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I am back only because you bumped @TheCaptain
I totally agree with what you and @watergirl18 said. Maybe it was one of those advices which a part of me knew but still wanted to hear it over and over again from other people.
We spoke 2 weekends ago.He had come home for the weekend after months and he called me Saturday night.Again,I didn't text or call.He called me of his own and we spoke for usual 40 min. It was bland and again I was the one doing 75% of the talking as anything I ask him,his reply is a monosyllable of "yes""hmm""nothing". I was feeling very emotionally low that night and I texted him the next day Sunday morning telling him that as I have always been very transparent to him.He was out with his friends but he called me hours later of his own. He was out with his friends even when he called.I asked him what did he do yesterday and today and he said "nothing". That got me mad and i told him he is out enjoying with his friends so that's not 'nothing. He said that's nothing for him.It really pricked me why is he being so secretive and distant yet calling me to talk.I told him it's been 2 years since we have done anything together so I told him let's do something together to spend a good time once he reaches home ,like.play a game,watch a movie or just have a deep talk.He said he wants to spend time with his family and has some work to finish. That got me mad.I am a highly considerate and understanding person but the fact that he never spent quality time with me doing something in these 2 years is what hit me bad that moment. Also the fact that he is enjoying outing with his friends but has no time for us is what hit me.He said "i call you and we talk.That's basic and simple and simple is good". So i got mad and told him "sure,please go enjoy.Bye" and we ended the call.Just a minute later he texted saying "i really would like to spend some time with family as I am home after many months and have some work to finish so please dont mind".I just replied an okay and that's it.Then he left for work the following day.
Then he had 3 days holiday this past weekend,from Friday through Sunday. I saw him spend an hour on facebook being online in few intervals throughout the day but he didnt text or call. Then again he was online on fb for an hour on Saturday night and so was I.After an hour he texted me at sharp midnight asking "how are you? and what am you upto". I replied in his tone with just a monosyllable of "good and nothing".He funnily said "good to see you copy me " and i replied in his sarcastic laugh tone and that was it. I am damn sure he knows I am mad at him but he didn't call me or text to cheer me up.He always does when i get mad at him so it really surprised me he didn't.
Now,I got a little too childish and posted a quote on my whatsapp status saying "Goodbye stranger it was nice.Hope you find your paradise"Of course I had the privacy settings applied where only he could read it and not the rest of the world..He read it but no reaction.I felt very stupid for having done that after I was emotionally normal again.
I am trying to move on from him now.I have deleted his phone number so that I dont feel tempted to call him. If he isn't willing to make efforts then I am done here.
