Aquarius girl confused by taurus man
Hi, I had been dating a taurus man that i met online and we had been talking for about three months before we met. everything was great at first until i made a mistake and mentioned my ex on different occasions. The first two he had asked me a question and the answer involved my ex while the last one i made the mistake. Since it was LDR kinda thing we would see each other at least every two weeks but communicate everyday. So after my 3rd mention. he pulled away and tried to cover it up. I ignored it and hoped he would forget about it by morning but he stopped talking much. I asked what was up and if we were moving too fast and he said he wasn't sure if we were moving fast or if we should figure a way of how to make the time and distance thing work.
Since i had fallen for him and am sure he was falling / had also fallen for me. He probably thought i was not over my ex and so he pulled away and because it was LDR. he probably started to doubt and have trust in me. I tried to apologize and he said he was ok with that and just avoided the topic. So i stopped talking to him for about 2weeks and he text me asking me what was up like nothing had happened. i ignored him and replied later but he ignored me again. so the same thing went on . and this time i initiated the contact. he was happy to hear from me but we just talked as friends would. then a friend of mine text him with my phone(without my knowledge) pretending to be me and expressing my love for him. I guess he freaked out or something and i dont know what he replied to the text she sent but he was now avoiding me. My friend who had been staying with me at that time. continued sending him messages acting like they were from me for at least 2months (still not aware of that). so i decided i would go to his town and suprise him and tell him i could move there so we wouldnt have this problem with LDR.
But because i never knew what was going on. He acted cold and told me we could only be friends. so i was like ok. but i never got to tell him what took me there. I went back home sad. and my friend came clean and said it was her fault.
when he found out it wasnt me who had been sending the messages. he was eager to chat online.
anyways to cut it short. I told him what took me there and asked if he wanted to make it work and that i would love to continue dating him as long as he wasnt seeing anyone but he never replied. Days past and i sent email and apologized for asking it rude and asked if he wanted to make it work and i was willing to make dinner to apologize for my behavior and he replied and said he would love for me to serve him dinner but he prefered if we were friends. I told him as long as he would stop ignoring me. He was like i will try.
So a week later i get an email from him(at least so i thought) declaring his love and asking me all sorts of questions and how i felt about him. I decided to reply but i did that after a week. I replied on his other email and thats when he called and said it wasnt from him. (OMG). i felt like i would die. anyways. he asked me not to be too nice because people take that for granted and asked me not to trust people easily. He asked when i would go visit his town and i was like i am not sure and he told me he would let me knw when he was coming to mine. He never mentioned anything about what i wrote in the mail(i had written how much i loved him and that i wanted to take things slow and also that i was sorry about mentioning abt my ex and it wasn't that i was tryna make him jealous or sth)
So now he knows how i feel but i still dont know. I was on NC for 3 weeks and then sent a msg and told him i thought of him and wished him a gdnite. he sent a message next day asked what my plans were and told me he would be coming to my town but stll wasnt sure but he would confirm the next day. So he doesn't and i sent msg asking where he was. He replied later and said he was at the center but he had to get going back soon.
So i asked him where exactly he was he was so at least we could say hi and even offered him to stay over at my place for the weekend and he replied after an hour saying he had to go back since he had to be somewhere the next day.
So i call him ask if he really had to go and he said he promised "a girl" then i was like ok. have agreat time then. just as i was hanging up. he asked whats new in ur life. i was like nothing same old me. and he was like i will call u back in a few. so i was like ok. he calls back but my friend answers and said i was in the bathroom. asks her to ask me to call him back. she didnt . so he text me and ask me to call him back, i reply after an hr. when i saw the text and said. i was already asleep and would talk to him the next day. so we actually never met.
I try calling him next day and hes on voicemail. i sent msg ask him to call me back. he doesnt so the next day i call like 3times and no answer but later answers. he asks abt my weekend.i ask about his. asks about how work is. and all. and then we talk about his game.then after he says he has to go and eat.
next day i sent him message telling him something about what we talked about our game . and ask him to let me know if he would be coming. no reply. It has been almost 6months when this hot cold thing has been happening. i love him and i told him so. i dont know if he feels the same. and why ask me about my plans if you wont show up and meet me?
I am confused. what should i do?
does he just want friendship or more or doesn't want anything to do with me? is he just playing with my feelings?
thanks in advance
hes: april 25
me: february 14
aquariusgirl, I feel he is being manipulative and playing games. As a straightforward, honest Aquarius, you only say you love someone when you mean it. In my reading, I see him as not being over one of his exes, which would explain his being paranoid about the possibility of you not being over yours. Taurus tends to hold on to things from the past way too long, and this is very different from Aquarians, who tend to look to the future more.
I have a feeling he has not forgiven those who have hurt him in the past, and that forgiveness is not a strong trait of his in general. (He probably was still upset/angry with you, although it wasn't your fault, because of your friend's texts, which is why I believe he sent those e-mails which he denied were from him). I would advise not contacting him any more, no calls, texts, or e-mails, etc. unless he deliberately contacts you. He has made it clear that he is inconsistent by not answering your calls. If I were you, I would cease to speak to him altogether, but I understand that that's hard to do when you really care about someone. (Also, on another subject, I would seriously question your friend's trustworthiness. I know that'll be hard for you because you are an Aquarius, the sign that values friendship more than any other sign, but her behavior is very questionable, to say the least).
Good luck, and best wishes. By the way, keep your eyes out for a Gemini guy coming along in your near future, and he is a potential match.
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One thing you should know about earth signs in general is the need to take things slow and get to know someone. I have to be honest any guy who mentioned love to me after knowing me only a few months AND long distance, would probably have me running for the nearest exit. Too much too soon IMO. That aside, im sorry to say this (I apologize in advance if this is too blunt) but your taurus isn't sending mixed signals at all. He (at the moment at least) wants friendship only, according to your post he has told you this several times. The best thing for you to do is to let him be, I promise you if he's interested in you romantically he will let you know in no uncertain terms. Every taurus I've ever known has gone after what they really wanted. My ex taurus saw me at a party briefly, didn't even know my name but managed to find me through a friend of a friend of a friend. My point is if he decides he wants to come after you he will , step back, be patient.
Lastly, if someone is really interested I assure you talking about your ex 3 times wont suddenly make them uninterested. I hope this works out for you : )
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