Im a scorpio
Tiff, I won't return email but I will comment on your post.
The need to control everything, I feel, comes from lack of control of yourself and the anxiety of not having the tools to learn the lessons that come from other energies- good or bad.
What I feel you need to learn now is that the only thing in this universe you CAN control is yourself and how you react to your environment. Take it or leave it, but as a hypercritical Virgo, I have had to learn that lesson myself and now my life is not so mysterious...