Captain, please ground me.



  • Hello Captain,

    I feel my thoughts are spiralling out of control and I could do with the help of someone who can give it to me straight 🙂

    My thoughts are mostly about my ex and my spiritual journey. While they are all positive, I know things are out of my hands right now and I need to be patient, let things play out and enjoy the now. But I can't quite put that into focus, if that makes sense.

    Thank you Captain



  • So why are you more focused on your ex than yourself and your own life? Is one a dream and the other too hard reality?



  • No, not too hard a reality. I am actually quite hopeful about the future. But there are days where I focus on that hope and on the future, which can't be right. Tend to get myself into a rut, get impatient.

    Or am I just worrying about nothing? Again.



  • All anyone can do is take each day one step at a time. Worrying about what MIGHT happen is futile. Deal with the present moment - it's really all you have.

    What is it you want to be doing with your life?



  • I want to heal others. Specifically through counselling and psychology.



  • So this is what you are studying for?



  • I will be. Starting in September/October with an Introductory course. It leads on to a more in depth course with work placement in the second and third years. I did want to skip straight to the 3 year course, but they won't allow it.

    I should speak with them again. The introductory course is only 15 weeks long, but if I pass I may have to wait until October 2012 to start the Higher National course.



  • You know of course you can be a healer just by listening to people's stories, sharing your own experiences, and showing an interest in their lives. You don't need a course to do that.



  • It's good for you to get out of your own head and away from your fantasies and depressive thoughts for a while. Expand your viewpoint by getting more involved with others.



  • Thank you Captain. I've found myself socialising a lot more this year - more than usual for me that is. Still not enough, I know. Need to pick up the pace.



  • I meant to say; the social interaction has had a tremendous effect on me. Here's to more of that!



  • Yes, many people make the mistake of thinking that they need to acquire confidence and self-esteem and courage BEFORE they interact with others, not realising that is what you get FROM interacting with others. By focusing on others, we lose the self-absorption that can cause our problems to swell out of all proportion. When we interact with others, we observe their lives and realise that our own circumstances are not so bad.



  • So true. I felt bad, downright miserable, about my relationship ending after 12 years. I went out to dinner with some good friends, one of which is going through a divorce after 24 years of marriage.

    Not only does it put things into perspective, but his attitude and approach to it was refreshing and empowering.


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