacy is far more beautiful, far more significant—they have experienced it. So any sexual relationship is just a little diversion, nothing can go wrong just because of it"

    Hanswolfgang, are you able to go into detail with what you meant by telling me that?



  • Also, could you tell me what you meant by this: "It would be waiting for most of the time."

    Do you mean I'd be waiting for the love, waiting for the connection, but never getting it, or getting it way after?

    Is that considered a good thing or a bad thing?



  • Piscesgirl4life

    Hello Hunn, I seen your post on my topic i see you've got

    made a new topic. Great.

    I think you should give this guy a try, I feel you are very interested in

    getting to him, Do you change alot? move alot ? unpredictable are you?

    I feel this will be the only thing that get him, he's more of a stable being

    and likes things planned and you pretty much go with lifes flow,

    Opposites Attract, he can bring you stability you two are both emotionally

    compatible which makes good soulmates.

    I say you let him know, clearly No Games..Besides its only wasting time

    you know what you want, Now go get it.

    blessings hunney, and lots of love.



  • Piscesgirl4life

    Hanswolfgang, are you able to go into detail with what you meant by telling me that? Giving the dog a bone. You just want to be together with people which subject to you and adore you. You do not get through the layer of your own thinking.

    Also, could you tell me what you meant by this: "It would be waiting for most of the time.": You are not stepping down of your throne closing your heart, being identified with your emotions.

    Do you mean I'd be waiting for the love, waiting for the connection, but never getting it, or getting it way after? Waiting for the connection, getting it way after.

    Is that considered a good thing or a bad thing? Neither nor.

    First thing, whatsoever you do, never feel guilty --

    whatsoever you do. It may be your karma, but it is not a sin. You

    have not violated any rule. I don't want you

    to create any guilt, to ever feel guilty. Whatsoever

    you do, do it totally.



  • AddictedtoRiches,

    Thanks for your advice on this guy. If you have anymore advice than I would love to hear from you.

    I am *very interested in getting to him.

    And yes, I can be *very unpredictable.

    You got that right; I know Twan is much more of a stable person, and that it'll bother him how I just go with the flow in life. I feel that it'll bother him too much - how my emotions go to the extremes and just how highly sensitive I am. I don't think he'll be able to deal.

    I would love for him to bring me stability. and I know he can.

    I definitely know we're emotionaly compatible, that's one reason why I believe we could have an amazing love for each other.

    I don't know how to let him know the way I feel towards him. I'm not great with words and getting things out, neither do I do well with actions. I don't even know if that'd be a good idea, telling him I have feelings for him. I want to know the way he feels about me.. is there any way you're able to know the way he feels?

    A lot of the times my very low self esteem and me being very uncomfortable with myself gets in the way of me giving my all..

    I don't want to lower my walls and end up being disappointed in the end..

    I don't even know if he would want a relationship, or want to look more in to having something with me.

    Next time I see him, should I make a move? Start flirting with him?

    Thanks much again AddictedtoRiches. Blessings and joy to you.



  • Hanswolfgang,

    You're extremely smart.

    You tend to speak and explain things in a way where I'm not able to really understand what or where you're getting at. Things are complicated for me.

    That's true, I just want to be together with people which subject to me and adore me.

    I don't get through the layer of my own thinking? I don't know exactly what you mean by that but it makes sense that I do that.

    "You are not stepping down of your throne closing your heart, being identified with your emotions." Huh?

    Never feel guilty?

    I've felt and created so much guilt for myself about past issues and current issues.

    Karma bothers me. Not knowing how much good karma I'm putting out, not knowing how much bad karma I'm putting out, and not knowing how it'll all affect me.

    I don't like not knowing what karma can do to you.

    I don't want it to bite me royaly in my rear end.

    Why do you not want me to feel guilt?

    "Whatsoever you do, do it totally." Hmm. I'll try..

    Anyway thanks Hanswolfgang.

    Blessings and joy to you.



