Capricorn Man and my Taurus Heart
Hi everyone, I'm needing some help here. I've been seeing a Cap man for eight months now and not exclusive. For the past couple of months has been doing the whole push and pull on me. When we're together, everything is great and but when we're not I feel a disconnect. I asked him a couple times of what we are but as of recently he said he is confused and doesn't know what he wants with me. He says he wants me "as a friend amongst other things" and says he "would love to fall in love with me" but isn't sure about the timing. He is under a lot of stress in his work and personal life and I am unsure of what to do. I know he told me at the beginning that he is looking for his best friend and ultimately the person he wants to be with which makes sense as that is what I am looking for too. I have met his parents and some close friends. We were making plans to take a couple trips together but because of Covid this isn't happening. He did tell me, which hurt me, that I should see other people as he said he can't give me what I want right now but then he will say things that make me wonder if that is what he wants. Like I said, when we're together is he affectionate, he listens to me, he offers me advice, he asks for my opinion on things and asks for my advice about things too. I know he is going through a lot and I don't want to lose him but I don't want to hang on to someone who doesn't want to make things work. When I did ask to pick up my stuff he seemed okay but later on got mad when I asked about my things again and hung up on me. I texted him the next morning apologizing for my behavior (I was hurt and upset) but he has not replied. I for sure thought he would be mad enough to tell me to come at anytime to get my things but it's been two days and no response from him. He hasn't deleted me off social media (I know, it's just social media) and I know he hasn't blocked me.
Please help. I am upset and I don't want to lose him but again, I'm not sure if he is just scared as he has gone through a lot in life by people, even his own family, that has hurt him. Do I just text him and ask to get my things and tell him that while I want to be friends that I can't right now as I move on or wait to hear from him then proceed?
What are the birth dates here?
May 6 & December 27. Sorry, I replied to this in a new topic!
@findingheart112, to those who know you two as individuals, this relationship will probably be somewhat puzzling. Its purpose isn’t always clear, even for the two of you yourselves, should anyone ask you; you are often too busy giving structure to a family, career or business to be concerned with self-understanding. In fact, if a shared activity around which the relationship is built ends or falls apart, the two of you may find little in the way of an emotional or spiritual bond to hold you together. An intimate relationship here may be the hardest to figure out. Usually intensely private, the relationship may not be deliberately hidden from the world, but it won't be actively exposed, either. The two of you may have been thrown together in the oddest and most unexpected circumstances, perhaps necessitated by the fact that you travel in such different circles, and have such mutually exclusive activities, that you might otherwise never have met. Yet you may have an immediate sympathy or fascination for each other, one that demands further interaction. The neglect of an existing relationship of some standing is often demanded here, increasing the level of tension, suspicion and mistrust all around. It may all be worth it, for this is seldom a quick fling; it is a serious, karmic relationship that must be thoroughly and laboriously worked through before it can be ended, with one lifetime perhaps not enough.
A love relationship here will be enhanced by honesty and a shared sense of tradition, but you Findingheart will find this man’s authoritarian attitudes oppressive, both to yourself and to any children or younger relatives in your family. Wisely, you should rarely try to oppose his need to take the lead, but in a subtle and diplomatic way, you must seek your own areas of concern and control within the relationship. Problems and power struggles can arise however if this man's intolerance assumes a prejudicial tone, for discrimination, or even small jokes or assumptions about other people, can have a very bad effect on you. Try to break down any walls of mistrust between you if you want to better the relationship.