Hans, I've taken on board your advice!
You can never be grateful to a person who makes you
dependent -- you will hate the person. That's why
children hate their parents.
Se x (you see, I am not even allowed to write it plainly) has been corrupted by the priests and
politicians. Its innocence has been destroyed. Its joy
has been poisoned. This is the greatest calamity that
has happened to this unfortunate species called
mankind. Give se x back its joy and its
innocence and its spontaneity. Make se x pure again. Nothing foreign should be
involved in it: no jealousy, no ego, no expectations.
It should be a pure phenomenon: two persons in that
moment feeling that they would like to communicate on a
deeper level, that's all. No obligation, no duty, no
commitment through it.
Hello Hans, many thanks. I appreciate that I need to attain non-attachment as in the teachings of the Buddha. Is this what you also practice yourself? I own many different Buddhas from all places, I feel a connection with them. I love what they stand for. Thank you!
Is this what you also practice yourself? No.
I don’t practice to renounce the world, I practice to renounce the mind.
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Thank you Hans, it's all in the mind!
THERE WAS ONCE A VERY RICH MAN WHO HAD A SON. HE
SAID TO HIM, "MY SON, HERE IS A JEWELLED RING.
KEEP IT AS A SIGN THAT YOU ARE A SUCCESSOR OF
MINE, AND PASS IT DOWN TO YOUR POSTERITY. IT IS OF
VALUE, OF FINE APPEARANCE, AND IT HAS THE ADDED
CAPACITY OF OPENING A CERTAIN DOOR TO WEALTH."
SOME YEARS LATER HE HAD ANOTHER SON. WHEN HE WAS
OLD ENOUGH, THE WISE MAN GAVE HIM ANOTHER RING,
WITH THE SAME ADVICE.
THE SAME THING HAPPENED IN THE CASE OF HIS THIRD
AND LAST SON.
WHEN THE ANCIENT HAD DIED AND THE SONS GREW UP,
ONE AFTER THE OTHER, EACH CLAIMED PRIMACY FOR
HIMSELF BECAUSE OF HIS POSSESSION OF ONE OF THE
RINGS. NOBODY COULD TELL FOR CERTAIN WHICH WAS THE
EACH OF HIS SONS GAINED ADHERENTS, ALL CLAIMING
GREATER VALUE OR BEAUTY FOR HIS OWN RING.
BUT THE CURIOUS THING WAS THAT THE 'DOOR TO
WEALTH' REMAINED SHUT FOR THE POSSESSORS OF THE
KEYS, AND EVEN THEIR CLOSEST SUPPORTERS.
THEY WERE ALL TOO PREOCCUPIED WITH THE PROBLEM OF
PRECEDENCE, THE POSSESSION OF THE RING, ITS VALUE
ONLY A FEW LOOKED FOR THE DOOR TO THE TREASURY OF
THE ANCIENT. BUT THE RINGS HAD A MAGICAL QUALITY
TOO. ALTHOUGH THEY WERE KEYS, THEY WERE NOT USED
DIRECTLY IN OPENING THE DOOR TO THE TREASURY. IF
WAS SUFFICIENT TO LOOK UPON THEM WITHOUT
CONTENTION OR TOO MUCH ATTACHMENT TO ONE OR THE
OTHER OF THEIR QUALITIES. WHEN THIS HAD BEEN DONE,
THE PEOPLE WHO HAD LOOKED WERE ABLE TO TELL WHERE
THE TREASURY WAS, AND COULD OPEN IT MERELY BY
REPRODUCING THE OUTLINE OF THE RING. THE TREASURES
HAD ANOTHER QUALITY TOO: THEY WERE INEXHAUSTIBILE.
MEANWHILE THE PARTISANS OF THE THREE RINGS
REPEATED THE TALE OF THEIR ANCESTOR ABOUT THE
MERITS OF THE RINGS, EACH IN A SLIGHTLY DIFFERENT
THE FIRST COMMUNITY THOUGHT THAT THEY HAD ALREADY
FOUND THE TREASURE.
