What's Your Food Craving?

  • Oh, and chocolate bars with nuts - a desire for your love partner to understand your needs. Longing for carefree love, fun, and romance.

    Affirmation - " I open my heart and connect with my love partner. I drop all defences and enjoy our togetherness."

  • Thanks, The Captain. I guess this actually speaks volumes to me about what is my problem. Sounds as if I need to find this book and read it. Maybe reading it can help me with my weight issues. Is it an old book or a new one?

  • The book was first published in 1995 but I found it easily on the internet as many New Age bookstores seem to have it.

  • Thanks, I think I will go and find it.

  • I too would be interested in the time factor. I seem to crave cookies anytime from 4pm onwards, any kind of cookie, whatever is there. It takes real discipline not to and I seem to remember reading somewhere it is tocompensate energy loss, I think it is procrastination and simple boredom. Any ideas?


  • WOW...thanks for sharing this with us Captain. This is very fascinating I must get my hands on a copy of Doreen's book, I think she is fab, I have read some of her books and have Healing with the Angel cards and the Archangel cards....Love her and now a way to understand our selves, our cravings (what they really mean) and why we have trouble losing and maintaining our weight! 😉

    All I seem to be craving at the moment is a cigarette though, because I have recently give them up again, for like the billionth time. fingers cross this time I stay off them. As for food I have been craving a Big Mac from McDonald's and cheese on chips with curry sauce on top (I am not pregnant, by the way LOL) What do these mean?

    Thank you, with love and light

  • Usually, it's M&M's that are my must have chocolate fix. I can get a big bag and eat just a few at a time and if I can keep everyone else out of them, they last a while.

    I love coconut too. When that hits I reach for Mounds bars.

    Lately though I have wanted the coconut more than chocolate. Little mini-donuts with toasted coconut on them. They are called "Gems". I have always liked them but a few weeks ago I couldn't go a single day without them. It has eased off now but...oh! wait...now that I have thought about them, I can almost taste them.

  • Oh I like dark chocolate sometimes with truffles.. or Kinder delice 😄 Spongy moist cake with dark chocolate layer! 😄 Sometimes i crave cashew nuts too!

  • Paddifluff, Doreen says that we are all different - that is why those one-diet-fits-all or diet books for everyone don't work. Each person will have different food cravings and different seasonal, time periods or day and night craving times. Many people feel stressed after work or looking after children all day so nightime is a popular craving time. Plus there are less people around to see you stuff your face (for binge eaters). I will post a quiz to see what sort of eating style everyone here has ASAP.

    Your general craving for cookies means feeling unloved and a lot of tension. It signifies a need to comfort yourself - that is, you see food as your only comforter because you feel unsupported by family and friends and colleagues. If you had a preference for a particular kind of cookie, I could be more specific. But it means you need to get or feel more love and support from others.

  • Leolou

    Hamburger: Feeling inscure and unclear. Wanting direction, motivation, and energy.

    Affirmation: "I release my life to the Universe, knowing that God has wonderful plans for me. When I follow those plans, all the details are taken care of."

    Chips with cheese: anger and tension. Anxiety or anger that has turned into depression. Self-anger or feeling betrayed.

    Affirmation: "I now realize I am Divinely directed. When I focus on love and joy, I am automatically led away from any source of pain or hurt."

    Curry: Work or family responsibilities are draining you. You want something to fire you up or give you more energy and enthusiasm.

    Afirmation: " My enthusiasm is high and I enjoy learning from challenges."


  • Rynna

    M & Ms (plain): Work is interfering with your desire to relax and get closer to your loved one(s).

    Affirmaation: "When I let go, All my relationships improve."

    M & Ms (with nuts): Your love life feels boring and you are angry.

    Affirmation: I have fun and love in my life right this very moment."

    Coconut: Anxious because of heavy workload with no end in sight.

    Affirmation: I practise self-love when I set a realistic schedule for myself. I allow myself breaks and rest time."

    Doughnuts: Needing motivation. Stressed and drained. Dread and trepidation.

    Affirmation: "I know the truth about the situation and am willing to make needed changes to restore my balance, energy, and enthusiasm."

  • NeptunianDreams

    NUTS - Tension. Too much stress and not enough fun - anxiety and lowered peace of mind.

