@OJ I was just looking here. My boyfriend is a cancer. But I think it seems like this guy you have been seeing, maybe he is insecure and not sure about how serious he wants to get in the relationship? My boyfriend isnt hot and cold with his feelings. But when he wants to do some work he wants a little space so he can work on a project. Which I do things for myself then or hang out with my kiddos. But we still talk and hang out. Cause we live together. When he is done with his work then we reward ourselves with a movie or dinner, like a date night. I am sorry I feel like I am rambling...Good luck with it all. I hope you can figure out where to go. I saw you wrote a letter too. That's good cause that will help you to organize your thoughts. Good luck with everything:)