Sometimes I wish i could do more
Of late a lot of my close friends have confided in me about their personal problems. Some of which has been very upsetting to hear but I cant imagine what it must be like going through it. All I want to do is help but sometimes I feel useless. I think also on some subconscious level that what they tell me effects me also. I hate that the people I know and love are going through really difficult times and all I can do is just look on. Im not looking for answers I just like writing on this forum and getting things off my chest.
Oh i know that feeling all too well. Its a tough balance to learn n set to use.
It has a name. Containing. It basically mean one contains what is said n entrusted without it getting under ur skins. It doesnt get ur issues.
Its tough bc it is a thin line from either "knock it off", "cry at someone elses", " i dont give a hoot" or "u feel all they feel n experience the same, u allow soaking their projection issues."
person1 emotions issues => you listener( your container showing understanding)
person 1 emotions issues => you listener getting fed up fight ensues loss of friendship
person1 emotions issues => you listener soak it all up which is projected, u deal with it n she he walks as if nada happened to them
person 1 emotions issues => you listener winds up making the situation n issues all about u n person 1 is left unheard uncared misunderstood.
all these has a very thin fine fragile line between them
so darling AW86 pat urself on ur shoulder. U did the best of jobs, u contained n only contained.
Give urself a gift for a job well done. I know i am.
love n light
Thank you for replying to this CWB..you hit the nail on the head so you did.