    Affirmation - "It's OK for me to relax and play. I give myself permission to have fun."

    TRUFFLES (plain): Wanting to escape to a pure state of love and bliss.

    Affirmation: "I am love, and I am in love now."

    TRUFFLES (with nuts): A deep longing for a storybook romance, wanting to be swept off one's feet.

    Affirmation: "Perfect love resides within me now. I am complete and I am loved."

    CHOCOLATE CAKE: Feeling insecure, possibly due to relationship problems.

    Affirmation: "I trust that when I act in love, I am Divinely guided. I am humble and sincere in all my interactions with others."

  • QUIZ: What’s your Eating Style? (from “Constant Craving”)

    True or False (there is no right or wrong answer - just what is true or false for you) -

    1. I tend to overeat one or two certain types of food.

    2. Once I have one bite of a food such as a certain type of dessert, dairy product, baked good, or salty junk food, my eating habits and appetite go out of control.

    3. I sometimes worry - often without justification - that I won't get enough to eat.

    4. I crave certain flavours or types of foods, and sometimes the only way to make the cravings go away is to eat whatever I have the desire for.

    5. I have gone to extreme lengths (e.g., driven several miles out of my way; spent excessive money, etc.) to get the food I'm craving.

    If you answered "True" to 3 or more of Questions 1 through 5, you are a "Binge Eater."

    This is a very black-and-white eating style - you either are a Binge Eater or you're not. Those who are Binge Eaters will instantly recognize this description. Those who aren't Binge Eaters will think this is an outlandish description. Certain foods trigger overeating in Binge Eaters. Those foods are often referred to as "binge foods." Binge foods commonly are made from refined white flour or sugar - foods such as sweets, pastas, and breads. Different theories have tried to explain the binge-food phenomenon. Some experts believe Binge Eaters become anxious as a result of blood sugar fluctuations triggered by eating high-glucose foods. This anxiety leads to a cycle of binge-eating to relieve the condition. Many Binge Eaters find that the only way to keep their appetite under control is by avoiding their binge food altogether. This is also a useful therapeutic approach, because often avoiding the binge food keeps a lid on the person's underlying emotional issues. When the binge food is removed from their availability, the emotions are free to come forward for resolution. Binge Eaters will benefit from interpreting their cravings for the binge food, using the methods in this book.

  • 6. I only overeat when I'm feeling a strong emotion, such as anger or depression.

    7. Right after work, I head straight for food.

    8. I tend to eat whenever I'm bored.

    9. Sometimes, out of the blue, I'll find that I am incredibly hungry.

    10. I feel uncomfortable openly displaying or talking about my feelings.

    If you answered "True" to 3 or more of Questions 6 through 10, you are a "Mood Eater."

    This is a person who overeats in response to strong emotions. Often, the Mood Eater is an exquisitely sensitive individual who is very compassionate and empathetic with respect to other people. Mood Eaters are sensitive to other people's feelings and intuitively know when something is troubling another person. Often, the Mood Eater is employed in a helping profession, such as teaching, counselling, or medicine. Mood Eaters are so engulfed by the emotions that they've absorbed from other people that their own feelings are sublimated or ignored. They may also feel overwhelmed by tho prospect of adding their own strong emotions onto their already-full plate. So they eat in order to manage their emotional capacity. Although Mood Eaters are highly capable caretakers of others, they sometimes neglect themselves altogether. Sometimes this realization upsets Mood Eaters, as they realize that they are doing all the work, and no one is attending to their needs. At those times, the Mood Eater feels unappreciated and resentful. They take out their frustration in the best way they know how - by eating. Since Mood Eaters are externally oriented - focusing more on other people than on themselves - they can tune into their own feelings and become more directed by interpreting their food cravings as they arise.

  • 11 . I wish I were a more confident and strong person.

    12. Just when I lose enough weight to start receiving compliments or admiring glances, I tend to start putting the weight back on again.

    I3. For the most part, I want to lose weight to please my spouse, parent, lover, or some other person.

    14. I'm almost to the point where I've given up hope that I'll ever lose my excess weight; maybe I'm meant to be overweight.

    15 . My weight makes me feel bad about myself, and when I gain weight, I feel like a failure.

