Is this my husband ?

  • I started working out online with a guy friend. I thought he was being flirtatious.. he is a Taurus - 18 May 1988. I’m the 14th October 1986.

    He comes across very stable, and a hardworker. So far he seems very patient - only downside is he wants to talk to me all the time! I value my going within time too much!

    Also his mother is a Capricorn and doesn’t live too far away , so if I was to cohabit with him then I worry she might be controlling ( More like monster in law). He said his father is super calm - like him. He ticks the boxes so far for me.

    Also if you have a good feeling then do you think he will be supportive towards me and also a good provider? I would like a family once if and when we get to that stage.

    I appreciate the insight ! Been on my own since 2018 and would like to find THE ONE ❤❤❤❤❤

  • This would be a challenging relationship for marriage. The most difficult issue to be addressed here, and the most essential, is who will shoulder what responsibility. The two of you must decide who will be the authority, and in what areas, and what standards are set. Without this focus, the relationship will probably fly apart, if it was ever much together in the first place. The problem is that neither of you is very steady, despite the capable face you may present to the world. Undependability, disinterest, procrastination, neglect - all of these and more are likely to add to the problems here. Passions may soar in love - and then just as quickly fade. Marriage is likely to be problematic unless an outlet can be found for the flamboyant and dramatic emotions that will arise. Should they be repressed, or go unrecognized, expect frustration and constant arguments. Eventually a reliable source of authority will have to be set up, particularly if you want children. You Jana have a finely honed sense of style, while your LI is more natural and tends to “let it all hang out”; in marriage, the two of you would need to agree upon the lifestyle you wish to adopt. A friendship here may suffer from lack of focus and authority. You may not become bosom buddies, since neither of you would be willing to give up much for the relationship.

  • I think anyone that gives you an opinion now is just talking and really pretending to know a secret about life they really know nothing of. If you haven't even dated this guy in person I mean come on who is trying to be controlling? A woman that is his mother, the Capricorn and already you have ideas she is the monster in law from hell. She may also become your biggest fan and friend, be open to all.

    Give some room to let this friendship move to where it will give you both the best of all possibilities. Maybe he is the man you will grow old with and maybe you discover he is the man in which you can feel safe with to really open up to and that friendship is more valuable than any husband search is right now. Perhaps he is just the gateway by introducing you to his friends which one will become Mr. Right. Move slow and open up to allowing your spirit to move freely with no opinions and overreaching ideas of what "should be"!

    Maybe you both discover very little in common but can devour each other in bed and that is very satisfying to you both. Friends, lovers or more...let the universe unfold at its own pace and sit back, breath, enjoy the unfolding miracles of life around you and this beautiful drama unfolding before you. Be truly grateful you have a new guy to check out and all the possibilities. That can be more dreamy and enchanting than finding everything fixed in stone with little spontaneity.

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