Gemini man. How to pin him down?

  • Scorpio women here. Months ago sympathy with my co-worker developed. Gemini one:) As soon as I saw him, I fell for him. Chemistry before saying a single word. I flirted, he wrote me, we messaged daily during quarantine for 1 month. One day before coming back to work, I invited him for a walk and he was joking around and didn't come. I was furious! Texting for a month, and no seeing...So next day I came back to work moody expecting some typical actions - I mean invite to hang out (since my invite was rejected) or whatever. Since it didn’t happen, I was pissed off, and I think I scared him off. The concept of us feeling romantic towards each other stayed unsaid, not clarified, in the air...Chatting slowed down a bit, because I believe he thought that I was flirting for fun and didn't like him in romantic way, I thought the same about him. So nothing was clear. However, he was always around, showing attention in subtle, unique ways, trying to talk with me as much as possible about anything, we still messaged each other, he was very nice to me, but nothing direct like “I like you, would you like to hang out". He stated, women and men are alike, so women could show initiative too. Adding that he is very shy (actually he is:)). So I invited him several times to meet expecting some actions from his side (he never invited me anywhere btw). Each time during our “meetups” (3-4) he was telling about past girls reaching for him and present tinder girls (he said he didn’t care about them). He even told that he is going to see 2 of them the next day. I was disappointed (who is brags about girls to a girl who flirted with you) and wished him good luck with the dates and after that evening things have changed (July). He stopped messaging me, and become quite mean, acting hot and cold and it was obvious that I hurt him in some way. Though he still shows affection and is caring when I’m upset/tired, but avoids me, gets angry easily, doesn’t choose his words, when I asked him why are you so mean, several times he said “because you deserved it” (later saying it’s a joke). When I get pissed off, from ignorant he converts to a kitten - gentle and talkative, shows attention and that he cares and it’s genuine. If I am sweet he is opposite. When he got a new job, I was first person he told about this, when I was sick, he was writing me asking if I'm, he trusts me, he even teases me about liking him, though when I tease him, he is not that happy. He leaves in a month to work in another country (coming back time to time), and I'm going nuts not knowing how to confess my feelings to him, because if I won't say anything I would never forgive myself. I know it sounds stupid, but just so many misunderstandings happened, I don't know how to approach him. He is very peculiar, and I don't want to scare him off by saying "I have feeling for you from day one" or to kiss him randomly, you know what I mean. But on the other hand, hints never helped with him, and since the sparkle is a bit down, I know that some grand gesture, unexpected way of expressing my feelings is needed, since he is leaving. Help me guys, that Gemini is complicated, I never met anyone like him before, I don't know how to act.

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