    If you answered "True" to 3 or more of Questions 11 through 15, you are a "Self-Esteem Eater."

    This is someone who uses food as a friend, a companion, and for entertainment. The Self-Esteem Eater has difficulties in interpersonal relationships. Often, Self-Esteem Eaters relate better to food, books, animals, and movies than they do to other people. They feel misunderstood and have been hurt by people who rejected or abandoned them. Many Self-Esteem Eaters are survivors of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, and they learned in early childhood to distrust others.. Much of the Self-Esteem Eaters' struggle with food and weight stems from three issues -

    a) They can't bear the thought of losing their closest friend: food. The thought of giving up the overeating of ice cream, cookies, or cheeseburgers makes them feel cold and vulnerable. If they aren't able to use food for comfort, companionship, and solace, who or what can they turn to?

    b) They have little confidence in their ability to lead a healthful lifestyle. The Self-Esteem Eater is usually well read and informed about the importance of healthful eating and exercise. Their library may be stocked with health books. Yet they don't believe that they have the stamina or patience to consistently exercise. So they don't even try.

    c) They beat themselves up by going on eating binges. Self-Esteem Eaters struggle with the fourth FATS feeling: Shame. They question their self- worth, and deep down they wonder if something is wrong with them. During these times, they punish themselves by eating to the point where their stomach hurts. Self-Esteem Eaters don't believe that they deserve the benefits of having a fit and healthy body.

    Self-Esteem Eaters benefit more from appropriate psyched therapy than from any particular style of eating. This is not to imply that something is wrong with Self-Esteem Eaters; rather they just have the most to gain from this type of treatment. Therapy will most likely be the first experience they have being emotionally vulnerable in front of another human being - that is, a skilled therapist. But when Self-Esteem Eaters find that the therapist doesn't reject them for being who they are, they will be able to connect with other people in their life. They can then develop friendships with people, and stop relying on food for companionship and comfort. Self-Esteem Eaters also benefit from food-craving interpretation as a way of becoming more honest with themselves. When they face the truth behind the meaning of their food cravings, it's a first step toward easing the loneliness that haunts them. Self-honesty always increases one's self-esteem, and food-craving interpretation is a productive way of honestly coming to terms with parts of ourselves we may be afraid of facing.

  • I6. I never seem to have enough time to eat right or exercise.

    17. I'm so busy that some days I wonder if I'll drop from exhaustion.

    18. I seem to be working harder these days and getting less accomplished.

    19 . The only way I can unwind most of the time is when I'm eating.

    20. Food is a great pick-me-up when I'm feeling drained but I feel that I need to keep going.

    If you answered "True" to 3 or more of Questions 16 through 20, you are a "Stress Eater."

    This person overeats in response to the third FATS feeling: Tension. I've found that two life areas trigged Stress Eating: unhappiness with one's work life, and dissatisfaction with one's love life. Both life areas are difficult to change, and usually take time and effort to correct. Because we can't just snap our fingers and "fix" the love or work life, we overeat to ease the tension. Stress Eaters usually have a wide range of food cravings, all intuitively chosen to ease their tension and frustration. They crave alcohol to manage their ever-taut nerves, coffee and cola to pump up their enthusiasm and energy, chocolate to ease their love-life disappointments, breads and dairy products to calm themselves down, and crunchy snack foods to control their anger. Food craving interpretation is one way of accessing the underlying sources of frustration so that they may be dealt with head-on. I also encourage Stress Eaters to add four essential ingredients to their life, which help with tension much more effectively than do foods or beverages -

    a) Exercise. Please don't assume that I'm asking you to add more responsibility to your already-full plate of things to do. I realize that it's a hassle to exercise. Still, exercise is one of the easiest ways to feel better, reduce stress, get more energy, control anger, and reduce the appetite. The best motivational tool I've ever found with respect to exercise is to develop a focused mindset that "exercise is a non-optional activity." Put exercise into the same category as your daily shower, and see it as something that you simply need to do. No ifs, ands, or buts!