THE SECOND THOUGHT THAT IT WAS ALLEGORICAL.
THE THIRD TRANSFERRED THE POSSIBILITY OF THE
OPENING OF THE DOOR TO A DISTANT AND REMOTELY
IMAGINED FUTURE TIME.
yes, this is the very beginning of the world.
Nobody has created it as the Christians think. They
think that God created it. God has done nothing. God is
the very existence, not a creator. God is the very
creativity that pervades everything.
Thank you Hans!
Life is a continuous process, a movement; it is a river. You have to adjust yourself according to the situations, otherwise you remain fixed and life goes on changing all around. The only result will be a gap arising between you and your life—and that gap creates misery, sorrow.
Hans that is so true, life is a river! I understand, thank you!
Hi Hans -
You're response was quite comical and has made me smile for many reasons. I appreciate the sentiment. Ego, expectations - where is the joy in se x anymore? Hopefully, I'll have something wonderful to report in a few short months. Se x is the one thing I have recently held back from myself, but it is such a true form of expression for me! Where is your perch?! LOL You remind me of Oz.
this will look strange – out of unhappiness, how can we live more happily? Yes, this is how it is, this is how it works. Just like the pendulum of a clock – it goes to the right, to the very extreme right, and from there it starts moving to the left. While it is going to the right it is gathering momentum to go to the left. When it is going to the left it is gaining momentum to go to the right. Life moves between these two opposite banks; life is a river between these two shores.
Ego, expectations - where is the joy in se x anymore? Certainly not with men who are hung up in their heads.
Where is your perch?! I am sitting there, ready to fight.
Mistress Jones, deeply troubled, was consulting a psychiatrist.
“My husband,” she said, “is convinced he is a chicken. He goes around scratching constantly, and sleeps on a large bar of wood he has fixed up as a perch.”
“I see,” said the psychiatrist thoughtfully. “And how long has your husband been suffering from this fixation?”
“For nearly two years now.”
The psychiatrist frowned slightly and said, “But why have you waited till now to seek help?”
Mistress Jones blushed and said, “Ah well, it was so nice having a steady supply of eggs!”
Love the joke. And so true Where were you two years ago? Preparing for the fight, I guess! Funny you mention ready to fight as I had a dream last night about playing basketball with a man who had stayed on the team despite the other members leaving because I was a woman! We played until the finals and, once there, the other teammembers returned because they realized we couldn't win alone - and that I didn, in fact - deserve to be there (even though I had to fight for it). The dream was more involved, of course, but your comment reminded me of it! Why do men live in their heads? I had been living in mine for far too long. Am ready to integrate both head and heart again! I sense you are fighting for all of us and so I send my gratitude and thanks.
Meant to say that I did, in fact, deserve to be there ...
the other teammembers returned because they realized we couldn't win alone - and that I didn*, in fact - deserve to be there
Hi Hans, thank you as always, still absorbing it! Take care.
Thank you spygirl
Where were you two years ago? I was not to be seen, not really.
Why do men live in their heads? Because they are so identified with their desires.
happy in your imperfection. One should love and accept
oneself as one is; one should not desire something
else, somebody else; one need not be somebody else. You
are accepted by god as you are -- nothing is missing;
this is the way he wants you to be. So drop all shoulds
and all oughts. There is no need of any should, any
ought. The is is beautiful, and to be in the is, is to
be contented, to be blissful. It really needs guts to
accept one's imperfections; they are there. Remember,
the part cannot be perfect. Perfection can only be the
quality of the whole; the part cannot be perfect. The
part does not exist apart from the whole. How can it be
perfect? It cannot even exist on its own. The very idea
of perfection is stupid.
if you really want to know love, forget about love, remember about meditation. If you want to bring roses into your garden, forget about roses and take care of the rosebush. Give nourishment to it, water it, take care that it gets the right amount of sun, water. If everything is taken care of, the roses are destined to come in the right time. You cannot bring them earlier, you cannot force them to open up sooner, and you cannot ask a roseflower to be more perfect.