  • I don't get through the layer of my own thinking? You want that your will should be done. Drop that identification with your will and drop being a drama queen by becoming disidentified with your emotions. As long you insist to be on your throne, your heart will remain closed.

    Never feel guilty? Your feeling guilty are the expectations of others about you.

    Why do you not want me to feel guilt? Because no one is to blame, but you make your mind to a gathering of mourners, your father is still dominating you via this feeling guilty. Guilt is the police man in your head, installed by the society.

    But you are a great guilt creator. You go on

    creating guilty feelings. And if you want to do a

    certain thing -- you do it! If you don't want to do a

    certain thing, you don't do it!

    Look again, consider again, reconsider the whole situation. And then you will find ordinary facts of life. But you don’t want to be ordinary. The ego hankers to be extraordinary. Even if it is misery you would like to be extraordinary.



  • Hanswolfgang, how do I step off my throne and open up my heart?

    How can I drop the the identification with my will and drop being a drama queen?

    So I need to stop being guilty for not being able to live up to people's expectations. I'm never going to be perfect.

    I know for a fact that my father is still dominating me this feeling guilty.. how can I stop him from dominating that feeling guilty?

    Because of all this, it's made me feel like I'll never find happiness. I'll never be happy with my life, I'll never be happy with myself. I'll never find love within myself to open up my heart.



  • Hanswolfgang, how do I step off my throne and open up my heart? Fall in love or, better, rise in love. Being in love means meeting on eye-sight, on the same plane, being neither above nor below. Follow your love and decide for the way of the heart.

    How can I drop the the identification with my will and drop being a drama queen? By just being aware of it, that will be enough. Sit consciously on your throne trying to dominate others with your will. Be aware of it, and you will experience inner alchemy.

    how can I stop him from dominating that feeling guilty? By avoiding no more your inborn high spiritual and mental abilities, by thinking no more you would have to achieve a goal outside of yourself to find peace there.

    Your purpose should be to deprogram you, to clean you, to uncondition you and leave you fresh, young, innocent. And from there you can grow into a real, authentic individual.



  • Thank you Hanswolfgang.

    Blessings and Joy to you.



  • Thank you Piscesgirl4life,

    the first step towards the realization of your infinite potential, is to recognize that up to now you have been wasting your life, that up to now you have remained utterly unconscious. Start becoming conscious; that is the only way to arrive.



  • But how do I become conscious Hanswolfgang?



  • By not programming your own bad luck any more.

    As I see you, you are very very unconscious, almost

    fast asleep. If allowed you will snore immediately! But

    that's how everybody is living more or less. This sleep

    has to be broken. You will have to make an effort to

    come out of it. And once you have come out of it, for

    the first time you will know the taste of existence.

    Otherwise whatsoever you know is only dreams and nothing

    else. And dreams cannot fulfil, dreams cannot nourish.

    They are a sheer wastage. Through dreams you simply

    go down the drain. All dreams lead to death and

    nowhere else. But a mind asleep cannot do anything else

    -- it can only dream. It cannot live in reality, it can

    only live in desires.

    You have to behave with the mind just as you go with

    your dog for a morning walk. The dog goes here and the

    dog goes there, and he enters into this bush and he

    tries to fight with some other dog, and you have to

    pull him back again and again. The mind is like a dog:

    it goes into the past, it goes into the future. You

    have to constantly pull it back to the present. Slowly

    slowly it becomes accustomed. It is a kind of training,

    a discipline for the mind.

    A Zen master was dying and the disciples had gathered

    for the last message. This has been a tradition in Zen:

    in the last moment the master gives his final message;

    it may be a small verse, a haiku, just a simple

    statement or a gesture. So the disciples were waiting

    and then one disciple said 'Sir, you are slowly slowly

    leaving your body; we can see that you are

    disappearing. What about the last message?'

    The master opened his eyes and at that very moment a

    squirrel ran on the roof, making noise. The master

    raised his finger and he said 'This is it!'... and he

    died with his raised finger. The message is absolutely

    clear and loud: 'This is it!' This is the whole

    message, not only of Zen but of all true religion.



