Love Or Infatuation


    Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows--one day at a time.

    Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

    Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you-- to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not seperate you. You want him nearer. But near or far, you know that he is yours and you can wait.

    Infatuation says, " we must get married right away. I can't risk losing him".

    Love says, "be patient. Don't panic. He is yours. Plan your future with confidence".

    Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you will admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end in intimacy. Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

    Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's cheating. Sometimes you even check.

    Love means to trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels that trust, and it makes him even more trustworthy.

    Infatuation might lead you to do things you'll regret later, but love never will.

    Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before.

    I just wanted to share this as it has been important in keeping me on the right track or sane. lol

    Love & Light D

  • good post darya.

    I completely agree. It is easier when love comes in maturity though to be friends as well as lovers. Often both have been through the mill with previous relationships.

    The secret is to let the past be in the past and live in the now.

    Verdana 🙂

  • Love this and completey agree!

  • This is completely right! I agree looking back at my last girlfriend. It had degenerated into infatuation because I knew that I was most likely going to have sex every time we were together. I realized this about a month ago and we have since broken up but it was hard because I'm an Aries and we all know how us Aries love the bedroom.

    Very good post and one that I agree with 🙂

  • just lovely~ thank you for posting this

  • I just realized I have been infatuated with a man thought I loved for 4 years.

    My mind, heart and soul needed these words of wisdom.

    thank you my friend for saving my sanity


  • oh yeh, the bedroom, I feel ya, went through a phase where I got 2 to 3 hrs sleep...that phase went for a year and made me very sick in the end...BUT i bounced back better than ever and am always ready to go again lol....far out we aries are dumb asses sometimes

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