Lost & confused- Scorpio ex. NEED HELP!
In need of some scorpio advice. I’m a cancer woman and he’s scorpio male. To make a long story short, my ex scorpio and I have not been together for a year now; however he was vindictive after our break up and got himself a new lady and still continued to be rediculously mean to me. He esentially caused the tornado that demolished our relationship. Lived together for a year as well. I moved out temporarily, or so I thought. We loved eachother to the moon and back; had that passionate and emotional connection. We were inseperable even living together; it’s almost sickening when I look back on it. Anyway, the last time we spoke was about 7 months ago around my birthday. He blocked me on facebook and it upset me, and I contacted him asking why we just couldn’t be civil since we had a history together. and the convo did not end nicely. He made it clear by screaming at me on the phone that he wanted nothing to do with me because i was his “ex” and we could not even be civil and it’s “out of respect for his girlfriend” as well as he “doesn’t care whats going on in my life or anything that has to do with me” . Keep in mind even after our break up it dragged out for almost 8 months and that one incident was nothing. We haven’t spoken since then. I’ve been silent and did not contact him at all. About a month ago after all these months I noticed he unblocked me on fbook. Then to make it worse; At my work the other night (which he knows where I work) he showed up randomly with his friend. I was bartending, and then saw him. He was almost hiding behind his friend apprehensive to approach me. Everytime I looked in his direction he was staring right into my eyes. This continued for the next hour or so. Staring hard into my eyes. I broke the ice by making his friend and him a drink and made it strong. A little later after I guess he had “liquid courage” he asked me for a drink and was trying to joke around with me. I felt so uncomfortable because there was so much unresolved issues between us. I laughed it off and made him his new drink; And he starts asking me how my family is; going down the list of my relatives. I was giving one word answers because I’m still confused as to why he was at my job. (He never goes there) I decided to be nice and ask how his girlfriend was; and he laughed and said “be nice; she’s good.” I replied; haha I don’t give a sh*t I’m seeing someone else.” Then he says “Ok, then why are you over here talking to me?” And I said right back; “Um, what the **** are you doing at my job?” ( he was practically up my butt the whole night; you would of thought we were best friends. But I was sweet and sour with him. FInally I just got so agitated that he was there acting like everything was fine and I went to the bathroom. Ironically he was walking into the mens bathroom. He stops me, and says “Come on, I want to be civil; I want to be friends”. I got angry and said “Why are you here? And thats not going to happen because the guy I’m dating wouldn’t appreciate that.” We went back and forth saying things like “go be with your girl” and him saying “go be with your man” etc. For a minute I thought it was about to blow up..but then He tried to keep it cool infront of me when I told him my new man wouldn’t appreciate us being civil but he got so mad he told his friend he wanted to leave; but then his friend convinced him to stay and just relax. Then I felt bad and didn’t want to leave it off like that, so I told him to meet me outside to smoke a ciggarette out back. We walked outside and he lights my ciggarette for me and started talking. I told him that I appreciated him attempting to be civil or friends or whatever, but it’s not going to happen and I didn’t know what to think of it. He goes on about how happy he is now in his relationship and how he never thought he would of met her after me and how shes a sweet girl. (April 2011 by the way when we talked on the phone he told me he had a hard time accepting that his new lady wasn’t me for a while”.) Then he says “You and I were together did our thing and we’re not 2gether anymore so it is what it is.” I just said ok, and told him I just wanted him to be happy and I hoped he wished the same for me. He said he did, and said “you’ll eventually find somebody, you’re a good girl”. I reminded him (it was like he was in denial) that I was seeing someone that treats me really well. He then says “Better than I treated you? That must be pretty damn good”. I said “Yep, better than you”. He just laughed and said “Ok, go be with your man”. He then wanted to go back inside to meet back up with his friend; more like a quick exit. I told him to wait, and said whats the real reason you’re here. He said he was just “out” which was bs. Then he goes on about how apparently his girlfriend’s “ex” is still around her family and he said it’s “akward”. So i said, so thats what this is about; you’re here out of spite? He replied “no not at all.” I felt like he was just trying to justify why he was at my job. Anyway, if he wanted to spite her I would be the wrong person to do it because she hates my guts and wants him nowhere near me and would not be happy if it got back to her that he was sitting at the bar I worked at acting like we’re best friends. Then somehow we started making our old “inside jokes” when we were together and made eachother laugh a little bit. He told me to “come here” and called me his pet name for me when we were together and hugged me. Not just a “hi how are you doing hug, more like a let me hold you hug. I felt weird because I knew he was drunk and I was still in disbelief and couldn’t figure out his real intentions, so it was more him hugging me. I kept my head into his chest as he squeezed me glanced up real quick and it felt like we were about to kiss or something but we both quickly pulled away. We went back inside. Later he was out on the dance floor dancing with girls and occassionally peeped over at the bar I swear to try to see if I was seeing it. It was like he wanted me to see it. His friend and him ended up leaving quickly because there was some arguement outside and the cops came. We were closing down the bar and the DJ asked me if I was ok, because I seemed like I had a lot on my mind that night. I told him I was just stressed because my ex did a surprise appearance on me. He then says, “I know who you’re talking about, he was the dude outside earlier smoking a cig asking me if I knew the bartender with a flower in her hair and talkin about u.” (the girl with the flower in her hair was me. I don’t understand what all of this means; Now he wants to be “civil”? I feel like if he was truly happy with his girlfriend why would he be seeking me out like this. I don’t understand. What do I do??! Please help!
