Hans, I've taken on board your advice!



  • quenkath

    You can never be grateful to a person who makes you

    dependent -- you will hate the person. That's why

    children hate their parents.



  • spygirl

    Se x (you see, I am not even allowed to write it plainly) has been corrupted by the priests and

    politicians. Its innocence has been destroyed. Its joy

    has been poisoned. This is the greatest calamity that

    has happened to this unfortunate species called

    mankind. Give se x back its joy and its

    innocence and its spontaneity. Make se x pure again. Nothing foreign should be

    involved in it: no jealousy, no ego, no expectations.

    It should be a pure phenomenon: two persons in that

    moment feeling that they would like to communicate on a

    deeper level, that's all. No obligation, no duty, no

    commitment through it.



  • Hello Hans, many thanks. I appreciate that I need to attain non-attachment as in the teachings of the Buddha. Is this what you also practice yourself? I own many different Buddhas from all places, I feel a connection with them. I love what they stand for. Thank you!



  • Is this what you also practice yourself? No.

    I don’t practice to renounce the world, I practice to renounce the mind.



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  • Thank you Hans, it's all in the mind!



  • quenkath,

    THERE WAS ONCE A VERY RICH MAN WHO HAD A SON. HE

    SAID TO HIM, "MY SON, HERE IS A JEWELLED RING.

    KEEP IT AS A SIGN THAT YOU ARE A SUCCESSOR OF

    MINE, AND PASS IT DOWN TO YOUR POSTERITY. IT IS OF

    VALUE, OF FINE APPEARANCE, AND IT HAS THE ADDED

    CAPACITY OF OPENING A CERTAIN DOOR TO WEALTH."

    SOME YEARS LATER HE HAD ANOTHER SON. WHEN HE WAS

    OLD ENOUGH, THE WISE MAN GAVE HIM ANOTHER RING,

    WITH THE SAME ADVICE.

    THE SAME THING HAPPENED IN THE CASE OF HIS THIRD

    AND LAST SON.

    WHEN THE ANCIENT HAD DIED AND THE SONS GREW UP,

    ONE AFTER THE OTHER, EACH CLAIMED PRIMACY FOR

    HIMSELF BECAUSE OF HIS POSSESSION OF ONE OF THE

    RINGS. NOBODY COULD TELL FOR CERTAIN WHICH WAS THE

    MOST VALUABLE.

    EACH OF HIS SONS GAINED ADHERENTS, ALL CLAIMING

    GREATER VALUE OR BEAUTY FOR HIS OWN RING.

    BUT THE CURIOUS THING WAS THAT THE 'DOOR TO

    WEALTH' REMAINED SHUT FOR THE POSSESSORS OF THE

    KEYS, AND EVEN THEIR CLOSEST SUPPORTERS.

    THEY WERE ALL TOO PREOCCUPIED WITH THE PROBLEM OF

    PRECEDENCE, THE POSSESSION OF THE RING, ITS VALUE

    AND APPEARANCE.

    ONLY A FEW LOOKED FOR THE DOOR TO THE TREASURY OF

    THE ANCIENT. BUT THE RINGS HAD A MAGICAL QUALITY

    TOO. ALTHOUGH THEY WERE KEYS, THEY WERE NOT USED

    DIRECTLY IN OPENING THE DOOR TO THE TREASURY. IF

    WAS SUFFICIENT TO LOOK UPON THEM WITHOUT

    CONTENTION OR TOO MUCH ATTACHMENT TO ONE OR THE

    OTHER OF THEIR QUALITIES. WHEN THIS HAD BEEN DONE,

    THE PEOPLE WHO HAD LOOKED WERE ABLE TO TELL WHERE

    THE TREASURY WAS, AND COULD OPEN IT MERELY BY

    REPRODUCING THE OUTLINE OF THE RING. THE TREASURES

    HAD ANOTHER QUALITY TOO: THEY WERE INEXHAUSTIBILE.

    MEANWHILE THE PARTISANS OF THE THREE RINGS

    REPEATED THE TALE OF THEIR ANCESTOR ABOUT THE

    MERITS OF THE RINGS, EACH IN A SLIGHTLY DIFFERENT

    WAY.

    THE FIRST COMMUNITY THOUGHT THAT THEY HAD ALREADY

    FOUND THE TREASURE.

