The start of my adult life-- college



  • Hi there...

    I'll be starting at college in about two months. For the most part, I'm really excited. But on the other hand I'm quite anxious. Despite the normal college woes, I also have added on the fact that the college is in the midwest (I'm from the northeast). I was just wondering if anyone sees anything that I should be especially wary of, or open to? I"m going to be without familiarities in a very different place than where I've always lived and it would be great to either receive reassurance or some cautious wisdom. Do you believe this particular college is beneficial to me?? Thank you for all your help in advance.



  • This will be a beneficial change for you in that it will help you mature and grow wise in the ways of the world. It may help to think on this message -

    "When we find ourselves going through any kind of change in our lives, our natural response may be to tense up on the physical, mental, or emotional level. We may not even notice that we have braced ourselves against a shift until we recognize the anxiety, mood swings, or general worried feeling toward the unknown that usually results. There are positive ways to move through change without pushing it away, however, or attempting to deny that it is happening. Since change will occur in almost every aspect of our lives, we can learn to make our response to it an affirmative one of anticipation, welcoming the new while releasing the past with grace.

    One thing we can do is change our perspective by changing the labels we use to identify our feelings. We can reinterpret feelings of anxiety as the anxious butterflies that come with eager expectation. With this shift, we begin to look for the good that is on its way to us. Though we may only be able to imagine the possibilities, when we acknowledge that good is there for us to find, we focus our energy on joyful anticipation and bring it into our experience while allowing the feelings to carry us forward. Sometimes the shift from denial to acceptance is all that is needed to ease our anxiety, allowing us to bring our memories with us as we move through nervousness to joyful excitement about the good to come. "

    From the DailyOm website.



  • Also don't fall for any flattery that older students may give you just to get you to do what they want. I feel you can be a bit of a sucker when it comes to false praise or con artists. Ask around if anyone comes onto you too strong and find out what they're really like.