  • Hanswoflgang, I don't know how to come out of it, or reprogram myself.

    I've been this way for so long. I don't know how to make the effort, I still don't know what I need to do exactly to become conscious, and recognize my spiritual and mental abilities. I don't know which way to go. I've always thought of myself as lost, and blind.



  • I don't know how to come out of it: you just listen to your mind no more and you are already out of it.

    or reprogram myself: you just drop your identification with your mind instead of reprogramming your mind, then your real nature will assert itself.

    Mind is just a computer. You can program it, you can

    reprogram it, deprogram it, you can do anything with

    it; it is a mechanism. It is not your being. And unless

    somebody reaches to his being, he is wandering and

    wasting his life, he is simply vegetating. He has no

    depth, no peak experiences.

    I don't know how to make the effort: just appreciate the bright power of your goal. But the ego says to you,

    'Make a lot of effort and fight, and you will attain by

    yourself. Don't expect anything from other people.'

    I still don't know what I need to do exactly to become conscious: to give you a clear-cut idea

    how you can become more conscious: I call it

    meditation, working, walking, sitting. I don't believe

    what others call meditation, that ten minutes or twenty

    minutes you do it and then just be your ordinary self

    for twenty-four hours and again for twenty minutes

    meditate. This is stupid. It is like saying to a person

    that every day in the morning twenty minutes breathe

    and then forget all about it, because you have to do

    many other things. And then next day morning you can

    breathe again. To me meditation is exactly like

    breathing. So whatsoever you are doing and where ever

    you are do it more consciously. For example, I can

    raise my hand without any consciousness, just

    unconsciously, out of habit. But you can raise your hand with full awareness.

    And you can see the difference between the two. The act

    is the same: one is mechanical, another is full of

    consciousness and the quality is tremendously

    different. Try it, because it is a question of taste

    and experience. Walking, just try for few minutes to

    walk consciously; each step be alert and you will be

    surprised that the quality of your walk is totally

    different, it is relaxed. There is no tension and there

    is a subtle joy that is arising out of your relaxed

    walking. And the more you become aware of this joy, the

    more you would like to be awake. Eating, eat with

    awareness. People are simply throwing food into their

    mouths, not even chewing it, just swallowing it. Thirty

    million people in America are suffering from

    overeating. These people who are

    suffering from obesity, fatness, cannot resist eating

    more and more. No doctor is going to help them, except

    if they become aware, while they are eating if they

    become aware. Few things happen as a by-product of

    awareness. Their eating will be slowed down. They will

    start chewing, because unless you chew your food you

    are putting unnecessary burden on your whole system.

    Your stomach has no teeth. Exactly one has to chew

    forty-two times each bite. Then anything that you are

    eating becomes liquid.A woman of awareness only drinks,

    because before she swallows she has changed that solid

    food into liquid. And the strange thing is when you are

    chewing forty-two times, you are enjoying so much the

    taste. One bite of an unconscious woman gives forty-two

    time more taste to the conscious woman. It is simple

    arithmetic: the unconscious woman will have to eat

    forty-two bites just to have the same taste, and then

    she becomes fat, and still unsatisfied. Still she feels

    to eat more. The woman of awareness eats only that much

    that her body needs. She immediately feels that now

    there is no need, the hunger is gone, she is content....

    Doing anything, so my meditation is a totally different

    kind of approach. It has to be spread all over your

    twenty-four hours. Even falling asleep remain alert how

    sleep is descending on you, so slowly, so silently, but

    you can hear the steps. The darkness is growing, you

    are relaxing -- you can feel the muscles, the body, the

    tense parts which are preventing the sleep -- and soon

    you will see the whole body has relaxed and the sleep

    has come. But slowly, slowly, a great revolution

    happens. Sleep comes to you, but something deep inside

    you goes on remaining awake, even in sleep. So the

    situation is: you are asleep even when you think you

    are awake and the man of tao is awake even when you think he is asleep.