    b) Fun and Recreation. The number-one source of resentment is the feeling that everybody else gets to relax and have fun, while we're left with all the chores and responsibility. It is a powerful residual emotion left over from childhood. Many people feel that fun is a waste of time or a sign of weakness. Fun - like exercise - is a necessity, not a luxury. Would you like to feel as if you have two extra hours in the day? You'll get that feeling when you incorporate in small daily doses of fun into your life. Fun recharges the soul and the spirit, giving you the energy and enthusiasm necessary to meet your responsibilities. Fun doesn't have to cost anything or take more than 10 or 15 minutes. The important thing is for you to give yourself permission to relax and enjoy yourself every day.

    c) Time Outdoors. Stress Eaters usually lead whirlwind lifestyles. They're running at a dead heat from the moment they wake up until the time they go to bed at night. This harried pace leaves little time for noticing the simple and beautiful things in everyday life. Here's an instant stress-buster, kind of a game you can play with yourself on a daily basis: When you are driving home from work or during your lunch hour, notice three things in nature. This could be a cloud, the sound of a bird singing, the reflection on a puddle of water, or the colors in a sunset. If you really want to ease your tension, take a walk during your lunch hour or eat lunch outside (near grass or trees). Being in close proximity to nature is instantly stress-reducing. It calms our nerves, soothes our soul, and definitely slows us down. I suppose that's where the phrase, "Stop and smell the roses" came from.

    d) Spirituality. When your heart feels full of love and gratitude, very few things can get on your nerves. People who are spiritual or religious are usually less vulnerable to earthly stressors, because they believe that everything will turn out for the best. Instead of sweating out the picayune details of everyday life, they "let go" and trust. This doesn't mean that they blindly accept the dictates of others. Spiritually guided persons are among some of the world's most successful individuals.

    All four stress-reducing elements - exercise, having fun, spending time outdoors, and spirituality - can be combined effectively. For example, any type of outdoor activity, blended with meditation or prayer, will create an incredible boost of positive feelings and energy. And when you feel great, you won't crave food as much.

  • 21. My weight changes during the seasons; I'm one weight in the summer and a different weight during the winter.

    22. Eating is one of the few pleasures left in my life.

    23. Sometimes when I'm lonely, I'll nibble on whatever's handy.

    24. Usually when I diet, I'll eventually stop caring whether I Iose weight or not. That's when I return to overeating.

    25. I often go back for second or third helpings of "diet," low-fat, or low-calorie foods.

    If you answered "True" to 3 or more of Questions 21 through 25, you are a "Snowball Effect Eater."

    Think of a snowball rolling down a mountain, gaining momentum and size, and you'll have an idea of the Snowball Effect Eater's style. This person's determination to stick with a healthful eating and exercise program vacillates tremendously. Brenda's story typifies the struggle of a Snowball Effect Eater. Last December, Brenda was horrified when she saw a Polaroid picture of herself next to the Christmas tree. "Oh my gosh! Look how fat I look!" she exclaimed, and immediately made a New Year's resolution to lose weight. Her motivation to eat light was high after the holidays, so Brenda's dinner meals consisted of skinless chicken breasts, salads with fat-free dressing, and steamed rice. She lost six pounds in just a few weeks. Then, in mid-January, her husband decided to throw a Super Bowl party. Brenda volunteered to plan the snack menu. While preparing the pizza, chip dips, and other munchies, Brenda felt obligated as hostess to taste-test all the foods. After the Super Bowl, Brenda's incentive to diet decreased. She'd tasted those high-fat foods, and her mouth ached for more. So, her skinless chicken breast meal was now a fried half-of-a-chicken, complete with skin. Her fat-free salad now consisted of a small serving of lettuce, topped with huge portions of shredded cheese, bacon bits, croutons, and blue cheese dressing. She replaced the steamed rice with a huge baked potato, complete with butter and sour cream. In Brenda's mind, she was still eating the basic "diet dinner menu" of chicken, salad, and a complex carbohydrate. She quit caring whether or not she lost weight, and barely noticed when she regained the six pounds.

    Snowball Effect Eaters usually exhibit inconsistent motivation levels because their weight-loss efforts are externally motivated. Like Brenda, they declare themselves to be on a diet in response to some outer stimulus, such as a photograph, a spouse's comment, or too-tight jeans. However, these external sources of motivation just can't provide the steady stream of inspiration necessary for permanent changes in eating behavior. Internal motivation is necessary, with a focus on:

    • how much energy we have when we eat healthful foods,

    • how great it feels to have toned muscles,

    • how exercise eases our tension and worries,

    • how treating our bodies with respect leads to higher self-regard, and

    • the fact that the only opinion that matters, as far as our weight is concerned, is our own.

