Advice and Guidance please
I thought i had been moving on from a friendship with benefits relationship, but i never really knew for sure if he married or what.
By pure and utter chance i re-connection's to face book, with in my socialising group..
I got talking to someone who name and connect friend , drove me to click on that person who had same name as one of his children, again i just followed my gut instinct, as i followed each i added up sister to baby bruv to dad.. when looked on friends, who turns up but he does.
I double checked today, her pic is of a dog in which now i see is the same he posted me in November, and she has the same name Charlie.. her info does not say married.. s is blank .
I sent a friend request to his dad, and he accepted..
Im in stalemate as what do i really want to do or should do..
Im Arian when we hurt we react on impulse i have learnt to control that urge.. I know it doesn't always get you what you want.
I just want to know for complete sureness he is married to this lady..but im feeling wary of how many people am i going to hurt in process.
i worry about Karma what you give out you get back centrefold.
Advice: stay away.
If all this searching is by chance and you end up with no answers...there is no point. (especially if it wil cause problems and headaches for yourself)
I believe it was a sign to seek what i wanted and i got it, He was not to best pleased when he found out id contacted his family.. unsure if got message i sent wife, although don't get me wrong, i just hinted at knowing him.. im getting soft in my older age, im not that vindictive,
Make it worse, his dad has been texting me, and my god does it sound like father son.. i also have the gut feel that he is doing it not his dad , as to what he said on phionbe i have no doubt he would do thjat , just see what id say.
Oh dear scully21, when you really want out of a situation ... you leave it! no strings, nothing. If you don't stop all ties and communications with this guy...you will get hurt. That's the truth!
I have got what i wanted.. confirmation
There no more contact... done know.. its a lesson to be learnt to listen to your gut when it tells you he married and listen to it
Absolutely, and good for you!