    And unless a woman becomes aware in her sleep she is not

    aware, not awake; that is the criterion.And there are

    so many byproducts that you can judge. Dreams

    disappear, because dreams need you to be completely

    unconscious. They come from the unconscious mind. But

    if you are conscious, they cannot come. Sigmund Freud

    would have been immensely enriched if he had come to a

    man who has no dreams. He would have puzzled

    also and he would have to change his whole idea of

    psychoanalysis. But he came only across people who were

    asleep. He himself was asleep -- he had no idea of any

    spiritual awakening -- otherwise he would have

    certainly realized that there is a space when man is

    conscious, just conscious, and there are no dreams at

    all.If dreams disappear in the night, the second thing

    will happen to you: in the daytime, thoughts will

    disappear. That does not mean you will become incapable

    of thinking, that simply means you will not just go on

    thinking mechanically, unnecessarily. You will be

    capable of thinking if you want to think, otherwise you

    will be silent.And a woman who can remain silent for

    hours is gathering energy so whenever she wants to think

    her thinking has some strength, some power, some

    tremendous energy. The ordinary people's thinking are

    just impotent, their thoughts are just vagrant...

    clouds floating in their mind. A woman of meditation will

    find dreams disappear and then the sleep is beauty,

    incomparable. Then sleep becomes spiritual and to

    transform sleep into spirituality is religion. Then

    your whole day becomes a day of silence. You will talk

    but something deep down in you will remain a silent

    witness. So you will not say things which will

    unnecessarily create trouble for you and trouble for

    others. You will say only that which is absolutely

    needed. You will say only the truth, otherwise you will

    be capable enough to say, "I do not know." You will not

    believe in anything. Either you will know it or you

    will not know it. Belief is a deception: you don't

    know, yet you pretend as if you know. All these people

    in temples, in churches, in synagogues, what they are

    doing? To whom they are praying?

    and recognize my spiritual and mental abilities: put your abilities to positive ends.

    I don't know which way to go: Keeping to this perilous course will result in unexpected reward, but separate from your ego.

    I mean you are

    not to fight the current and go upstream -- that is

    stupid. You cannot fight, the current of nature is too

    big and too strong. The best way is to learn from a

    dead body. Dead people know a few secrets which living

    people don't know.

    Living people, if they don't know how to swim, drown.

    This is very strange. By the time they are dead, they

    surface again. When they were living, they went down;

    when they died, they came up. Certainly, the dead

    person knows something which the living person does not

    know. What happened? Why do the river and the ocean

    behave differently with the dead person? The dead

    person is in absolute let-go. He is not even swimming.

    He is not doing anything.

    The best swimmer simply floats. The ultimate swimmer

    just goes like a dead body with the current, wherever

    the river leads -- it always leads to the ocean. Every

    river leads to the ocean, so you need not be worried

    whether you are in a holy river or not. Holy or unholy,

    every river is destined to reach sooner or later to the

    ocean. You just go on floating with the river. And this

    I call trust -- trusting in existence that wherever it

    is leading, it is leading to the right path, to the

    right goal. It is not your enemy. Trust in nature that

    wherever it is taking you, there is your home.

    You come from the source, the ultimate source of light—you are a small ray of that sun—and howsoever far away you may have gone, your nature remains the same. Nobody can go against her real nature: you can forget about it, but you can not lose it. Hence “attaining it” is not the right expression; it is not attained, it is only remembered.



  • Hello there,

    Taurus men love the arts, so a Saturday spent poking through art galleries with a grand dinner at a fine restaurant later would be a perfect day. (Taurus can quite a gourmet, so make the restaurant special.) Taurus is a sensuous and cultured sign, so everything you do should be carefully and subtly orchestrated for the ultimate seduction.

    Surprising him with some special imported dark or white chocolate--Taurus men adore chocolate!--to nibble while consuming their other favorite treat, superb champagne. , your Happily, Taurus men don't like to rush anything they do

    Good luck



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