    Brenda's black-and-white approach to weight loss also set her up for fluctuations both in her weight and in her motivation. Instead of saying, "Either I eat like a pauper, or I eat like a pig," Brenda could take a more conservative approach. Yes, it takes more time to lose weight using a moderate rather than a radical diet, but in the long run, we won't get those sharp swings in weight. So, instead of forcing ourselves to eat a bland, fat-free diet, it's more realistic to find a flavourful, low-fat menu that satisfies the taste buds as well as our nutritional requirements. Snowball Effect Eaters benefit from food-craving interpretation because it keeps them focused on internal motivations for eating. Instead of viewing their food cravings as a sign of, "What's the use? I'm hungry, so I'll just abandon this stupid diet," they are more able to understand the underlying emotional significance of their cravings.

    This quiz is designed to help you better understand your eating style. Understanding yourself is always an important step in making desired behaviour changes. Many people will find that they exhibit more than one Emotional Eating Style; some people exhibit all five styles at certain times. After all, we're multidimensional creatures that don't fit into a single pigeonhole. We are complex blends of our past experiences, present situations, heredity, emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviours. We evolve and change, usually driven by desires to improve ourselves, and sometimes thwarted by life's roadblocks. All these factors influence our eating styles, and what holds true for you today may be entirely different one year from now. Yet most diets and diet books hand us a ‘one-size-fits-all’ prescription.

    All five styles of emotional eating can employ food-craving interpretation as a means of reducing or eliminating intrusive desires to overeat. The more you understand about yourself, the more you're able to work with - instead of against - yourself. There's no need to fight yourself; that's an unloving thing to do that will only create depression and internal resistance. Instead, move toward gently understanding and accepting yourself. Trying to sublimate an emotion is like trying to ignore a child who desperately wants your intention. The child just screams louder and more urgently until the adult finally acknowledges him or her. Your emotions are just like that child. If you nurture and pay attention to them, they won't need to scream at you in the form of an overly active appetite.

    So, really listen to your food cravings - they are part of your inner voice, and provide valuable information!

  • Hey Captain, thanks for the info. It makes a whole lot of sense to me and I am going to try the affirmations out 😉

    From the exercise of what type of eater you are, I fall into the Binge Eater category, perhaps regularly repeating the positive affirmations, will stop me from binging on my craving foods and help me to shed a few pounds and maintain a healthy weight, as well as help me out a whole lot emotionally and psychologically.


    with love and light LL

  • I am a cross between mood and self esteem, tending more to mood.

    That must have taken hours to type. Not generally overconcerned about my weight or eating habits but sometimes it gets too much.


  • Thanks, Captain. I will add the affirmations to my growing list. I used to meditate practically everyday but got out of the habit. I am trying to start again and I am writing things out that I want to focus on.


    M & Ms (plain): Work is interfering with your desire to relax and get closer to your loved one(s).

    Affirmaation: "When I let go, All my relationships improve."

    M & Ms (with nuts): Your love life feels boring and you are angry.

    Affirmation: I have fun and love in my life right this very moment."

    ~~M&M's plain. That is actually something I have been trying to work on. I have a teenager who is always moody and going through the stage of not wanting to be different from his friends. I am a long year away from that and I have been trying to remember and understand that at one time I was probably the same way.

    ~~M & M's with nuts. I have never liked those and only eat them when I absolutely have nothing else. My mom used to buy them for me all the time, no matter how many times I told her that I didn't like them, I liked plain ones. Maybe that was how she was feeling.

    Coconut: Anxious because of heavy workload with no end in sight.

    Affirmation: I practise self-love when I set a realistic schedule for myself. I allow myself breaks and rest time."

    Doughnuts: Needing motivation. Stressed and drained. Dread and trepidation.

    Affirmation: "I know the truth about the situation and am willing to make needed changes to restore my balance, energy, and enthusiasm."

    ~~Coconut doughnuts. I guess I was anxious and dreading a situation. It wasn't necessarily work related although it was a responsibility.