Captain, Reading Please
What did you mean by, emotional orgies and self loathing,
The latter i get cause i felt bd way i looked, im over that now
It means obsessing over real or imaginary problems, flaws or deficiencies, Scully - too much self-examination to the point where you can't think straight or see yoursefl objectively.
I see what you mean, too much on negative , should be more on the positive?
Its my 40th today,, can you give me any more good advice?
Let go of the past and old hurts and start your new year afresh.
My gut says yes,
Should i stay away from H,R,T ??
Follow your gut then.
I think, the real reason why you ask others sometimes, is because you doubt yourself, in your self-confidence in yourself.
I hated confrontation, from growing up from parents that argued a lot, i remember as child waking p to rows, and that i think why i hate them. I learnt now to face that and be assertive and cool, be firm when i have to face that.
I think the need for approval was misguided in that respect.
The h,r,t is something i had for fifteens yrs because i dont produce it enough to have period, although my body does sometimes, i know how i feel i hit forty and it say that enough, i just need something to look after my bones, well my old GP said i have nothing to worry about, i saw not new gp, said well the hosp specialist said you should as your hormone level always low, but didn't listen to me, as i try say although not take the h,r,t i still see be bloating all the norm just not have period, so that tells me as yrs ago my brain produces but my ovaries small cant, i believe that. Im going to make appointment to see my new GP,, and say this, and ask how i else can i help my bones for later life?
It's always good to get a second, even a third, medical opinion. If you are not happy with one diagnosis, seek another until your gut tells you it's right.
I see this
Where sp concerned
, That i can see as right, i guess the young man from what i know used to see his dad more regularly a couple years ago, than now but the boy is older.
Would my contact the family on fb, and some how son ask me if i knew his dad,, i hope that has nothing to do with him not want see sp?
Did he make up a friend died after i said, this is tedious?
Then when i would do something as group, he said he was dying? I saw he lost weight, bit something not right.
Even if i sent him a email later on fut-er, i dont think he would rep lie?
How do you mean he would harm me?
I ask these, because it bugs me to know i liked someone who do that, but my instinctual where say so, except the last, say dying,, could i really care for someone who does that?
HJow do you see me and sk planning out, i see friendship?
Maybe just a casual acquaintance...
We today have agree we are friends, now that to me is more important than anything, i want a better social life and friends away from work, so now hopefully i will get that in time, at least i have gained one friend. I will go for the speed date again it was such a confidence boost, i enjoyed it, you dont know who you meet.
It's good to have a friend away from work, it has occurred to me, if something go on as in group or something, i can ask him if like come, that way i dont always have to do things on my own.
We both ,well i encourage him too, go to the next speed night, why not, deferentially go for over forty's this time?
It funny, how i just relaxed and just be me, when we got that out of the way,? Having friends and better social life is what's most important to me, than anything,
I always new deep down, even when i first did on-line date,,, that my type of guy be someone who outgoing, has social life, people person, so i need to get that in my life too,, see i know now im not the ant-social, introvert, i was made to feel!?
I am take some time for one whole month, to get into the life-style good routine i want, as i still be go back and forth, have been get some exercise in, and still have to sort other stuff out, That i feel will help me with everything else.
It sounds like you are really going well with your life. You seem much more calm and confident.
Firstly, i thought e the health heck i could have just asked in my own thread, but i saw it ashed, so what i wanted to say to that was, this week i have been thinking very carefully what im eating, i know my stomach, hates greasy foods and gassy stuff, it seems to be getting intolerable to some spicy stuff, i just listening to it, i was brought up to eat well, and your body get used to that.
I am in such a good place in my life, my confidence in been happy with who i am, is reeping results, positive energy with-in the workplace and with family, as i express myself better now, and i made friend outside of work, so im sure i will continue to make more.
Do you think i could be over confident and project it in the wrong way regarding romantic relationships? I unsure i really ready for that yet, as i want to build a good social out lets have friends away from work, that seems to me to be the most important thing to me. In my heart, if i get that right, i will attract the like minded, soul who is right for me one day.
I dont have the desperate need any more of been loved and wanted, it pops in, yeah, old habits mind think, but it fading so much, it just take times,, a colleague asked has your life started at forty, i said yes deferentially, you see reason for that, when i mentioned that to another colleague, she said no, and went on to ask that colleague, she said it did for her, that made me smile.
I have been getting the strongest feel to get back to do the physic book, although i have noted how sharper mine is, also been geet my bookworm self back too, just feel i need to contrail a bit time for that too.
Yes, just take it slowly. Change is difficult but it only takes about a month of doing or thinking differently, for it to stick.
This i a weird,, now for two days running i had some ass of a guy in van then car make some comments. What i find freak me out, was on the second time, as i walk home, i heard a voice, it sounded so close like right behind me, that's reason why i turned, but it was a guy in car at least ten twenty feet away, as i hard of hearing too , it just been bug me, it felt that close, and also i have feel it same guy as to the day before in van, like from the speed date, what my gut says. It the closeness that bugs me. i dont know if it me bee very sensitive or something.
It's only something to worry about if it keeps happening.