    THE SECOND THOUGHT THAT IT WAS ALLEGORICAL.

    THE THIRD TRANSFERRED THE POSSIBILITY OF THE

    OPENING OF THE DOOR TO A DISTANT AND REMOTELY

    IMAGINED FUTURE TIME.



  • intrigued,

    yes, this is the very beginning of the world.

    Nobody has created it as the Christians think. They

    think that God created it. God has done nothing. God is

    the very existence, not a creator. God is the very

    creativity that pervades everything.



  • Thank you Hans!



  • Life is a continuous process, a movement; it is a river. You have to adjust yourself according to the situations, otherwise you remain fixed and life goes on changing all around. The only result will be a gap arising between you and your life—and that gap creates misery, sorrow.



  • Hans that is so true, life is a river! I understand, thank you!



  • Hi Hans -

    You're response was quite comical and has made me smile for many reasons. I appreciate the sentiment. Ego, expectations - where is the joy in se x anymore? Hopefully, I'll have something wonderful to report in a few short months. 😉 Se x is the one thing I have recently held back from myself, but it is such a true form of expression for me! Where is your perch?! LOL You remind me of Oz.



  • intrigued,

    this will look strange – out of unhappiness, how can we live more happily? Yes, this is how it is, this is how it works. Just like the pendulum of a clock – it goes to the right, to the very extreme right, and from there it starts moving to the left. While it is going to the right it is gathering momentum to go to the left. When it is going to the left it is gaining momentum to go to the right. Life moves between these two opposite banks; life is a river between these two shores.



  • spygirl

    Ego, expectations - where is the joy in se x anymore? Certainly not with men who are hung up in their heads.

    Where is your perch?! I am sitting there, ready to fight.

    Mistress Jones, deeply troubled, was consulting a psychiatrist.

    “My husband,” she said, “is convinced he is a chicken. He goes around scratching constantly, and sleeps on a large bar of wood he has fixed up as a perch.”

    “I see,” said the psychiatrist thoughtfully. “And how long has your husband been suffering from this fixation?”

    “For nearly two years now.”

    The psychiatrist frowned slightly and said, “But why have you waited till now to seek help?”

    Mistress Jones blushed and said, “Ah well, it was so nice having a steady supply of eggs!”



  • Hi Hans,

    Love the joke. And so true 😉 Where were you two years ago? Preparing for the fight, I guess! Funny you mention ready to fight as I had a dream last night about playing basketball with a man who had stayed on the team despite the other members leaving because I was a woman! We played until the finals and, once there, the other teammembers returned because they realized we couldn't win alone - and that I didn, in fact - deserve to be there (even though I had to fight for it). The dream was more involved, of course, but your comment reminded me of it! Why do men live in their heads? I had been living in mine for far too long. Am ready to integrate both head and heart again! I sense you are fighting for all of us and so I send my gratitude and thanks.



  • Meant to say that I did, in fact, deserve to be there ...

    the other teammembers returned because they realized we couldn't win alone - and that I didn*, in fact - deserve to be there



  • Hi Hans, thank you as always, still absorbing it! Take care. 😄



  • Thank you spygirl

    Where were you two years ago? I was not to be seen, not really.

    Why do men live in their heads? Because they are so identified with their desires.

    be utterly

    happy in your imperfection. One should love and accept

    oneself as one is; one should not desire something

    else, somebody else; one need not be somebody else. You

    are accepted by god as you are -- nothing is missing;

    this is the way he wants you to be. So drop all shoulds

    and all oughts. There is no need of any should, any

    ought. The is is beautiful, and to be in the is, is to

    be contented, to be blissful. It really needs guts to

    accept one's imperfections; they are there. Remember,

    the part cannot be perfect. Perfection can only be the

    quality of the whole; the part cannot be perfect. The

    part does not exist apart from the whole. How can it be

    perfect? It cannot even exist on its own. The very idea

    of perfection is stupid.



  • intrigued,

    if you really want to know love, forget about love, remember about meditation. If you want to bring roses into your garden, forget about roses and take care of the rosebush. Give nourishment to it, water it, take care that it gets the right amount of sun, water. If everything is taken care of, the roses are destined to come in the right time. You cannot bring them earlier, you cannot force them to open up sooner, and you cannot ask a roseflower to be more perfect.


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