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You will probably not be surprised to learn that this is a meant to be more of a learning and conscious-raising relationship than a true romantic one. It can be very unrealistic. You are total opposites and, while this can energize your relationship, it can also push it beyond reasonable limits. The danger here lies in getting swept up by inflammatory desires. In a love affair or even just a friendship, feelings may go far beyond realistic boundaries. You can get very swept away by dreams and fantasies and not see what your partner is really like. Learning to be a bit more realistic about what you have in front of you and not what is in your head and hopes may be impossible, and in fact you may only learn how far off your perceptions were through hindsight. It is not so much the relationship itself that is lacking here than your objective assessment of it. Your friend can have a tendency to live vicariously through his partner, but it is important for him to make sure that his own deeds get the recognition they deserve. Intelligent and perceptive, he can make a loyal and passionate partner but he can at times be inconsistent and careless when it comes to the feelings of other people. Unless the two of you can find things in common to share, the relationship will be short-lived. But go ahead and contact him - he is likely seeing your lack of contact as lack of interest.
