Broke up with cheating boyfriend



  • I just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months that I found out cheated on me with an escort and god knows what else... I moved all my things out of his place and I am in a complete wreck since it's the worst thing anyone has ever done to me. He lived a double life and was good to me the entire relationship which hurts even more. We have not talked since then and I will never ever get back with him ever, but I still care about his well being since he is a broken person and has went through many tragedies in his life and still does. I think he will go on a downward spiral after this, which is unfortunate although the last thing I did tell him was to please seek professional help. I don't want him to die from STD's or commit suicide down the road. What's the come for the future for both of us?



  • You cannot tie yourself to your ex's fate - he will get whatever he needs to grow and learn and evolve. Trust that the Universe will do its very best for both of you and everyone else in this world. Expect good things to happen for you and they will. Also don't take what was done to you personally. It was not anything done especially against you, just a result of this broken person's own pain and negative thinking. He will do the same thing to anyone in his life - until he learns not to and this may involve some hard life lessons. But you should set a good example by living a happy prosperous life. Wish him well and set yourself free.



  • Thank you Captain you're always quick to respond and I really appreciate all your help these years... I remember I showed you a photo of him for a photo reading and you said he was too intense for me... I should have listened but gave it a chance since I thought he was nice guy and look what happened down the road..

    As a double whammy, I also lost my job last month which is bringing me even more down... and I don't know when I will land my next one. Most of the interviews go very well but they always end up going with a candidate with industry experience (I'm trying to break into a new industry). I don't know how much longer I will be unemployed and it scares me. Do you see anything this Summer, Fall, or Winter?



  • If you want to accomplish anything this year, you have to focus all your scattered thoughts - if you want a job, then concentrate exclusively on getting a job, to the exclusion of all other matters. Put all your efforts into it. Don't also try to solve your love life or worry about anything else but that one goal of employment. If you try to do too much this year, you will achieve nothing.



  • @ariespiscesaquarius I don't have psychic abilities but I do have life experience ❤ You were meant to learn from this, grow from this, tap in to the "you-ness" of this. How did this shift your idea of where you stand in a relationship? How did this help you identify what you need, want, desire in yourself in order to be in a relationship? How can you move forward in your wholeness and understanding to grow beyond the hurt? The beautiful thing is that it hurts, that means you are fully human, loving, tender, vulnerable... I fully believe that to move beyond this, you need to focus on you...as long as you entertain the idea of him, whether solo or in your past; that you are still tethered to him. Ask yourself, "how does the thought of him benefit me?" Good luck chica I wish you much growth and personal understanding from this ❤



  • @gladyouwroteme said in Broke up with cheating boyfriend:

    How did this shift your idea of where you stand in a relationship? How did this help you identify what you need, want, desire in yourself in order to be in a relationship? How can you move forward in your wholeness and understanding to grow beyond the hurt? The beautiful thing is that it hurts, that means you are fully human, loving, tender, vulnerable... I fully believe that to move beyond this, you need to focus on you...as long as you entertain the idea of him, whether solo or in your past; that you are still tethered to him. Ask yourself, "how does the thought of him benefit me?"

    Thank you @TheCaptain @gladyouwroteme for your insight. Shortly after the ordeal, I used the immense pain to catapult me into landing the career I've always wanted. I have thought about it and it was very much blind love and I missed/chose to overlook the signs. I won't let it happen to me again, and I've learned from my mistakes and have the ability to love again as I know not every man is like him him. My career, friends, and family are my main focus now and if I meet someone down the line great. With him out of the picture, I can now put forth my original plans of putting a down payment on my dream home by the end of the year. I can't say I don't think about it on a daily basis because I do... sometimes I cry myself to sleep and wake up with nightmares about him. So I have made plans to speak to a therapist next month to get the trauma resolved so I can fully move forward. I have been much kinder to others after this event as well... as I have suffered and know the pain. I believe this was meant to happen and everything will fall into place as it should.