ElAl last edited by
It sounds to me like he's a hot-headed Scorpio. Immature sounds to me.
I asked about him and the cards gave me Precipice. He often times makes too many reckless decisions. Usually hurting those closest to him. After the damage is done, though, he wakes up and realizes what a mess he's made. He tries his best to clean it up.
As for you, I got the Passion card. A loving person, that goes into things with all their heart. I feel that you still have feelings for him. Even if it is pity!
Why is he acting in such a way? Well, here the card shows again how impatient and reckless he is. For one, he wanted to be independent and I feel that he thought you were in the way. Now, he finally has an epiphany and realizes, "Wow! Things were great!" Now followed by a "D'oh! I shouldn't have done that." In the end though, I feel he still wants to talk to you. The Wheel card shows how much he cares about what you think. He wants to reconnect with you and make things better.
How are things with his current girlfriend? Well, things were great. Now, I think he's running under a lot of doubts. I don't think he's communicating well with the woman or she's doing something that is really annoying him. The Volcano card shows that maybe his temper and impatience is rising and building up the longer he's with her.
What should you do? Be very, very careful with him. If you have doubts about talking to him, good because again it may not turn out so well. I got the Lilith and Manipulation card, so it may be that he's going to try and be shady to get you back. The Lilith card tell you to hold your ground and turn the tables on him by showing him you're no one to be played with. Defensive mode Cancer!
Don't be surprised if one of these days he comes back and tells you something shocking -- "I still love you!" maybe?-- I got the confession card for the outcome, so expect some news about him soon.
I think he misses you and regrets what he's done, but I would be careful just to even have a friendship with him. Undoubtedly if he makes up his mind about winning you back he's going to try everything in his power to do so.
You shouldn't go back to him or even have that feeling, even if it's a little feeling, of getting back with him. He needs to grow a lot before a new positive relationship can even hope to grow.
TheCaptain last edited by
Kimmy, this is very typical Scorpion behaviour. They have such a possessive jealous streak that they cannot let go of any of their old relationships, even when they have lost interest in the people involved. They just need to know that the other person is finding it hard to move on without them. It's an ego thing and doesn't mean he wants you back. He keeps an eye on all his former flames, hoping that he was the one they can't get over. It's a stupid ego trip so let it go.
I appreciate everyone's input. At eI- thank you for responding. That does sound just like him. And yes I do put my heart into what I do. @ captain- ok, well if it's an ego boost why isn't he going after any other of his ex'es? Why me??
LoveDetox last edited by
Ugh, that is definitely an immature person you are dealing with. Parts of it sound similar to my ex husbands relationship with me (for a while anyways). The whole story gives me the chills... yuck!!
Just walk away from this one and never look back, odds are he thinks he's the sh** and he is delusional on top of that.. too close to home there! Stop talking to the creep and walk away is my advice.
TheCaptain last edited by
Kimmy, how do you know he isn't going after his other exs? Scorpions are very secretive about their personal lives.
I am positive . We have mutual friends. @love detox I'm sorry you went thru what you did. Good to know someone understands what I've been going through.